#3 He IS having an affair

[worldupsidedown]

Ok, here we go for round #3 in which we know DH is having an affair, and does not give a flying fuckof 25 years inc 19 years of marriage or respect for his LW and DD and now we try to establish what the hell thinks he's going to do next and hopefully learn about the YOWHLTF while trying to keep a calm and dignified posture

Is he having an affair #2
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And with which you are doing so well op

Is he having an affair?
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You are doing absolutely brilliantly op. You've kept so calm. I'm full of advice me, but I'd likely have twatted him about the head with something heavy by now..

You're a hero World!

We are all here for you OP.

Hang in there and focus on you and DD. Many younger women find older men attractive.... Until the years go by and they are stuck with poor sex and a grumpy old man.

By then you'll have long moved on and he'll have to live with what he did.

A friend of mine said her DD refused to have her dad wall her down the aisle at her wedding, because he'd clearly shown he didn't understand the fidelity aspect of the vows by cheating.

She had her Uncle do the honours and her dad was gutted.

I don't think the affair has been going on a long time. I think something 'accidentally' happened a few weeks ago. She wrote him a note saying 'thanks, oops, lets forget that happened', the envelope looked like it'd been in his case a while, then he took her for dinner Thursday before our holiday and said he would prefer to not forget and to take things further, she said she'd think about it and then let him know on Friday or straight on holiday that it was on, I remember when we were at the airport etc he was 'normal' then he just got more and more distant until on the last day he was barely talking. The rest is history. That's my guess anyway weeks ago, so the main thing literally only kicked off three weeks ago today from the dinner date.

to record on an iphone 7, go to 'extras' then 'voice memes'. just press reed button.
Good Luck tonight!
Just a thought, but maybe you need to be prepared to hear that OW has been around longer than you think?I wonder how old she actually is, but that's just me being really nosy

Here's a guide for recording on your iPhone
http://www.dummies.com/consumer-electronics/smartphones/iphone/for-seniors-how-to-record-voice-memos-on-your-iphone-6/

And what a fucking twat he is for ruining his relationship with his daughter so much that she doesn't want to call him dad anymore. He could have avoided that by just finishing the marriage before finding a shag. I despair.

Good luck tonight OP, you've got the whole of mumsnet behind you

Good luck tonight OP. Thinking about you. Stay strong.

sorryx post as I wasn't sure you'd see my last post on the old thread.

What time are the talks taking place tonight, World?

Are you mentally prepared?

Funny, the amount of times we've been watching something on tv and I've sussed the plot out and DH has commented he never though of that scenario!

He'll be home about 9, not sure about going out, I've drawn a blank on where we could go anyway and sids law there'd be someone we know there.

Following on from your last post, he's a fucking fuckwit idiot living in cloud cuckoo land. The chances are, that yow sees this as just a bit of a fling. She'll probably be really worried he's left his marriage as she probably won't want a full on regular relationship with him at all.
OH HOW WE'LL ALL LAUGH

I think she's possibly gone on holiday this weekend for the week, and it's just occurred to me maybe he's planned to join her the following weekend! Maybe it is single flights

Just gonna de-lurk and say OP, we're all behind you, stay strong, record the conversation, and don't be patronised by the thundercunt xxx

*sods

He must feel like a right idiot. He barely got the affair off the ground and he's been busted.

If he's been distancing himself for a long time she may not be the first. Be prepared.

Good luck for tonight. He's been an utter idiot.

Be strong!

Even if I had to sit at a bus stop, I still wouldn't let him into the house.

But whether you meet at the house or elsewhere, you need to tell him he is no longer welcome and ask him for his house key. Tell him if he is so sorry about this whole thing, he'll prove it by removing himself from your house and your presence.