The sentence that ended your relationship

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Sort of a taat, but reading sosos grammar school thread and it got me to thinking

When ex-dp and I were 'trying' (i.e. I was doing the pick me dance/hysterical bonding and he was sexting everything with a pulse and lining up his next victim girlfriend) we had a conversation about celebrities we'd like to be

I said various people for their attributes and then he said he'd be Peter Pan - when I asked why he said 'because I don't ever want to grow up, it's boring isn't it?' and it was a 'scales falling from my eyes' moment - I had morphed into this boring responsible dowdy mum but thank god one of us had because he was simply never going to take responsibility for anything

Every letter he didn't take back to school that I'd had to fill out, every time he was late for work, every time he lived off microwave burgers and spent 20 hours a day gaming - it wasn't me, it was him looking to be forever 16

So what was yours?

Hugs Aminuts, xx

Do you mind if I have a drink? From a man who knew his drinking was destroying the marriage but wouldn't do a thing about it. Finally realised his need for alcohol was greater than those of mine and the kids.

Yetmorecrap thanks xx

Another great line was that his infidelity was between him and god and none of my business.

Oh god wally, that’s like Creepy Stalker Man’s ‘but it is my private feelings!’ I just frustratingly said something along the lines of ‘well you should have kept them private then not run around mooning over her in front of me (while you ignored me) all the time then’

After on and off abuse he could be the kindest man ever then when I stood up to him one morning after he was screaming and shouting with his usual menancing face told me to leave asap the house.

called me pig, snake, die of cancer, council trash(his mum is a fraud and conned all her exes out of money as she has never worked)

Who would want me ? look at that boat on her ? Put some make up on after he made me cry with insult after insult. He would annhilate me and I would never even have shared custody, I was only good for one thing and when he gets a new girlfriend I would be his booty call to see the kids. I fled AND RAN SO FAST

He was abusive throughout but got scarier.

I don't want to live somewhere else. I just don't want to live with you.

DC's father in the phone: "get rid of if it, or lose me, if you don't get rid if it, I'll hit you in the stomach to bring on a miscarriage".

In hindsight, I very much regret not taking this conversation to the Police but it's too late now. His parents minimised it so much they could've made the Empire State Building invisible.

When he said ‘you are too insecure to be with a good looking man like me’ 🤣

On discussing some communication difficulties of a few months standing - into a 20 year marriage he tells me

'The problem is, you repulse me'

It took some years to get the words out of my head

"I'm not giving you your birthday present, you don't deserve it. Maybe you can have it when I get home".

This was because I had woken our son up for school and he believed I was coddling him and going against our agreement on it.

It was small, but the final straw.

That he could ruin my birthday was about the worst thing.

My gift was shoes that I had wanted for so long. But I never wore them. They were sold when I moved out.

From my husband, driving us all to swimming lessons on a Sunday morning while I was juggling three separate conversations with three children whilst he drove in deadly silence until: ‘why are you looking at your phone? (Id just got a message) YOUR children are speaking to you.’ Sounds like nothing, but it was the straw, so to speak.

stood there and told me all about his 5 year plan, that didn't seem to include me.

Mine was I’ll give you three grand to leave and not take the kids!

Another was had a pregnancy scare and I asked him to get the chop he said no what if I meet someone else that’s while we were still married 8 months after DS was born took me 8 years to leave though!

I left took the kids and ended up going through courts got everything

The Policeman who said, 'this has gone so far now, you know it has to end (with the sociopath ex) eventually, and how it ends is your choice. Either you end it on your terms by prosecuting him (domestic violence); or he ends it on his terms and runs off for good with one of his other women; or we carry you out of here in a box."

I prosecuted him.

'You're a selfish twat' after exP punched me in the head and I fell to the floor whilst holding our 7 month old DC because I'd asked him not to go out to a NYE party at 3 in the morning after we had returned home from a family party. He hit me that hard that I had a massive lump straight away after that punch but apparently I deserved it and it was my own fault. Oh when we split up he didnt understand why as he loved me

Some of these are absolutely horrendous.

Mine was one Easter when we were at his folks. Everyone save him fancied a walk. He wanted a sleep, so i thought we could all go and leave him to do just that. It was unseasonably very, very cold and I'd forgotten my scarf and gloves. I asked if I could borrow his and he said no. It was so petty but i just though, I cannot be with someone who is so gratuitously unkind for no reason. Goodbye!

"Does the basement lock?" said by abusive dh when we were viewing potential houses in a remote area. Left with the clothes on my back a week later, financially ruined but happy.

After I found out about his cheating he said smugly "You'll not be able to survive without me"
I flourished.

I also had sleeping with you is like sleeping with a sack of spuds!

A zombie thread worth reading! I wonder how some of the pps are doing 2 years later. Hope they inspire some mumsnetters who are struggling today!

My one is from an ex bf when I was 17. Didn't realise until looking back now he was ghosting me on and off. "Let's do anal tonight". I just thought, no never. You just want to use me as a practice for someone else. We spilt and within a few weeks he was loved up with someone else.

Yes, definitely worth reading. The sentence "we need to split up" came from me because he didn't want to look like the bad guy. He'd already moved on in every sense but he didn't have the balls to say so because he can't bear anyone thinking he's not Mr Fabulous. He just began a campaign of meanness and escalated it until I couldn't stand anymore. It worked, he went off with his schmoopy, claiming nothing had had happened, we had just 'outgrown' each other. I think the most hurtful thing was how many people believed him and still think he's Mr Fabulous, not the emotionally immature, cheating, devious, narcissistic, abusive sociopath he actually is. I've spent the past two years alone, working on my self-esteem and getting over our 28 year marriage. He has spent the time rushing schmoopy straight into marriage and trying to manage his reputation. Must be an exhausting way to live.

When I called him from a phone box in the middle of town crying my eyes out(long story but basically felt completely unsupported by him) I just needed him to come and hug me. He said he would, an hour later I was still waiting the fucker had gone back to bed.
Not as awful as most on here but it was the point where I just thought I cannot be with this utterly selfish man.