Went on a date and I'm not sure if he likes me?

[gaynor83]

We have been communicating for quite a while via Facebook and decided to meet.
I went to visit him and meet for drinks. We seemed to get along really well and the conversation flowed.we did kiss and there seemed to be an attraction. He suggested that we spend the following day together too. We ended up having a nice day, he cooked for me. When I left we hugged and it was slightly awkward I wasn't sure what to do. But it seemed ok.
When I got home I texted to say thank you for the date and I had a good time.
His reply came this morning, he said "Glad you had a good time and got back safely. I am knackered too. You are welcome and were a good guest. Glad we met x
What do you make of that?
I'm not sure if he is keen or not and it seems not to need a response. ?

The reference to being knackered is interesting. It sounds like it was too much too soon (even though he suggested the second date!) or possibly that he put in a lot of effort and didn't get a shag. In your situation, I'd delete his number. If he wants to see you again, he'll contact you.

I just texted said me too, maybe I'll reciprocate sometime. Thought it light and at least a response. Oh well

Keep us posted OP!

He's not interested. 99% of the time, if someone is interested you know. It's the 1% of cases where there's some extenuating reason for being a bit lukewarm, sorry. It's for the best you know now, rather than getting hurt a year down the line by someone who's on the fence about you!

I hope he replies.

I'm not sure why you would base your opinion on analysis of a text over the impression he gave in person over a significant number of hours. Has he replied??

Let us know if he replies!!

Hope he replies!!!

Exhausting reading this. Can't imagine why you didn't just ask him out.

Maybe ?? I'd be be a bit if some one said that to me.

Should have just been straight

No he hasn't replied as yet 😐

Aah well, that's your answer really ☹️

Not necessarily. Didn't OP wait 12 hours to reply to his text? Maybe he's doing the same

He does seem to take a day or so usually anyway. Guess I will just have to wait and see.
Feel like I have just totally misread the situation 😟

I bet he's just trying to play it cool. Let us know when he replies!

Perhaps update your Facebook status to
“ gaynor has had a wonderful weekend “

Let him make what he wants from it

Your date gets full marks from me by saying he's glad you got home safely.

IME DH would say and write the same sort of things as your guy when we first met. I think your date likes you and wants to see you again.

Gaynor, I don't think you misread the situation at all. Surely single men don't ask single women over to spend the day and kiss them, unless they have some attraction to them? I would have felt the same as you.

Keep us updated OP, atleast you'll have an answer either way

Thanks. I do hope you're right. He seemed like a really nice guy. It's just the "glad we met" I thought sounded a bit off.
He did seem to genuinely want me to stay during the day. I'm just second guessing myself. I get quite bad anxiety about things anyway which doesn't help.

My now dh was the same at the start - quite vaque for at least a couple of months text wise... I think it could go either way yet.

It would totally put me off if a bloke took a day or two to message back. People look at their phones multiple times a day. It smacks of not being important enough or playing games.

Well I sent him this "Yes me too. Hope you got some rest. I will have to reciprocate sometime :) x" last night, and he still hasn't responded. I think it did invite a response of some kind. I guess I didn't live up to his expectations.

It sucks when you leave a date excited to see them again and they don't seem to feel the same. It honestly doesn't mean you did or said anything wrong. I've had a few dates that were lovely, seemed to get on like a house on fire and have a great time but the entire time I've been thinking I just see them as a friend, but from their perspective they probably think our good time meant I fancied them. You can have a great date meeting someone new and having fun without it turning into more so try not to second guess the date. He could have got home and realised he's too busy for a relationship, that it's finally time to come out as gay, that he isn't over his ex, that he didn't feel the spark, any number of things. It doesn't matter why, all that matters is you know where you stand and everyone's honest.

He doesn't seem like a good writer, or communicator via text, perhaps.

You say he is really nice, but writing "You were a good guest" sounds like what a slightly condescending parent says to someone else's 8-year-old. On this evidence, I think that you can't give him credit for much subtlety, so his "Glad we met" might be someone else's: "I am so glad that I met you".