Husband on Tinder

[sunshiney78]

My single friend just informed me that she saw my husband on Tinder. I downloaded the app and can see that's he's there. We were separated for a few months a year ago. Is it possible that this is his profile from then??!!😨

it’s you that makes me single and I have little say.

Aw, poor little helpless diddums!

That text is the most turgid pile of self-righteous, wanky drivel I've had to read since editing my secondary school creative writing magazine. He's not "single" every time you have a spat or difficult discussion and his first reaction when you hit a snag shouldn't be to go online to reassure himself that he's got control and could have a future while single.

Seriously, OP, fuck him right off. He's fucked off emotionally already anyway.

Poor DD5, I hate having to break up her family.

You aren't breaking up her family. She will still have her family, just in a different form, and anyway you're not the one who treated the family like it wasn't important by man hunting every time you have a spat.

Yes, I've sent FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse's message.
His reply was: "Whilst I believe it is fundamentally dysfunctional the frequency at which you want separation, I don’t actually disagree with what you have said in your email. I won’t try and justify it further, I’ll leave it at that."
What's funny is he came home yesterday all guns blazing demanding to see my phone & know why I had a Tinder account 😂 (the one I created to find his profile)

He's a cock.

Ugh...

Look, the guy if he loved you would be on the ground begging your forgiveness, trying anything to get you to understand how sorry he is, is he doing that, no, he's trying to justify his shitty behaviour, STILL.

Total cock.

I don’t actually disagree with what you have said in your email. I won’t try and justify it further, I’ll leave it at that

I'll leave it at that?! What a way to end a marriage. I would be completely gutted by his casual acceptance of this OP. It sounds like it has been over for a while.

I think it sounds like he doesn't really think it's over. I'm sure when he realises it is, he'll soon change his tune.

Whilst I believe it is fundamentally dysfunctional the frequency at which you want separation, I don’t actually disagree with what you have said in your email. I won’t try and justify it further, I’ll leave it at that.

Pompous twat.

This loser will be seeking to parade OW immediately. And will be a dick about separation: best get a good lawyer.

Never take him back OP. He sounds appalling! I promise you there are decent men out there but he is not and never will be one of them. It's obvious he has no respect for you from the tone of his comments.

Well rid!

(But poor you, I'm sorry)

Yes, he doesn't believe it's over. He's now lounging on the bed with his ipad. I walked into the room to fetch something & he says "so you're still divorcing me today" with a smirk. I said "yes" he says "just thought I'd check"

Yes, I know he'll be very difficult about the separation/divorce. I met him 2 years after his previous divorce, but I know his child maintenance payments to his ex wife were little and erratic.
Btw, he pretended to be a TOTALLY different person before we were married. I only realised what a dick he was after I fell pregnant.

Why is he still there?!

I asked him to leave yesterday. He said the earliest he can move all his stuff is Saturday. I think he hopes it'll blow over by then!!

Another vote to sling his sorry arse out...

to you OP

Dont let him talk his way out of it. Is he even packing?

Oh dear Lord. He considered himself 'single' every time you had an argument (that you weren't even aware were arguments)? And he's 'leaving it at that' (because he wants the last word)?

What an unadulterated twat. Hoping you'll feel guilty and change your mind...

Anyone else who wish they were there to see his smug face drop when you actually turf him out on Saturday?

You are going to let it blow over though, aren't you ?

You are going to let it blow over though, aren't you ?

Keep your resolve OP! What an arrogant twat!

He's moving out at the weekend? Nah. He's moving out tomorrow. He's packing tonight. I'd start emptying his shit out drawers and wardrobes and spreading your things out to take up the empty space.

Also your DD will be much better off if you lead by example and toss his sorry smirking arse out of your house.

Oh I'm definitely not letting it blow over!! I'm not sure how I'm going to physically get him out of the house, but he's going. If I didn't have DD, I would've packed up left today.
What he's done done is a part of it. How he's behaved after, is another part. And the final and probably, most important, is that he's not a good person.
I've been telling myself all these years, that I need to try & see the good in him, that I'm too much of an idealist, that maybe he's a mirror showing me my imperfections, that loving someone the right way can make them the right person. But I. Am. Done.

I had an ex like this, didn't take my threats of leaving him serious enough because I threaten to leave all too often and never followed through with it. On the day I caught him leading a double life with OW I left him and once it sunk in that this time it was for real I'd never seen a grown man crawl back on his knees before, ever, he realised I was serious and I was hounded for months. Fyi I never went back and apparently he still asks about me 6 years on. Sending you hugs hugs and cuddles OP

Huge hugs* sorry. Phone needs binned