Nagged for sex

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I just don't want it. No interest right now. Why won't he just piss off and accept it. It's only been 4/5 weeks. You'd think the bloke was a raging teenage virgin by the way he's acting.

To you maybe. For a lot of people it is.

Have you explained to him that it feels like nagging and how it makes you feel? And maybe suggest better ways for both of you? A lot of mine and DPs problem was miscommunication

It's the intimacy that makes your relationship more than just a friendship

I agree with this

Sex is not part of every relationship no.

But it's generally accepted that it is the defining feature of a romantic partnership... That's why one tends to have children with ones romantic partner... Cos, you know, the assumption is that you're fucking regularly...

Your attitude and ideas are bizarre, you also sound like you have no empathy

You sound like you don't like him.

The kids will be picking up on this.

I hope you both find happiness elsewhere.

You sound so uncaring; as though your dh has no right to his needs or opinions.
This will only end one way unless something changes.

If you don't want it, you don't want it, you're fully entitled to that. But holding hands isn't really on the same scale as sex though, is it?

Do you feel sexual attraction to anyone else/enjoy masturbating?

I think you need to have empathy for him, and understand that sex matters to him even though it doesn't to you. If you love someone you want them to be happy and I think it sounds like you would both be happier not together.

I think jeaux makes some great points.

A non sexual relationship can work if you both want that but, he doesn't. What's in this for him?

OP surely you know/can tell from everyone's responses that sex is a big part of marriage/relationships. It's not just sex (sometimes it can be) it's much more and helps two people form a bond and connect on another level.

I agree nagging is not attractive but he deserves sex more often than how long you are saying it's been. Make time for him, book a monthly romantic evening, or whatever and make time for each other. Surely you can see if it carries on this way he may stray or your relationship may break down as a result of the lack of sex.

I agree with jeaux, sexless marriages can work but only if both partners are on the same page- your partner however is not.

You are naive if you believe that your partner should continually accept the lack of sex unless by mutual agreement.

Not normal at all for sex to be absent. Only acceptable if both parties agree (celibacy or open relationship).
I feel so sorry for your OH. Let him go so that he can find someone who wants to shag him. Divorce.

So if he had an affair how would you feel then???

It doesnt sound like you like him much

It doesnt sound like you like him much

I've previously suggested he goes elsewhere for more sex but he said he won't/can't do that.

Doesn't he understand that the nagging about it is deeply unsexy and makes you less likely to want to do it? Why's he suddenly reacting like this if this is your normal sex life?

Being pressured into sex isn't going to make you want it more!

I actually feel sorry for your partner here, he obviously loves you if he's stayed with your for 6 years!

Think about it in his shoes, not just "he's coped for 6 years" really think about it.

This is the woman he loves, rejecting him as often as possible, and throwing it in his face for nagging.

Don't get me wrong I turn my partner down occasionally, and we don't shag dawn till dusk, I'm not a perfect sexual partner... but I am aware of everyone's needs.

And if he doesn't nag, how would he ever get sex? Would you ever start it?

I too am in a sexless marriage. I can't bring myself to be intimate with my husband. We don't get on though so that's different to your situation. I do dislike all the crude references to sex on here.
Intimacy should never be called fucking or shag when you're in a loving relationship.
Every relationship is different and I don't think people should judge this ladies situation.
Some of us can't get sexually excited, some who can't are in the wrong relationship ( like myself)
How can we judge if we've never been in that situation.

You shouldn't do anything that you don't want to. But...he has needs and feelings too. If you both can't agree you should break up.

I know you said the nagging is a turn off but do you generally find him attractive?

Intimacy should never be called fucking or shag when you're in a loving relationship

Lol

I've read this in disbelief. 'Go and have a wank' 'Go else where for sex' not really to sure what to say! Poor bloke.
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship like that!