#3 He IS having an affair

[worldupsidedown]

Ok, here we go for round #3 in which we know DH is having an affair, and does not give a flying fuckof 25 years inc 19 years of marriage or respect for his LW and DD and now we try to establish what the hell thinks he's going to do next and hopefully learn about the YOWHLTF while trying to keep a calm and dignified posture

Personally I think it's good you're treating your DD the way you are. When you're that age it's far worse though be treat like you're a small child or very stupid. Far better to be told the truth.

Fair play OP, you're superwoman!

hope you're OK World

Oh dear hope he got back and you're having a good talk.

Only the OP knows her own daughter and what is best for her in terms of the information she discloses. I made a heroic effort not to appear upset in front of my DS under very similar circumstances. I was resolutely upbeat and positive about our future as a single parent family ( even though I felt like I was dying on the inside) and I never bad mouthed the OW in front of him - even though she openly taunted me. Everyone told me it was the right thing to do. As a consequence DS had a complete hysterical break down one night and said he was the only one who cared that our family had fallen apart and that neither I nor his dad nor I gave a shit about it. When we talked honestly about the pain and the loss things were far better. It was what he needed to hear - and he was far younger at the time than the OP's DD. It's not a case of one size fits all - children are as diverse as adults.

World, we haven't forgotten you. we are still here x

Your handling all this much better than I ever could. Stay strong

Thinking of you op xxx

I can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling OP. But you have a lot of strength inside you

So, he has arranged a meeting with his wife to discuss an extremely important matter, and he doesn't turn up until gone 9.30? I bet if he'd had a hot date with YOWWHIF, he'd have made sure he left the office early and not rolled up to meet her at this time of night.

Total lack of respect, but I suppose we shouldn't be surprised.

God, he's ridiculous.

Are you ok OP?

Hope you're Ok Op x

I get the feeling that he is not very clued up emotionally. His relationship of 25 years, a quarter of a century has broken down thanks to his own doing yet he has carried on as if nothing has happened. Can't believe he went to work and was late! Checking out of a hotel takes longer than he has taken to check out of this relationship.

Let's see how long YOW would want him around when 1- his disposable income isn't as much as before.

I have no doubt @worldupsidedown that u are conducting yourself with grace and dignity and ur being strong. There's been some amazing advice on here re taping convos and being mindful of what info u give him. We r all here for u x

God I bet a lot of us are up late tonight, to see what the little shit as to say for himself!

Routing for you OP x

Hope everything is ok and you've had some clarity ?

Bloody hell. Hope all goes ok.

I keep obsessively refreshing checking for update, don't know why as updating us will be the last thing on your mind.
Hope you and DD are OK.

Just wanted to say I'm rooting for you OP x

I was in bed trying to sleep. Keep thinking about this and hoping that World and DD are okay. I am upset by proxy.

Positive vibes for a successful outcome - whatever that looks like.

Hi World.
I get the feeling that things have been a bit intense for you tonight.
Remember,
you have a lot of people on MN routing for you.

I hope you get a good night's sleep.

I was thinking the same Teamcersi

Hope you are ok world 💓

My thoughts are with you

Just been catching up on everything. Really hope tonight has gone ok for you, World, and that you're as ok as you can be xxxxx