I confessed to my boyfriend about my alcohol addiction-he has reacted badly

[Loula81]

So two days ago I confessed to my boyfriend of a year about my alcohol addiction and the fact that I’ve been sneaking drink. He hasn’t taken it well and I’m in a panic and don’t know what to do.

He says he’s trying to be supportive but is angry with me for lying and sees it as deceitful and a betrayal of trust. I honestly never thought he’d rect like this. It took me ages and a lot of courage to admit this to him. I thought he was already suspicious as many days I’ve been to the point of blackout while with him but he says he had no clue at all.

I suppose in a way I’m annoyed with him or is that just selfish of me? I mean, how can you live with somebody for 9 months and not notice this at all? I’ve been drinking up to half a litre, maybe more, of vodka everyday for months now and only just quit. He does triathlons and is out training most evenings but I still would have thought he’d see something was up.

I’m finding this hard to deal with. He shifts between saying he wants to support me through this, to saying how hurt he is that I lied to him. Please help! I've been awake since 4am and I’m now in work and can’t cope so this is a nightmare.

Loula, you've gotten some great advice here and done some wonderful work on getting sober. I don't have much to add except my experience and hope.

I was you 23 years ago. I'm a recovering alcoholic with 23 years of sobriety. I have my life back. I have a good career and a wonderful family. I have my health back. I'd have none of it without my sobriety.

AA meetings can be a bit scary but they get much less so after time goes on. Try to chat people up a bit when it's time for coffee (tea?) and cookies (biscuits). You'll make friends, and that will make it so much easier. You'll look forward to going in time.

Lots of people can stop drinking briefly on their own. Very, very few can do it for the long run without the support of others. There's a saying in AA that you alone must do it but you cannot do it alone.

It's a medical, social and psychological disease. You must tend to it on every level to manage it successfully. But it can be done. I've known hundreds of people who have managed to beat it. And it gets much, much easier over time.

Feel free to message me if you like, but please, please keep going to meetings. If the group at your first meeting doesn't click with you after a time, find another meeting. Your life literally depends on getting help.

So glad to hear that you went and found it useful.

Well done - I missed your update because I think you must have name changed.
But it's great to see that you got something out of it and want to do a lot more.
Keep going. You'll get there.

How is your BF about it all now?

loula 81.....i see you have name changed to the same username as a current thread on here where the OP is concerned about being too wet.............................