Mystery WhatsApp conversation

[Foundwantingalways]

My DP has been acting very very secretive with his phone, I have no other reason to suspect him of anything but the fact that he has been really weird over it and won't even leave it charging in my presence got me wondering. I have his phone password, he doesn't know. I've just checked it quickly while he was in the shower and there's a short message on WhatsApp, clearly only the latest fragment of a conversation, with a number saved in the name ' new'. There's a picture of a baby in their profile pic. There's nothing overly awful about the conversation but he's signed off a few messages with a kiss... This is not like him. One of the messages says 'night x' and before that one says. 'I always want to see pics x'. Now this could be innocent but I don't know of anyone, family or friends, who he'd be willing to send messages with a kiss to? I didn't know how to screenshot but I have managed to scribble down the mobile number. I really want to call it, but I just don't know how to go about it. I was thinking of maybe giving a different name and saying I'm from the local water board and need to speak to xyz, and see if I can get a name that way? I'm shaking. I cannot believe he's having an affair, he's keen for another baby and we're undergoing fertility tests at the moment, I'm so hoping it's not that but why be so secretive, and why isn't there a name on the WhatsApp contact? Any thoughts on my next move? He's on Android and is tech savvy so I don't have a tracking app or anything.

I would hang fore for a bi and see what else you can find. If you call the number now it may arouse enough suspicion to make him more guarded

I got my exh phone off him for a few mins when I thought he was texting his ex. . . Take some pics on your phone, say you are sending them to him - oh not sure they sent - here pass your phone so I can see if they have arrived. . Trivial shit he won't care about so may pass you the phone. Enough time to find what you need.

You need to turn super snooper before letting rip. .

I'll reinstall true caller and try it again, it may be that I did not check it correctly. I tried withholding my mobile number and calling the number but it never rang out, I'm hoping he hasn't deleted the contact even though he's bound to delete the conversation.

I'll check contacts again when I get a chance to make sure I have the right number

So I have reinstalled true caller, it is showing the contact as it is in my contacts list, but nothing else? Have I done this wrong? Apologies, I'm not very technical at the best of times.

Is your DP able to read your MN stuff? Don't let him know anything. I really hope this is all nothing.

I'm so sorry OP. I get so depressed with these threads. Becoming so common

I have to say, my initial thought with the baby pics and comment was, he's had a baby with another woman, as pp have said.

istol it's all relative and it seems like it's so common now because people are on here posting about problems...very few people would come on and post about a happy family, but there are still many of them out there. Not everybody cheats - far from it.

Sorry I know that's nothing to do with this particular thread but just thought it was worth noting.

I hope to God there's not a baby involved, that would break me. He's on his way home from work, it's been hard being cheery on the phone to him. I can't confront him as I have nothing but hoping he will catch himself out tonight or tomorrow. I'll be ready with the camera phone.

I've got an app called "me" which will tell you the name, but you have to delete the number from your contacts list. Just make a note of it, delete it, type it into the search box and the name that is associated with that number should come up.

I think you need to store the number in your contacts as +44 rather than 0 for it to show up in WhatsApp.

Go to your contacts list, press the 3 dots at top right hand side of page, then press " settings". Then " refresh". It should then appear.

Well surprise surprise, he's been having an affair. Found more messages when he got home, very explicit. He's gone and threatening to kill himself. I'm in bits.

Oh no. I'm so sorry OP. Have you any real life support to be with you tonight?

Oh OP - hugs. Take care of yourself. Others will be along who've been there and can offer lots of sensible advice.

Ignore his dramatics - his behaviour is his responsibility. You need time and space to think.

Sorry to hear that op that's so awful, can you call a friend to come over for support?

I was watching and felt I couldn't add to it any more than the advice already given, I am really sorry to hear about this update!
Like Peanut says ignore his dramatics.
Give yourself time to think about what you want to do and don't be pushed by him into anything.

So sorry OP

What an utter bastard

So sorry OP. Can you call a friend for real life support. A friend you can trust 100% with this. He is being dramatic isn't he!! Unbelievably cowardly.

Oh Foundwanting I am so so sorry. Ignore the suicide threats for starters, that's just to make it look like he is sorry but being sorry you got caught and sorry you did it are two different things.

Did you get into his phone and then confront him?

I am so sorry you are going through this

I'm really sorry to see your update OP. Do you have any rl support?

Oh gosh OP, I'm so sorry

Have you got anyone who can be with you in real life?

I'm so sorry OP

Your life is not over. You will move on from this. You will be happy again.

Oh Found I'm so sorry.

Have you got someone who can be with you in RL tonight?

Ignore his histrionics. Just focus on you right now, be gentle with yourself.

Thanks, my mum has come over. I can't believe he'd let me go through with fertility testing and be sticking his cock in someone else at the same time. Oh God I hope I'm not pregnant