The sentence that ended your relationship

[OhHolyFuck]

Sort of a taat, but reading sosos grammar school thread and it got me to thinking

When ex-dp and I were 'trying' (i.e. I was doing the pick me dance/hysterical bonding and he was sexting everything with a pulse and lining up his next victim girlfriend) we had a conversation about celebrities we'd like to be

I said various people for their attributes and then he said he'd be Peter Pan - when I asked why he said 'because I don't ever want to grow up, it's boring isn't it?' and it was a 'scales falling from my eyes' moment - I had morphed into this boring responsible dowdy mum but thank god one of us had because he was simply never going to take responsibility for anything

Every letter he didn't take back to school that I'd had to fill out, every time he was late for work, every time he lived off microwave burgers and spent 20 hours a day gaming - it wasn't me, it was him looking to be forever 16

So what was yours?

[BrideOfDracula]

My exh told.me I was no more than a prostitute when I was on maternity leave and so not earning and contributing financially to the household.

He then told me he'd never had any intention of ever buying a house with me because I'd had all the money of his I was ever going to get.

I thought we'd been saving for a deposit. I didnt realise he'd been using that money (inc my contributions) as a personal slush fund. He resented every single penny that was spent on me or the children.

[Isitreally77]

He used to tell me he wanted a divorce whenever we argued, the last time he said it I said fine lets do it then. He really wasn't expecting it, I had grown a pair and decided to stop pleading with him to stay.

[Flower32]

When I was sat on the floor crying after finding out he had cheated multiple times with prostitutes by finding messages on his computer. He stood over me and said "You need to grow up, you're weak".
I got up straight away and said " I'll show you how f* weak I am, this is over right now!" The look on his face was priceless lol

[Fightingmycorner2019]

‘You mum is welcome to
Come over . I’ll just go out when she comes ‘

Followed by threats against said mother when I really said it was over

[BeenThereDone]

We were having major problems... We talked and agreed with would have a nice meal with the kids and then when they were in bed we'd sit and talk properly.
I made a lovely dinner and me and the kids waited and waited. He turned up belligerent, drunk and aggressive having been in the pub most of the night.
One of the kids asked why he hadn't come home like he promised, he turned pointed in the child's face and said 'I will come and go as I please and you and your mother had better get used to it'
I left the next morning

[slinkysaluki]

Having dinners thrown at me because he didn't like what id cooked....lots more i could tell

[slinkysaluki]

Being told "i hope you get cancer" and him spitting in my face

[FreshBread]

I told my exh to "drop dead" in an argument. It felt horrible as the words came out of my mouth and, obviously, I didnt mean it literally but the way we looked at each other afterwards meant we both knew it was over because it revealed the depth of my contempt for him.

[RLEOM]

Ex 1: "Where the fuck is my watch?"

Ex 2: "You're a stupid fuck for being with me, aren't you? You stupid fuck!"

Ex 3: "I swear on our daughter's life I didn't sleep with my friend." (Turns out he had been cheating on me with his female friend - our daughter's life meant nothing.)

[Mistlewoe]

When he said there was no such thing as rape between husband and wife.
The End

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

"if you don't cancel your friend coming to dinner, I will show you what a cunt I can be."

[Bookvan]

"I didn't realise you were serious"
About him taking responsibility for contraception after 20 years on various forms, haemorrhaging and nearly dying whilst giving birth to our last child. I'd been saying it for 3 years. His choice, condoms or vasectomy. He chose abstinence. 3 years of no sex and he thought I was joking and I'd get over it and go back on the pill like a good wife.

Got rid of him and have someone who doesnt make me feel like the most unattractive woman in the world. In fact, when I told lovely new man about what happened in labour, he was so horrified by the thought of me having to go through that again, he offered to get a vasectomy in the spot.

