Mystery WhatsApp conversation

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My DP has been acting very very secretive with his phone, I have no other reason to suspect him of anything but the fact that he has been really weird over it and won't even leave it charging in my presence got me wondering. I have his phone password, he doesn't know. I've just checked it quickly while he was in the shower and there's a short message on WhatsApp, clearly only the latest fragment of a conversation, with a number saved in the name ' new'. There's a picture of a baby in their profile pic. There's nothing overly awful about the conversation but he's signed off a few messages with a kiss... This is not like him. One of the messages says 'night x' and before that one says. 'I always want to see pics x'. Now this could be innocent but I don't know of anyone, family or friends, who he'd be willing to send messages with a kiss to? I didn't know how to screenshot but I have managed to scribble down the mobile number. I really want to call it, but I just don't know how to go about it. I was thinking of maybe giving a different name and saying I'm from the local water board and need to speak to xyz, and see if I can get a name that way? I'm shaking. I cannot believe he's having an affair, he's keen for another baby and we're undergoing fertility tests at the moment, I'm so hoping it's not that but why be so secretive, and why isn't there a name on the WhatsApp contact? Any thoughts on my next move? He's on Android and is tech savvy so I don't have a tracking app or anything.

It won't harm you to give the phone a withheld call just to hear the voice at the other end. You may recognise the voice.
Also. Add the number to your contacts and then if the photo changes on WhatsApp you may get a glimpse of who it belongs too.
The number in Facebook works if they have their number stored and privacy settings allow, but not always.
You will only go crazy without answers x

If you add this person to your contacts and what's app. They won't see you on theirs xx

I would advise a period of watching and waiting. You need more evidene than this OP. If you show your hand now you will never find out the truth.

EVIDENCE *

If i was to phone the number I would ask to speak to him. You obviously have to do that when hes not at home.

So sorry op
I would be very suspicious :(
If you confront him he will deny it and start being extra careful,
act like nothing is happening and you have no suspicions
If it was me I would have to ring the number, or text the number saying
'Hey this is my new number..(enter husbands phone number)
And start a conversation and see if you can get some more info etc
Or a vibe of what their relationship is!
What a shit situation :( x

If you can learn to screenshot the profile pic you could do a search on Google images to see if the picture is connected to any social media sites? Very often the profile pics are the same ones as FB for example?

I found whatsapp conversations on my ex's phone, I was decistated. With the messages I found it was obvious that he had cheated (he had arranged to have sex with one woman and the whole conversation before and after was on his phone), I took screen shots as he had a habit of making out I was seeing things. I kicked him out straight away, I was so angry and upset.

I think you need more evidence so I would wait a few days and check his phone again, take photos in case he deletes it and denies it ever happened, if he is having an affair he is likely to slip up soon. Hopefully you are wrong and there's an explanation for it.

Just got back from dropping my daughter off at her first day at primary school, what a fucking day for me to find this. I'm just at a loss to explain it, but I know if I manage to get hold of his phone later those messages will have gone. They weren't explicit or anything, just innocent sounding messages, but if you knew my DP you'd never expect him to message friends or family and end with a kiss. I don't know what to do next. I've checked Facebook and the number isn't linked to a profile. Our shared tablet is wiped and no FB apps or anything to try to get into, everything is on that bloody phone. I feel like I'm overreacting and it's nothing but I can't think of an explanation to not have someone's number saved with their name, and be wiping whole conversations. I'm due to take a pregnancy test tomorrow, i have been wishing for a baby for two years, this is the first time I'm hoping it's negative. Bastard.

So if I add the number to my WhatsApp/contacts the person's profile photo will come up? And they won't know?

Ow and a baby??
He ob has had unprotected sex if you are at risk of sti. .

Try putting the number into google to see if it comes up with a contact

Oh you poor thing. Deleting conversations is a clear sign he's hiding something though.

Need to know what was in the innocent sounding messages really.

The fertility clinic have just arranged the sti test as part of fertility investigations, so all routine, but it was his weird reaction to it that is now looking suspicious.

I can't remember the messages unfortunately, there were about 7,mainly from him, saying 'night x' 'I always want to see pics x' and one from the other person saying 'just got up to have breakfast x' just like a couple would text each other if they were apart for an evening, if that makes sense? I was too shocked and rushed to even think about taking a picture of the screen, it was all I could do to scribble the number down, I hope I have got it right.

Those kind of messages make it sound like his babyxxx

I can't believe he'd have an affair, I just can't.

It's clear he's having an affair but try not to let him know you know until you have worked out what you want to do and you're in control. Is there someone you could go on a mini break with? Get away and have some space to think

I can't believe he'd have an affair, I just can't.

Neither could I.
He was

I can't get away for a few days without really arousing suspicions, I need to have proof otherwise I'll torture myself with this. He'll be furious if I let on I accessed his phone, even more so if he's innocent. He's due to get a new phone in a few weeks, so he will probably have fingerprint locking and then I'm really screwed, I'm going to have to get more info from the phone before then, but it'll have to be when he's not expecting me to check, so he may be not have thought about deleting the messages

I don't think people ever thing their dp/dh would be the sort to have an affair. My ex treated me like I was his world, we did everything together and he would text me all day from work. Turned out when he was meant to be working one day he was actually arranging sex with someone else (and doing it).

I totally flew off the handle but I didn't have children with him so it was easy for me to just chuck him out. You need a plan, you need more evidence or he will just convince you that nothing's happening. Sit tight for a few days, check the phone again, take photos and make sure you have enough to prove something is going on. If he then admits to it then you will need to decide what to do next. It might be that he's having a emotional affair with someone at work, just a bit of flirting and chit chat with a female colleague? You need to find out more.

The fact he acted so weird about the routine STD check would have me worrying - don't have anymore unprotected sex with him, until you feel comfortable there's nothing untoward. Even if you have to make something up as a cover story for now.

It's difficult for anyone to say he is/he isn't having an affair with the information you have so far - but it is a little e suspicious.

If it were me, I'd spend a couple of days trying to get as much information as possible, then asking him outright what's going on.

It's awful but they do. I was married, been together 13 years, 4 children and a business......yep you guessed it xxx

I need to ring that number. I tried adding it to my contacts so it might bring up a WhatsApp profile but that hasn't worked. I don't know what to think or to feel, it's like this isn't happening. I don't want to blow it too early though, if there is something going on I need to be prepared