Partner got a custodial sentence today

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And I’m sad

I know he has to face up to his actions and take the consequences but I’m sad and I’m going to miss him

Op isn't frightened off

She will fade away then be back again with some sorry update so she can talk about her boyfriend, probably because her RL family/ friends are fucking sick of hearing about it

Remember....any attention, good or bad, is enough for some folk.

True. There's a fair few posters like that on MN atm.

Absolutely no true restless
plenty of examples of people who have been affected and have even lost jobs. Have a look online.

"Remember....any attention, good or bad, is enough for some folk."

Seems to me you are trying to impugne her character. I'm sure that will work marvels for her confidence.

As a soon to be qualified nurse you have responsibilities to the NMC. If his criminality is brought to your door you could end up being struck off. Even if you get arrested but not charged it could show on enhanced DBS checks and you would be expected to inform your employer who will take a dim view of you being around illegal substances, in a car where a man known by you to drink and drive/drive while banned etc has caused injury or death. I knocked about with a 'bad boy' for a while. He was attractive and charming but ultimately I couldn't sacrifice my future on those traits alone. He got arrested for possession with intent to supply, carrying a knife and resisting arrest. He went to prison. That was my wake up call and the reckless 18 year old I was became a sensible and responsible professional to be. Use this time to look at what really matters to you and hopefully it will be your own dignity, self respect and career.

Wise words dowsabel Hopefully OP is still reading

It will be easier to break free of him now, it's still really early days in your relationship. Don't wait until your life is tangled up with his and your confidence has taken a battering.

He will do a number on you while inside; writing letters full of promises, you and him against the world..
Try to see beyond the words, the charm, the gifts and see his behaviour for what it is. He's treated you like shit.

Mrskeats It's impossible, a DBS check is a check on the person applying for it, they give consent to have their criminal history checked, it cannot include anyone else's details.

Op could end up with a conviction if drugs are found at her property, or he supplies others from her address? Perhaps that is what MrsK is alluding to. He could ask her to provide a false alibi? There are endless possibilities for OP to get tangled up in criminal behaviour if he is in her life, and she is continually excusing his behaviour.

OP I hope you are still reading this. It will take a couple of days for this to sink in then reality sets in. I think you know what you need to do. But it's hard making that break. I'm an expert on that.
I remember being heartbroken, disappointed, angry , sad, happy. A strange mixture of emotions, which are normal. This man may have nice points, so do most serial killers ( not a very good comparison) but he will end up dragging you down. You an intelligent woman, who has kids and a promising career . You can take nursing all over the world. So much potential. Don't waste it. I don't know how old your children are, but you are their role model. Make them proud. Make your self proud. And just a side note, depending , you don't need social services sniffing round you. Please think of yourself and your children. He hasn't. He only thinks of himself and is expecting you to pick up the pieces.
Best of luck

Ok trying not to out myself but someone I work with was suspended as her husband had a conviction for assault going back to when he was a young man. She's a ta.
Jeremy vine did a whole show on this a while ago. It's a grey area but believe me ive seen it happen.
restless it's very rude to say something is impossible when someone has direct experience of it.
I also know someone who's boyfriend is on the sex offenders register and she works with kids. Same result. It's very dangerous to your career to get involved with someone with a criminal record especially if you work with children or vulnerable adults.

"Remember....any attention, good or bad, is enough for some folk"

^I suspect this is true.

I'm quite surprised that you've confessed to being a nursing student. They go on and on and on about conduct, the nmc code, standards of behavior who you associate with etc etc. I'm aware of nursing students who have been taken to suitability panel and thrown off the course for "liking" posts on Facebook.

Please listen and believe the comments of pp and the long term ramifications that loving this man will have on your life.

Good luck

It won't be as a result of a DBS though, you have to give consent for that to happen. It must have been disclosed some other way.

Oh and I'm a social worker so I have a lot of experiences with DBS.

I am aware of a qualified paediatric nurse who was dismissed from her post and referred to the NMC because she was living with a convicted paedophile. She could not see how that was not compatible with her position.
My reference to the DBS is about her potentially getting arrested and possibly even charged by associating with his criminality.
Whichever way you look at it, they are risks not worth taking in terms of the OP's career as well as her own personal sense of worth and future well being.