Went on a date and I'm not sure if he likes me?

[gaynor83]

We have been communicating for quite a while via Facebook and decided to meet.
I went to visit him and meet for drinks. We seemed to get along really well and the conversation flowed.we did kiss and there seemed to be an attraction. He suggested that we spend the following day together too. We ended up having a nice day, he cooked for me. When I left we hugged and it was slightly awkward I wasn't sure what to do. But it seemed ok.
When I got home I texted to say thank you for the date and I had a good time.
His reply came this morning, he said "Glad you had a good time and got back safely. I am knackered too. You are welcome and were a good guest. Glad we met x
What do you make of that?
I'm not sure if he is keen or not and it seems not to need a response. ?

His reply to me actually said " Sounds good. I love a bit of reciprocation 😂. I may be busy next couple of weekends as it is my birthday and a few other things, but we can sort the detail out in due course x " he sent the same text twice at different times too.
To which I replied " well let me know when you're free and we can sort something.."and I mentioned something that's going on in my area next month.
I haven't heard back as yet though. I will obviously leave it now and just see what happens.
I've chilled a bit now about it. What will be, will be. I hope I didn't appear desperate though 😞 I guess if someone does actually like you it doesn't matter what you say. If they don't, well it doesn't matter either I guess.

He doesn't sound very keen to me, but I think he sounds like he's hard to read anyway?

If it's his birthday surely he will celebrating. Why would he not include you in that? That would be a natural response IMO to someone you like.....maybe I'm wrong........

Good reply gaynor. The ball is in his court.

What I don't like about it is when you meet someone you've been talking to regularly in the virtual world, and when you meet them, it goes really well and you get excited about it, you normally feel an urge to try to see them soon enough. If distance/other restrictions get in the way, you at least try to suggest a date/make plans.

Here, he is taking his time to respond, use a bit of humour, and then goes straight into how he can't meet soon and then finish with very uncommitted words and one friendly kiss.

You know him better than us, maybe he is one of those very slow people who do passionate at all, but these could also be the words of someone too 'nice' to just ignore you and is just hoping that by not committing himself to any plan, time will make the relationship fizzle on its own.

Hmm I thought of that too. Oh well. Not a lot to be done I suppose.

He sounds really keen!!!

Sorry op. I wouldnt bother meeting up with him again personally.

Just felt really confident that it had gone well at the time. That's why I came on here cos it was confusing.
Guess we weren't on the same page at all. It just knocks your confidence I suppose.

Don't meet up again. You'll end up sleeping together, and if you don't hear from him for ages again (which I predict) you'll feel like absolute shite.
Find someone who can't wait to see you very soon.

I agree with nettletheelf.

I've just got rid of one who managed to initiate contact twice since our last date two weeks ago. Life is too short to be sitting around waiting for a flipping text (been there, done that, not wasting any more of my life on it).

When you meet the right person, it won't be this hard.

Please, do some work on your self confidence before you meet anyone else. Honestly, you'll save yourself all of this torture.

Been following with interest. How are things going OK? Have you spoken again since?

I second Bifs posts. I would work in yourself much more before dating.
IME when feeling so unsure of yourself, it's easy to end up in crap relationships.

I went through an awful lot of this during my dating years. Analysing texts, wondering how and what to reply. It was exhausting. When I met my now dh, all of that went out of the window. He called when he said he would, his texts were very clear, we saw each other all the time. It was just so easy. And that’s when you know.

If you need 8 pages of mn analysis, then it’s not right.....

Yeah that's right I guess. It wouldn't be so hard if it was right.
No we've not spoken anymore.

Fuck him off. If you've not heard from him he'll just use you as a back up!

You'll meet someone worth it OP

Don't waste anymore time on him xx