Husband on Tinder

[sunshiney78]

My single friend just informed me that she saw my husband on Tinder. I downloaded the app and can see that's he's there. We were separated for a few months a year ago. Is it possible that this is his profile from then??!!😨

tell him to take a running jump, if we all went on it every time there were "issues" some of us wouldnt often be off it!

Will be married 7yrs in Aug. have DD5. Hasn't cheated before as far as I know. Does the fact that we were discussing separation last week make it a little forgiveable?

So his first instinct when you're having issues is to go look for someone else?

I'm sorry, but he doesn't sound like he's very committed to your relationship

If you were discussing separation and he was straight onto Tinder then it doesn't really sound like he wants to make it work.

That's very quick for him to try and move on and find someone else.

He's already interested in pursuing other relationships.

What Smeaton said.

Thanks. As you can imagine,I'm having trouble thinking straight at the moment.

Stay strong OP - have you got wine in for tonight?

I would be livid if this was my DH - to be honest, like others have said he doesn't exactly sound committed to this. Not cool to run to Tinder at the first sniff of trouble.

I would LTB tbh - save you a lot of inevitable heartache in the future.

You two having discussions about separation a week ago doesn't in no way make it ok for him to jump straight onto tinder!!!!!
What a rat.
Get rid.
Out of curiosity who out of you both is the one talking about separation?or is it a joint thing?

Ok, turns out he doesn't want forgiveness. He just popped himself on the couch, crossed his arms behind his head & said "I don't see what I did wrong" & proceeded to surf the Internet

Take action to leave now OP.

Either he doesn't want this relationship and he's a complete knob*;

Or he thinks your such doormat that he doesn't even need to make the effort. Oh and he's a knob*.

*knob is of course a massive understatement but I thought I'd watch my language.

Tell him you're signing up and looking for single men. Surely that's fine if he's done nothing wrong

So what about marriage vows, what about respect, what about not humiliating your partner, what about commitment, he's devoid of all then isn't he, you know what you need to do, looks pretty easy to me.

What a charmer.

Yeah I would be leaving or packing his bags.

Does he think it wasn't wrong because you were thinking of splitting or he doesn't want to be with you any more. I wouldn't have him sat in the sofa either way.

He thinks it wast wrong because we were thinking of separating.

If you were having issues that's one thing. However in that situation would you ever set up an online dating profile?? Ermm no! They are for single people or for attached people looking to cheat. That's it in a nutshell really isn't it? Was he single last week? No

No, we were sharing a bed, only had the conversation a few days previously. And I was busy working out in my head how we were going to work things out!

Clearly you aren't going to work things out, so tell him to leave and then he can Tinder away to his heart's content. After all, who can resist a man who lives with his mum

He sounds insensitive to say the least. My temptation is to say elbow him but you might want to think about if that is really what you want, is there something worth saving? Not sure I would trust him, but I have a massive cynicism about men.

It sounds like the loves to rile you up op.

I'd leave him Tindering away and go and find something more interesting and lovely to do instead.

So be can't even try for a few days to sort things out with you before going on tinder.

He sounds awful.

Prince Charming he ain't

Give this arrogant knob the shock of his life and tell him to fuck right off

I would end it just for his 'not letting the grass grow' attitude. Brief discussion about something huge and he's straight on to Tinder. Tell him to get to fuck. Shows how broken hearted he was - the wanker!