Went on a date and I'm not sure if he likes me?

[gaynor83]

We have been communicating for quite a while via Facebook and decided to meet.
I went to visit him and meet for drinks. We seemed to get along really well and the conversation flowed.we did kiss and there seemed to be an attraction. He suggested that we spend the following day together too. We ended up having a nice day, he cooked for me. When I left we hugged and it was slightly awkward I wasn't sure what to do. But it seemed ok.
When I got home I texted to say thank you for the date and I had a good time.
His reply came this morning, he said "Glad you had a good time and got back safely. I am knackered too. You are welcome and were a good guest. Glad we met x
What do you make of that?
I'm not sure if he is keen or not and it seems not to need a response. ?

Thanks for all your support and kind words. It is hard. Just feels bad cos it's like the second time I've had such an experience lately and it's just hard to take. Like there is something about me puts people off. I don't know why.
I just don't think it will be easy to chat to him again, simply because we met and it's now spoiled.
We have literally been chatting for a year or so so it's hard to forget . The reason we didn't meet for so long was living far away and he had a gf in the interim.

Op I know everyone is trying to stay positive but his response is lazy. People show you they are from the get go. No matter what his response is how he will always be. Having boundaries in place puts us in a stronger position. I'm not saying he's a lazy guy, just lazy in response. You shouldn't have to chase. You are the prize lovely lady, remember that!

There is nothing wrong with you I promise. Dating is so random that the chances of meeting someone and both feeling the same way are probably 1/10 at best. So you’ve had 2 they didn’t work out. Try 8 more before you give up on dating. Move on to the next one without a backward glance.
The less meaning you attribute to each date the more resilient you will become.

(Ps I met my lovely DP of 8 years Online. He was my 3rd date - the first two were appalling!)

'The less meaning you attribute to each date the more resilient you will become'
Yes this is true.
Absolutely nothing wrong with you! Like I said you are the prize!

For god sake dont message him again. You've responded nicely with something he can follow up on. You messaging again looks desperate and won't make him suddenly want you. It'll make you look too keen and he will back away even more

Look, this stuff happens all the time. He's not right for you. The next man might be. Don't be defined by a couple of dates with one man where it didn't come to anything. After all, did he do it for you?! You don't exactly seem like you're really excited about him, more focussed on your own self esteem and how you want him to want you

Gather that self esteem up and chalk it up to experience

We have literally been chatting for a year or so so it's hard to forget . The reason we didn't meet for so long was living far away and he had a gf in the interim.

Does he live close to you now?

Do not message him again!

You text him yesterday and so the ball is now in his court. Honestly? He hasn't replied in 24 hours which to me says he's probably no longer interested. But ya know what... that's totally okay!!! It just means he's not the right one for you. It isn't a reflection of you, don't take it personally.

Stop overthinking all this. Carry on with your normal life, if he gets in touch see how you feel, if he doesn't, so what? It's been 2 dates.

No, he doesn't live closer. I made the trip to see him. He's about 40 miles away.we had a big build up to meeting, he said he was excited and honoured that I was coming etc. I stayed at his house. I was meant to stay in a hotel but ended up with him.he said he was excited that an exciting person was laying next to him. I didn't go further than kissing though...just seemed like he was really enjoying it all and then it's come to this.
I guess I won't contact him. I don't exactly have dates lined up, I don't use OD found it too meaningless. And not getting out much lately anyway.

Are you the poster who arranged to stay with a guy at his place the first time you met and everybody was saying, don't do it, meet for a daytime coffee and just drive home?

Don't delete him! He still might get in touch. I wouldn't message him again now though - the ball is in his court

Yes...i did arrange a room though. Didn't stay in it though. Although he was very respectful and nothing happened sexually.

He just messaged to say he would be up for some reciprocation in due course :)
Just thought I would tell you all

Brilliant! Delighted for you!!!

In due course..... He sounds rather cold.

It was quite a warm message I think it's ok. Will not jump too fast of course. But I think he sounds promising

It's tricky to interpret the tone over text. It does sound a bit vague and non committal, but equally could be a playful response to Op's text...

When's due course??

Jesus this would drain the shit out of me.

You - 'Had a great time this weekend, fancy a drink and cooked meal at mine next weekend'

Him - 'yeah sounds great'

Was all that was needed

Yay! Glad he texted it’s a bloody minefield all this when to text etc

He said it's his birthday and he has a few things on...but his previous texts were similar so I'm not worrying too much. At least he replied. I need to step back and stop over thinking anyway.
Will suggest something at a later date maybe.

IN DUE COURSE??

You are worth more than that. But good luck, and remember, sow many seeds.

Ah this won't pan out

Why did you stay in bed with him the first night you met him? I make no judgements by the way but you want a relationship and this is what's causing all your doubts

Just step back a bit

That’s great news. I thought he would 😁

'in due course'?!?!
I'd be thinking he was carrying out bloody auditions and having to wait to see if I'd made it to the next round.

Hmm I know. Think it maybe his style of texting. I'm not sure. Will just play it by ear.