Nagged for sex

[ohshiz]

I just don't want it. No interest right now. Why won't he just piss off and accept it. It's only been 4/5 weeks. You'd think the bloke was a raging teenage virgin by the way he's acting.

OP this is a very sad story :( Your last post explains it. My main point would be that, without exception (IMHO), your sex life HAS to start with yourself. Everyone should, at some stage in their life, discover their own sexual needs, wants, preferences, red lines, fantasies & everything else before those can be shared with someone else - if you don't, you risk letting someone else impose their idea of what sex is on you. Agree with everyone else that this sounds miserable for you both, and is not healthy. Do you accept that every time you fake an orgasm with him, you are lying to him? It sounds like you still need to revisit what happened in your past to see if you're able to have a healthy relationship with sexual feelings/desire, if not that's fine of course but something your OH must be onboard with too. Wish you lots of luck & hope you can get the help you need to dig into this, maybe sex therapy worth revisiting? If the asexual 'diagnosis' is definitely not the right one it sounds like it's worth exploring, before it's too late.

I'm so sorry for what you have been through.

It's now understandable that you want a relationship, but you don't want sex. Do you think therapy helped you? Of course therapy shouldn't be contingent on regaining libido, what you have said now, isn't really about your libido. It's about trauma and unresolved feelings. Would you benefit from more therapy?

What is really disturbing is that despite knowing your history he continues to put pressure on you. That's not ok. In fact that paints him as something I don't even want to name!

PS. *KeyChange please don't give up on sex! It just sounds like your ex-P was shit at sex I'm afraid! (didn't listen, didn't take time to find out what you wanted, refused to change..) Not all men are like that!!

See there's more to it then what was originally posted and obviously this is very difficult for you. There's a bigger picture here to what is really going on.
No matter what I hope that you can move on from this and be happy!
Your husband really needs to understand why you feel the way you do.
Maybe a bit of time apart and some time for yourself will help you!
Good luck!

You mention it's your house, may be he doesn't want to go because he has nowhere to go.

I was about to write earlier that in reality you are abusing each other in term of him demanding sex and you also withholding it. My post didn't load. Then I just read your additional information re your experience when you were younger.

I think at the very least you need some help to discuss the impact of this, his feelings and yours and if it is possible and worth salvaging. And feasible in terms of its long term sustainability.

You sound so resigned to being miserable and a malfunctioning intimate relationship and that's not what life should be about.

Sex aside you need to decide if you love him and if you want to explore resolving this in a mutually beneficial and tolerable way. Or not. Perhaps then you'll start to have some answers.

Good luck

You either leave then or tolerate the nagging, eventually one of you will tire and leave though. Your relationship sounds unhealthy and I wonder if the kids will pick up on it eventually.

The sun has picked this up. Lazy journalism!

Just looked, truly vampiric.

Just looked, truly vampiric.

ohshiz you need to leave and take some time to deal with these unresolved issues that are still getting the way of living a fully happy life. You need to take time to discover who you are. Be kind to him and to yourself and LTB.

Change the locks.

So disgusted with the Sun, moronic heartless bunch of bastards.

Of course The S*n did not print all the story
How unsurprising