Husband on Tinder

[sunshiney78]

My single friend just informed me that she saw my husband on Tinder. I downloaded the app and can see that's he's there. We were separated for a few months a year ago. Is it possible that this is his profile from then??!!😨

Seriously if he thinks he can get over your relationship so quickly what do you mean to him ?

Shit my oh did this to me last year and said "we were going through shit so I put a profile on to see what was out there"

It's bullshit. Totally unacceptable. Hope you're ok x

I'm so sorry OP . He doesn't sound like he's interested in fighting for the relationship like you are. Look after yourself and DD5. Sending hugs.

He is a first A twat ! You deserve better op

Thanks. He's arrogantly admitted to being on Tinder yesterday, Sunday, last November & last summer because the relationship was "over" at those times. I don't remember these times, maybe we had an argument?
Not a shred of remorse, just self-justification. I don't usually swear, but I told him to f* off & it felt great! He's leaving this weekend apparently.
It just got me thinking of all the posts I've read on here from women wondering whether to tell a friend/acquaintance that their husbands have been disloyal; for God's sakes, just tell them!
I'm a professional with 2 degrees, but I feel like such an idiot. My family live abroad too, so feeling a bit alone. Poor DD5, I hate having to break up her family.

I don't even believe he only created it last week

Tell him to pack and leave now.

Well I was gonna say Leave the bastard but thankfully he's already going. Good riddance to bad rubbish...

Sorry OP, you must be in shock. He should leave. You need space.

Good for you OP and you are being a fab role model for your DD

Let him go the lying snake. No remorse just shows exactly what you must meen to him.

Was meeting other men the first thing on your mind when you were having problems? I expect not!! Just shows what his priorities in life are doesn't it. He sounds like an absolute arrogant twat!!

All relationships go through rough patches. Decent men put effort into communication, sorting out issues, and creating a relationship that is better than ever. Decent men do not resort to Tinder whenever things get a little tricky. OP you deserve so much more, and so does your DD. X

You're bot breaking up the family. He is.

Spot on comment by @bitoutofpractice

Was going to say the same as BitOutOfPractice. He's done this.

"Thinking of separating" and the first thing he does is jump on Tinder? Seriously? Leave him.

Good on you OP. I'm so sorry for what have been through. Hope you are okay! It's so upsetting to hear these stories but it enables the rest of us to be more realistic... I think you made the right decision if it's anything. I cannot stand arrogant, cheating men who feel they deserve sympathy .

Yesterday 22:22 BitOutOfPractice

You're bot breaking up the family. He is.

A hundred timws this. You're being strong and decisive. Your Dd is lucky to have you

Why do I only get quoted when there's a typo? Sorry

I see I was also right that this isn't a recent thing for him.

He keeps going on in various condescending ways about how he can't believe I'm ending a marriage and depriving DD of a family because he "opened an app a few times". (He claimed he just looked, but hadn't messaged anyone)

Well you already know he's a liar so why would you believe him about that?

Have you heard about the script OP? He's moved very quickly past the denial stage to the minimising bit now hasn't he?

You're well rid OP. What arrogant, nasty and cheating behaviour.

Evidence suggests that he shagged OW when you were separated last year. Sounds like getting back together with him was a mistake.

Just tell him there's nothing more to say other than sorting out financials and child arrangements.
Tell him he's clearly not that into working at a relationship and it's him breaking up a family by putting himself out there while he's still living as husband and wife and doting father.
Tell him to piss ICC and disengage.
He's probably hoping youl roll over and let him be by brushing it under the carpet like he's trying.
He thinks your calling his bluff so he's playing it down.
Once he realises your deadly serious he will change his approach.
Watch with caution

Of course he's messaged other women!! Why else would he go on the app?! God he's an idiot isn't he if he expects you to believe that?!

HES the one who's made this happen! He's completely trying to make you feel like your being silly for your reaction but your not we call all promise you that! You have something he doesn't...self respect!

Completely disengage, he's completely following the script like a pro.... don't fall for the lies and manipulation!