custody

[marinemike]

i just want a simple answer,Can my ex stop me seeing my child?

OUR not my child is 4 weeks old,REEBOOT,and Blackteaseplease,i fully understand that but if not sure ask before diving in,i may be a man but i am a human and a father that actully want ot konw his child unlike the millions of guys out there that dont that give us a bad name.

AdalindSchade baby born 13/9/17 , birth certificate done 21/9/17.so get of your high horse.

Omg marinemike you get off yours you absolute dingbat I was just making an observation - would have been happy to help you with advice since I know lots about family court proceedings but actually I'm going to leave you to it. Bore off and pay for legal advice like everybody else has to

I thought you wanted advice?

yeah i Did want avice but several people ALREADY jumping to CONLUSIONS,

Because you didn't give all the information in your opening post. We don't know what you know, only what you tell us.

Christ, Adalind was perfectly polite and helpful to you. The baby is 4 weeks old and despite your thread being called custody for some reason, your contact at this point is likely to be limited and with the involvement and facilitation of the mother.

If you have an 11 yr old then surely you'll be well versed in the money side of things since you're already paying for one already.

well all you had to do was ask, i came here looking for friendly parently advice,i could have quite easily gone to some of the Male sites but most on there are Anti women, and are too angry.

That was so rude!
Many people haven't registered their baby by 4 weeks.
Why were you so rude?

gamerchick , why not ask if that child lives with me? as you assume he doesnt,and no im not verse to it that why i came here.

Why have you namechecked me? I only asked a couple of questions. They werent judgemental.

Being on the birth certificate means that it should be easier to get contact as you will be recognised as your childs father.

It's your job to provide all facts that you want help with, not our job to ask. If you're not clear then you will get assumptions and probably not the help you need.

Why don't you start again.

And your use of language makes you appear entitled and aggressive.
People can only go off what YOU put on the screen.
As is, you have been denied access to her home to "see" the child. At four weeks post partum most women would refuse mediation, because they're still recovering from giving birth.

Ellisandra my first and second child both registed with 4 weeks of birth,and if it sounded rude im sorry, but people shouldnt jump to conclusion with knowing the fact, and if fact not there jsut ask.

Maybe instead of expecting posters to ask you lots of questions you could have outlined the basics in your OP. You know, age of child, have PR etc.

Ok what is the full reason not the little bit you've told us that this woman has banned you from seeing your child?

ok to start agian,IM 44 my ex is 22,,i ahve an 11 year old son,and jsut had a 4 week old baby,My ex has her house i have mine, shes been staying at her parents since the birth as I work, I was with her and child every minute is was not at work, she was going abck to her own house and we were going to start staying there,I Wanted a night alone wiht my daughter and jsut becuse i didnt want to spend the nigt with ex she stopped me seeing OUR child.
so i went to mediation and shes refused to go they are sendiong court papers tomorrow, so i came on her for advies and help.

This site is shockingly misandrist. A guy comes on asking for advice on how to get contact with his newborn son. As far as we know his partner just randomly decided for him not to have contact two weeks after bury. And all the replies are about maintenance.

As people have said it is not ‘pay per view’ but they are then speaking as if it is. The baby has a right to his father in his life separately from the maintenance issue.

OP, you need proper legal advice. You do have rights and you need to assert them.

oh and just so you know day before all this kicked off EX asked me if I were ever goin to Marry her.

thanks Larrygrylls,i noticed the money issues ,but i can understand most of them comments as most if not all females on here are here becuse i think guys have walked away, and so i think they are anti guy.
but lets not get into an argument with them about it, the world its to small for that.,a nd we have enough of our own troubles.

Geez, Mike, settle down.

Realize that you haven't given a whole lot of info to go on and brief no info posts are often regarded with suspicion and/or 'fill in the blanks'. Are you and the new baby's mum married? Is your name on the BC?

I'm assuming that your 11 year old has a different mum. You should be at least a little bit aware of how shared parenting works, because you would have gone through some type of process when you separated from that child's mum regardless of who that child lives with.

Absent a court order the parent with whom the child is living holds all the cards. You cannot force the mother to let you see the child without a court order. Unless there is a good reason, it's unfortunate, but there it is. The reverse is true also, if the child were with you, you wouldn't have to let the mum see her, either although I'm certain you would never be that vindictive. Absent a court order possession really is 9/10ths of the law.

You really need to see a solicitor. Nothing else will do.

Ok of I summon up my daughter who is 22 and can be a little immature when it comes to relationships this immaturity and hormones and tiredness setting in I would imagine to be standard.

You need to go down the legal route and try and keep calm through it all.

AcrossthePond55 not married nad yes im on birth certificate,Ps TO ALL ,im off for run now so will check in when get back.

You want to mediate and go to court with someone who gave birth 4 weeks ago? You didn't need to pay maintenance before (2 weeks ago?) because things were okay, but now you don't know how to pay. All kinds of wrong.