Anyone else read the threads on here and think 'I'm going to stay single forever?'

[Lovemusic33]

So many people dealing with cheating husbands and partners, emotionally abusive partners and cocklodgers.

Reading these threads makes me so scared of getting into another relationship. I have been single for almost a year after my ex partner (whom I met through OLD) was abusive towards me and eventually cheated on me. I go on a few dates but I'm scared of getting hurt so I don't usually get past the first 2 or 3 dates. I read so many threads on here where people who were happily married have found their dh/dp/do have been cheating on them and it makes me feel so sad and angry. Why do people feel the need to cheat? If your not happy in a relationship then walk away before you tempted by someone else, before you destroy your partner by making them feel they are not good enough.

I would really like to meet my Mr right but at the moment it's so much easier being single and not risking getting hurt.

Does anyone else read the threads here and think 'thank god im single'?

Nursebuttercup - use the hoover 👍

de-lurking in support of Shatner. I'm female and child-free, haven't been in a relationship for 7 years either. I stumbled across MN when researching hrt and have found it to be a brilliant site and (I thought...) welcoming to anyone.

There is great advice and support here and not being a man hater I find the male perspective valuable too, whether I agree or not.

Shatner, I've read a few of your posts and you seem like a lovely person to me

Shucks, Ferfukz

I second that. Shatners posts are measured and insightful...imo, he and other men are welcome here! Differing perspectives are valuable and necessary!

Quite, mememe and shatner. What's the point of a forum that's really just an echo chamber where the only voices you hear are the same as yours?

@chestylarue52

The hoover is usually my go to, however I erm had an "incident" last Autumn. I'm not very tall and a massive huge spider took up residency on a wall in my living room. Picture me little short arse, balancing on the edge of the sofa with the hoover in one hand and hoover pipe in the other over-stretching further than I should. I lost my balance and slipped and fell one leg down the sofa..the other on the floor...Ooooh my fanjo was throbbing for all the wrong reasons!!

Bloody spider was still on the wall making cobwebs laughing at me!!

In hindsight I should have stood on a chair.
Stop laughing

That's hilarious nurse

The first thing I did when my ex loved out was buy a spider catcher. Spiders were the only thing I was worried about! Never mind being on my own with an 8m old

Thanks for your response. I don't think men should be posting here but it seems like it's an unpopular opinion.

I'm off to Fathers for Justice now, I'm sure they'd love to hear from me. Wouldn't want an echo chamber to develop in their mutual support network now would we?

Runs away blushing at MeMe adding to what Fer said.

As for Teaches I think it's very sad you feel that way. Seriously. While the site name is indeed Mumsnet, the strapline underneath reads "by parents, for parents". Or had you missed that? Oddly enough, an awful lot of men are parents, too. A lot of men and women are also step parents and godparents without children that they actually helped produce. That's why sites like these can be hugely beneficial to them/us.

Fer You and Shatner sound perfect for each other

I am getting brace catching spiders, we get some pretty big ones, my daughter loves spiders so I have to kill them before she sees them, rescues them and rehomed them in her bedroom.

I agree that it's good that men post on here, good to get their opinions and it makes us realise that woman are equally as bad when it comes to relationships and dating.

I'm still struggling with the man I have been dating. I have come off the OLD sites as I'm just tired of all the messages I get from weirdos.

I might join you over there Peaches, but only if they will be wearing Spiderman outfits. I'm all for men posting here, its good to get the male perspective.

I think its the same for both sexes very decent people for many years suddenly turn into not quite so decent , stress, boredom, mid life crises, needing a buzz whatever. They dont all reveal these traits quickly. Im pretty sure if the lady with the enormous 'affair' thread at the moment had been asked or the one with the pearl necklace mystery if their DH was a decent person a year ago--they would have said yes.

Fathers for justice include some seriously unhinged people who badly need a bracing dose of reality in the form of a well argued female perspective. So go right ahead peaches.
Lovemusic I must say your daughter sounds ace. Can't you do a deal where she is paid 50p per spider she evicts from the house? UK spiders are harmless and it would be a shame to teach her otherwise.

I just assume that someone posting here is female until i am told otherwise.... or unless the poster makes it obvious in some way

well I'm 38 my longest relationship is 5 years so does that make me weird?.
I've chosen to remain single as I wanted to bring my dd up without the stress relationships can bring.
Maybe that would make me seem abnormal but I see so many women desparate to be in any relationship and many make the wrong choices because of this.
Also not everyone has been lucky in love so please don't jump to conclusions about someone's relationship history there may be valid reasons for it.

user I feel like you, relationships are too stressful to bother whilst ds is growing up. He is 12 and doesn't want a bloke around.

I don't feel I am missing out at all and doubt I would bother once he leaves home either.

I would not be too thrilled if many men started posting on mumsnet as it is principally a female forum.

I would not be too thrilled if many men started posting on mumsnet as it is principally a female forum.

You'd be surprised how many men are on here. You just don't know who is and isn't....