[raspberryk]

Him "yes I took out a huge loan but it's nothing to do with you because I'm leaving" - always his excuse to never discuss anything before me begging him back.
Me "ok you know where the door is, if you leave now never come back".
I never discussed it with him any furt er, after a week he text asking why I hadn't contacted him to discuss things.

[Cherrypop99]

Him: "I've been wearing your dresses and underwear for all of our 24 years of our marriage and yes, the stains on your stockings are indeed my sperm".

We have been divorced for 2.5 years.

[goodgirlinchachaheels]

When he woke me up as I was sleeping after my night shift and asked me for money to pay his weed dealer. I said no and lost my shit because he indebted me so much. He then threatened to leave, I showed him the door, and I felt so relieved.

[123testing]

mine used to say the most vile things ever. And I just used to cry or withdraw.

Me struggling with dc one with a disability. 'Why have all thesr kids if you can't look after them.'
Me struggling with housework and getting a cleaner. 'Why buy a big house whrn you knew you cant clean it yourself'.
Going for walks or shopping or out with friends. 'You left work to do all these things instead of stay home cook and clean.'
Me first going part time and then eventually leaving work because of dcs and being a carer for my dd. 'Other people have been filling your head abput felxible working and leaving and you're just copying them.'

The final straw was when we had a big argument about kids and housework and he was spewing his normal vile at me he said. 'You and your indecent clan don't deserve to live in a nice big house like this. You deserve to live in a council house. That would have straightened you lot out.' I said 'Why don't you go and live in a council house and leave us indecent folk.' I honeslty meant every word I said. It truly was a light bulb moment. Even though he's still here I've emotionally checked out.

[Croeso78]

He was driving like a maniac, not slowing down on road bumps, I was 6 months pregnant, asked him to slow down, his response was " Do not comment on my driving, if you are not happy with it you can walk home" temperature outside was around 40 degrees C (We were living abroad) and we were probably 3 miles away from the house...this was the first time I thought, I must leave him, but took 14 years after this to do so.

[Blippolbblopp]

"Im sorry mummy"

It gives me a pain in my chest even remembering her saying that. Ex had attacked me infront of the children because i couldnt stop them crying quick enough ( they were crying because he was kicking off )

He had locked us in the house and really hurt me. When he left i was on the floor and my 2.6 year old came over to me crying, she gave me a cuddle and told me sorry mummy.

That was my lightbulb moment. This wasnt normal and i couldnt let her carry on seeing this. I will never ever forgot my tiny little girl shaking thinking it was her fault

The police came, months later he was in court and found guilty and given a restraining order to stay away from me and the kids. Been 2 years now and i couldnt be prouder of how much all our lives have changed but i will always feel guilty for what my little girl saw, she was terrified

[Astrabees]

When searching around for an excuse about 3 years of infidelity - "God gave man a brain and a penis but not enough blood to run both at the same time" !!!!

[TravellingSpoon]

I think mine came this weekend. It's been a bit of a difficult few years after an EA on his part and me trying my hardest to make everything happy, putting in too much effort to try and make him happy.

We have been away for the week with our DC's. DD was talking about bikinis and why I was wearing a costume. I told her that I am embarrassed of a tattoo I have on my tummy that has stretched and looks horrendous. 'D'H pipes up that also I haven't been able to get to the gym cos I have been working a lot of overtime. It sounds so stupid but it shows his real feelings towards me and confirms what I have believed for a while. OW was young and slim, and although I an not enormous, I am not as fit as i once was.

So now I am in the process of getting my things together, its complicated and it will take time I dont want to be with someone who thinks that of me, or who would have our DD believe you have to be a certain way.

[WhoKnewBeefStew]

You've put the fucking own on the wrong ring

[LurkerFinallyPosts]

Oooh when he said "I'm just not a passionate person".

[tellalls]

As we broke up for the millionth time: "Can't we just skip to you taking me back"
It finally clicked in my mind

[VoodooRae]

"I fucked her" said in a way that felt like he should have added "are you happy now?" he was so angry he had to tell me, motherfucker.