Husband on Tinder

[sunshiney78]

My single friend just informed me that she saw my husband on Tinder. I downloaded the app and can see that's he's there. We were separated for a few months a year ago. Is it possible that this is his profile from then??!!😨

It's hard to let go of the life you thought you had, I understand that so well. But it sounds like it was a life you created for the two of you, you were the moral heart of it, and he wasn't an equal partner in it. Or in fact equal to you. His 'values' aren't yours - or anybody's with a moral compass - and you're free to now live a life where he doesn't get to play mindfuckery with you. He is an utter asswipe & your life is going to be immeasurably improved without him in it. Do the things that please you, buy the foods you like, watch programmes you and dd adore & plan little treats with family and friends. Be kind to yourself. You have done what it takes many women months or even years to do and that's getting rid of him. And part of being strong is letting yourself mourn what you have lost

Thank you for your kind words Prophet. its little things, like opening the wardrobe, and seeing a gaping hole, that take my breath away, but I keep telling myself it will get easier. Of course he is being very repentant now, begging for forgiveness etc. That doesn't make it easier.

Yes, now you've actually gone through with it he's begging forgiveness. When he was still there and you first said something he was arrogant and unopologetic. He can't just decide he's sorry because your not willing to put up with his shit anymore.

I for one am so proud you've stuck to your decision and I think you will find someone who deserves you and doesn't count tinder as a hobby.

Oh just get rid of him. He's a remorseless piece of crap. He has no respect for you, or himself.

Funny how all those previous other times when he was certain you were separated he was happily going on Tinder etc. What makes this time different in that he's begging and crying for forgiveness when according to him he's already gone through "separation" with you so many times already? His actions are proving to you that he never thought you and he had split up after the arguments...he's just your run of the mill cheater.

He sounds like a lawyer.
Hope you came to a good resolution for you and dd.

Collins7777,

This thread died nearly three years ago😉