#3 He IS having an affair

[worldupsidedown]

Ok, here we go for round #3 in which we know DH is having an affair, and does not give a flying fuckof 25 years inc 19 years of marriage or respect for his LW and DD and now we try to establish what the hell thinks he's going to do next and hopefully learn about the YOWHLTF while trying to keep a calm and dignified posture

Good for you OP. All the time he's coming and going you're kind of stuck in terms of moving on. It will definitely stick in his craw in Athens because he's not in control. So many of us have been in your position and there really is a good life waiting for you hard as it is to believe

Wow Ginger yours tried to play wedding ring trumps too? I wonder what the psychology is.

Went on YouTube to watch "The Dickhead Song" (hadn't heard of it).
So, in the same silly mode, look for "I don't like you" + "F**k You" both sung by Kat McSnatch. You need to change a couple of the words (as it's female to female) - still quite funny/immature.

You can ask him to leave the but he might decide he won't. Considering he could withold funds, just be careful.

Although I suspect he won't want to look worse in your DDs eyes.

Hi World

On the subject of your dry skin - a mixture of stress and perhaps not eating too well (understandably) will do this. I would suggest supplementing with a 1000mg of either Starflower Oil, Flaxseed Oil or Vitamin E (to moisturise from within). And a multivitamin if you don't take one already.

You are being tremendously strong. Getting him out of your sight can only help you. I hope he pisses off and does the decent thing. Although decency is an anathema to him.

My first H was just like yours... it was a long time ago, but ive always like this song to describe him..
(my current Dh is wonderful..)

OP.. things will get better

by little remembered Australian band Do Re Mi..

I think you will like it!

I do think that you are right to ask him to leave. His presence isn't doing anything except keeping wounds open.

Once he is gone you can start moving towards the start of the healing process. If you look on here there are many others who have been in your situation and they are happy now.

So - healing and happiness ahead. Hang on to that.

Bet he's home earlier today.
Ready to do his packing and sprucing up for his shagging weekend!

Hope he takes note to get the fuck out of your face.

Wish I was fly on the wall when he sees the note. Let's hope he takes note! And fucks off.

My advice would be to do every communication by email so there is a log and no misunderstanding. I hope he does the decent thing and pack his bags.

Also I would say don't contact his workmates. Chances r they knew what was going on. This type of thing is quite common place in the city. The fact that no one told u what was going on says what side they r on.

Keep ur dignity. Use ur rage to fight on and get out of this mess with ur head held high.

I hope he does the decent thing and leaves.
It's unspeakably cruel of him to go to Athens to see her having told you what he's doing and who with and expect to love they with you.
That would be hard for anyone to take.

Thinking of you op.have you plans for this weekend to distract you? (Not that anything would but I hope you won't be on your own with this)

Good for you on the note World. If he can go to Athens, he can get the hell out of your house.

Well done on writing the note to him, World. Sorry I've not commented for a few days - been without wifi, but have been wondering how you were doing. Xxx

Email and text the handwritten note as well and keep copies. He is such a cunt. for you and dd. Xxx

He got home at 10:45pm and went straight to his room. I just woke up to hear his footsteps and the front door closed. He's gone.

Ive checked in his room and his stuff is all there, he's only taken his hand luggage. The letter I wrote is opened and in the envelope on the chest of drawers. He's not taken the shirts!

I think I need to start a new thread
#4 He's gone to Athens to be with her.

Thinking of you op. I can't believe how callous he is being.

Selfish twunt I hope he gets a case of the galloping trots and ruins his weekend.

I know your marriage wasn't depending on whether or not he went but this must still feel like a slap in the face. world.

So he has ignored your letter and scanned off onto the sunset? I'd feel quite justified in packing his stuff and dropping it somewhere. Work or his parents or his OWs house share....

I am sorry OP. Pack his stuff and send it to his parents.

I'll repeat what I said on thread two. He really is an entitled twat....

I'd be tempted to pack up his stuff nicely (hellish shirts included) and if one of the dogs feels obliging park a massive turd at the bottom of the bag.

Yeah I'm with the others that say do it for him. Not because you should be but he obviously has given no thought to how this is hurting you or his daughter. Literally bundle it all up stick it in black bags and change the locks whilst he is away. Dump it in his car or not, it's not your problem
If the wildlife gets to it and leave another note that says dear wanker husband/dad you are no longer welcome in our space.

And another great song to blast while you pack up shirt wanker's stuff

Did you say his mum was coming to visit this weekend? I would pack all his stuff and give it to her to take back with her. I'd then text him to tell him what you've done, let him have that to worry about whilst he's swanning around Athens

OP's new thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3009180-4-he-s-gone-to-athens-to-be-with-her?watched=1&msgid=71255009#71255009

So he didn't even bother to reply! Not even a "I'm running late, will discuss this when I'm back" or even a no!"

Little bugger clearly thinks he's going to decide exactly how this split is going to happen.