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Would you be bothered by this - DH travelling with female colleague and not telling me

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manechanger101 · 15/07/2017 14:31

DH travels quite frequently for work and is often in a different place every day of the week so we don't generally discuss where he is in any great detail - it will just be 'x today, Y tomorrow' etc. Recently he's started a new project which involves a flight to get to and last week he went there for two days. He told me that the two guys he'd previously travelled there with were already out there so I assumed he was going alone although he never actually said he was/I didn't ask.

He phoned when away as normal but he didn’t talk much about the trip when he came home. Few days later I found a pair of woman’s shoes in his car. Asked him about them he said 'oh they're Chloe’s from the other day', apparently when he went away she had gone with him. She works on the project too, I've heard of her before but had no idea he was travelling with her. She'd parked near the house and he'd driven her to the airport, they flew together, stayed in the same hotel, went for dinner with the others etc..

He says he doesn't understand why I'm annoyed, that he didn't think he needed to mention it and it's no different to when he travels with one of the guys, I'm just concerned cause it seems like he purposely didn't mention it.

There’s a few other things that bother me about this woman, like the fact that I’ve seen lots of messages from her in his email but don’t know if I’m being unreasonable to be bothered about the trip

OP posts:
Peppery123 · 27/01/2021 12:50

What was the outcome of this :/

IJustWantSomeBees · 27/01/2021 22:24

@BarchesterFlowers

Thank you for sharing that, it's very important to remember that women are put in situations like this all the time and it is extremely innapropriate on behalf of OP's husband since he is this woman's superior, so I don't think her responses to his gross messages can really give much insight as we have no idea whether she's feeling extremely uncomfortable right now.

IJustWantSomeBees · 27/01/2021 22:24

Oh sorry everyone, I didn't realise that this was a zombie thread.

GeeBranzi · 07/03/2021 05:08

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