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Shagged my boss

170 replies

LissyWine · 07/07/2017 16:02

...Actually, my bosses boss Shock. Last night we went for a "quick pint" which turned into an extremely drunken session and we ended up in bed. I'm so ashamed. I've fancied him for a while and he's a really nice guy but never thought for one minute anything would happen. Certainly not hopping into bed with him without a few dates first!! What do I do before I next see him, call him and just check everything's cool and that things won't be awkward?? Or just act like it never happened??

OP posts:
DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2017 16:05

Act like it never happened, omg don't call him!

Wormulonian · 07/07/2017 16:07

If you both didn't make plans to meet again after dtd then I would decide that it never happened.

EBearhug · 07/07/2017 16:08

Act like it never happened, but be prepared for him to say something in case he''s failed to take this advice and doesn't also act like it's never happened.

chowmeinchick · 07/07/2017 16:08

Please don't ring him.

If it was a drunk thing, you clearly wasn't thinking straight, so it will be awkward if you bring it up.

Just pretend it didn't happen.

Iris65 · 07/07/2017 16:09

I would do the grown up thing and call him. He must be more anxious than you in the current climate of consent and sexual harrassment. He is in a precarious position IYKWIM

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2017 16:14

Was he good?Grin

misit · 07/07/2017 16:18

I'm with Dame. Did it go well OP? Can you remember?

drummergirl34 · 07/07/2017 16:30

why the hell are you posting it here? do you want congratulating? do you want the ego boost? do you want to boast about it? is it about the power game to you? my, I'm sure all your co-workers will fall to your feet.

this is all rather... immature.

newdocket · 07/07/2017 16:32

drummergirl, she's asking for advice. don't see the need to be nasty.

newdocket · 07/07/2017 16:33

and on that note, i'm with the 'pretend it didn't happen' gang.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2017 16:33

Wtf drummer? Confused

Original poster
LissyWine · 07/07/2017 16:36

Yes your post is rather immature? An ego boost? Don't need it thanks mate, my bosses boss done that enough for me last night 😂 (Ok, I can never resist a little immaturity!)

Seriously though, I've just never been in this situation. We're always very professional with each other at work and have to travel together a lot so never did I expect to be in this situation! Genuinely just want advice off anyone how to handle it.

And yes, he was good 😏

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TheMysteriousJackelope · 07/07/2017 16:36

Act like it never happened. Don't call him.

He is the one who should be worried about you 'being cool', not you, as he is in a senior position to you in the company. Any repercussions to your job that occur due to this would open your employer up to a lawsuit.

You've known this man for a while and are familiar enough with him to know he is nice, so I don't get the whole angst over not having dated him first.

Original poster
LissyWine · 07/07/2017 16:37

And in honesty I DEFINITELY don't want my coworkers to find out

OP posts:
DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2017 16:37

It might happen again...

InvisibleKittenAttack · 07/07/2017 16:38

drummergirl - did you read the OP at all? She seems more embarrassed and unsure how to ask about it than looking for congratulations or an ego boost.

OP - am assuming you are both single. (Perhaps drummergirl assumes you both are not). If so, don't mention it or call him. I'd act like nothing happened unless he asks you out. Don't tell anyone at work. It might be worth checking (discreetly!) if your company has a policy on relationships in the work place. (Some want you to declare it, while most people don't until it's serious, still might be worth making sure no one else will be gossiping).

Many long married couples started off as coworkers who thought the other one was a bit tasty, just be careful to not be as open about what's happened as you might if he was the same level as you. There could be bitterness if you are promoted or if your boss (who answers to the bloke you shagged) finds out.

Figaro2017 · 07/07/2017 16:38

And yes, he was good

Ask for a repeat?

SweetLuck · 07/07/2017 16:40

Do you want him to be your boyfriend Grin

WomblingThree · 07/07/2017 16:44

Is he single?

mycathasishoos · 07/07/2017 16:44

Is he married?
Are you married?
Are you both in long term relationships?

If No to all the above, then I don't see why you can't call him Confused
If Yes, then he's a shit and you're not much better and you need to keep well away from each other.

MrsOverTheRoad · 07/07/2017 16:45

Send him a bunch of flowers and write "Thanks for a good time"

Grin
WinnieTheWitch50 · 07/07/2017 16:47

If you're both single then.....
Seeing as he was good then you might want a repeat performance Wink

CremeFresh · 07/07/2017 16:49

I shagged my boss .

Then married him .

Just saying Grin

oldtrees · 07/07/2017 16:50

Are you both single? Would you want it to develop into something?

As he's not your direct boss, that's better than if you had to deal with him every day.

Lots of relationships start at work. Why not? We spend so much flipping time there. Look forward to your next trip away Grin

If you don't want anything to happen, just forget it, and don't get drunk with him while travelling or it'll happen again!

Flyinggeese · 07/07/2017 16:51

'Extremely drunken' and you say it was good sex? I'm not buying that.

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