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HELP

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melminx · 03/04/2007 09:09

MLS HIS TEXTED HE LOVES ME HIS SORRY HE WILL SUPPORT ME AND KIDS. asked him if his stexted her and his just replied yeah to tell her to leave me be and that his sorry. just feels so raw.

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:00

i just cant cope

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Bananaknickers · 03/04/2007 18:02

sorry I haven't seen another thread about this can you update me Mel? how long has he been texting?

Bananaknickers · 03/04/2007 18:03

you are stronger than you think in these situations I have been there too

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:18

speaking to her now

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mylittlestar · 03/04/2007 18:25

You're speaking to her you mean?

I hope you're ok xx

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:29

shitting bollocks he was telling the truth she is a les!

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:30

what have i done?

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:35

even spoke to her girlfriend and they both invited me out ona shopping trip and a drink!

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Dior · 03/04/2007 18:36

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:38

omg!

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mylittlestar · 03/04/2007 18:43

omg!

well ok that's positive! right?!

I'd accept the offer tbh! If they're genuine you can eat humble pie and put it all down to experience.

You've been through hell. Don't underestimate that.

But hopefully it can have a positive ending?

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:48

after shit i have said and cancelled his sim! all he ever wanted was me to trust him why couldnt i apart from him staying out when we have rows. his made me feel so insecure. i just love him that much dont blame him for hating me

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:48

i apologised to sara and she just sent text saying its all cool and keep her number if i ever want to chat!

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:50

how could i have got it so wrong think i've blown my marriage he has every right to hate me now

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:50

even mil has texted he'll be back and we are not close!

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Dior · 03/04/2007 18:56

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melminx · 03/04/2007 18:58

not yet got to speak first !

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mylittlestar · 03/04/2007 19:09

listen - don't blame yourself. you both needed to communicate better and he has his part to play in this as much as you.

talk it through, explain your reasons, then agree how you'll both communicate better in the future to make sure this never happens again!

you'll both be ok I'm sure

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melminx · 03/04/2007 19:19

thanks mls just hope your right hangs phone up when i call but he needs to understand why im angry too think his too angry to listen just yet!

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melminx · 03/04/2007 19:20

if that made sense so tired!

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Cashncarry · 03/04/2007 22:23

Hi Melminx - I see things have moved on somewhat since my last post

I'm sorry he's so angry with you now. TBH I think it's perfectly reasonable that you flip out given that he's given you reason to doubt him. Give him some time to calm down. Hopefully he will come to see no harm done and this incident will go some way to restore your trust in him - if you get the chance to explain your behaviour, try to put it in a positive light! xx

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melminx · 04/04/2007 07:51

morning all he phoned last night but was talking to me like dirt and when i asked him why he'd been texting her all day i got told " whatever" so i hung up stupid i know but wasnt going to be spoken to like dirt and i hate being told whatever! so i think he needs to calm down a bit now. i had her [sara] texting me last night so she is definately not interested in him. i can understand his anger at not being trusted but he played on this one too. didnt want me to have a male friend who i have known a few years cos he thinks he fancies me but he can talk to her. which now knowing the situation im not that bothered about although i dont like it and think it should be very minimal communication. i texted him before i went to sleep about calming down and he knows where i am but he needs to prove that he loves me because i honestly dont feel like he does. and yes im still angry too that he can text her but not me unless it was too wind me up as he knew i kept checking the bill?

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mylittlestar · 04/04/2007 08:50

hi melminx

i think you're right that no matter what's happened he now needs to show how much he loves you and should be putting the time and energy that he's been using in texting sara into texting or calling you!

sounds like he has his issues too, not letting you have a male friend who may fancy you? so it can't be one rule for him and another for you.

hopefully you can both sit down and have a really honest talk about your insecurities and how you both really feel and then decide what to do from there.

agree that you shouldn't let him speak to you like dirt too. that's not how you treat someone you love. i think he needs to start growing up and acting like a responsible adult. comments like 'whatever' won't get either of you anywhere

xx