custody

[marinemike]

i just want a simple answer,Can my ex stop me seeing my child?

Stitched... I'm guessing he means someone who agrees with him. He's come on here fishing for advice on how to gain custody of a four week old because the mother didn't want him to take the baby away alone for an "overnight".

Oh believe me OP, I agree with everyone else here!

No way on earth would I have left a newborn baby with anyone at two weeks old. They have a physical NEED to be with their mother at that age. Which I don't think you are comprehending at all.

@marinemike sounds like you are really wound up and venting to me.

I dont have any advice that people havent already given but it must be awful to have a newborn and suddenly be banned from any contact with her, must be a scary situation to be in.

If there really is no reason why she has cut you out of your newborns life other than the fact you have split up and refuse any relations with her then its absolutely vile, how someone can do that to a person i dont know.

OP.
Was she specifically asking you to stay over to have sex or so that you could spend a night doing the 'parenting' of your child while she was still around?

You really thought she was going to say yes to her child being away for a whole night. Yes she is the main carer at this stage. It's biology.
Dont request overnight in court. Just build up visits.

Gosh I was in on the first page talking about being calm and speaking to a solicitor.

But I didn't realise you wanted overnights with a two week old baby! Now four weeks old. Never going to be in the baby's interests.

Stay over at her house and sleep with her, is what she said.

And your right it maybe biology, but men don't get a say in It Mother nature made sure of that.

Condoms are a wonderful thing if you want to control where your essence goes OP.

men don't get a say in It Mother nature made sure of that.

Why did you separate
You've just had a baby, does she want you back but you don't want to go back?
I know you think you can vent on here, but you have to understand that you come across as aggressive and angry, so people will jump to conclusions wrongly or rightly

You need to take a deep breath, look at your WHOLE life and your child's WHOLE life and decide if behaving the way you are is in their best interests

For all we know your exdp might be a complete nightmare, or someone who is scared. We just don't know because you are not being CLEAR AND CONCISE

Worried Rose we didn't split until she stopped me seeing my child. We've been together for 18 months.

men don't get a say in It Mother nature made sure of that.

And the baby should never be punished for that.**
The baby does not even know it’s born.** Have you read about the 4th trimester?

A paternal relationship is very very important.* But right now the baby’s needs are paramount and unfortunately she doesn’t know nor care who you are or what you want.*

She wants the person who’s heart she’s heard beat for her whole existence.* Who’s smell is imprinted on her brain and who’s voice brings her more comfort than hours of rocking ever could.*

It’s great you want to be an active father.* But remove your wants. Remove your Ex’s actions and focus on what is best for a baby.*

Women have to do this a lot.* There is a lot of BS that we put up with for the good of those tiny life suckers. So having the uterus is not sunshine and rainbows.*

I don’t know why there is so much bold 🤦‍♂️

So you we're together but not living together- what was the problem with staying overnight then?

Were not we're - bloody autocorrect

Ok so if I summarise

You were together
She gave birth, everything was ok, you spent your time together even though she was back at her parents. (Were you living together initially?)
You wanted to spend a night with your other child, and be away from mum and baby? I presume you hadn't seen your other child in a while
She cut you off at that point? No explanation?
I'm not making any judgments, I am just trying to clear up the facts

No we Were together, but as I didn't want to sleep with her at here house, she stopped me seeing Our child, so we are no longer together.

Worriedrose no it's almost correct, I wanted the night just me and baby not with her, as we had been a part since baby was born because was sleeping on sofa at her parents house.

Ok
So you don't have a place together?

No I had my place she had here's, as we'd only been together 18 months and I have a son, no room for him at her house

Yeah your right gamer chick, maybe your parents should have used them

Aw right in the feels man

You can use condoms in a relationship, there are no laws that say otherwise. Especially if you’re so hung up on your rights of where it goes.

Gamer chick why would we use commons when we Planned to have a baby?

Ok
You need to sit down and really think about this.
She's just given birth, she's staying with her parents. (Is this permanent or was she staying there just for support after birth)

As you were together then I would logically think that sleeping on the sofa for a bit is not horrendously bad, not great but not bad. And you should be thinking about a more permanent situation for you both.

Even if the baby is bottle fed, it's highly unlikely that any new mother is going to feel ok with the baby out of their home on their own, it's probably nothing to do with you being with the baby alone. Just the baby being away.

I think you need to all calm down a bit, take some deep breaths and arrange a mutual sitiuation. You're sleeping on the sofa, however horrid it is, is only temporary.

Did you not discuss what would happen when the baby was born ?