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Shagged my boss

170 replies

LissyWine · 07/07/2017 16:02

...Actually, my bosses boss Shock. Last night we went for a "quick pint" which turned into an extremely drunken session and we ended up in bed. I'm so ashamed. I've fancied him for a while and he's a really nice guy but never thought for one minute anything would happen. Certainly not hopping into bed with him without a few dates first!! What do I do before I next see him, call him and just check everything's cool and that things won't be awkward?? Or just act like it never happened??

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DancesWithOtters · 07/07/2017 16:55

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2017 16:55

Can't you have good sex when you're drunk then?

PinkHeart5911 · 07/07/2017 16:56

Why be ashamed? You wanted sex, you had sex so what!

Just be cool women, just walk in to work and treat him as you notmally would.

I had a temp job when I was at college and fucked my boss a fair few times, very good he was too. There was no weirdness between us at work, it was just a sexual thing.

titsbumfannythelot · 07/07/2017 16:57

Surely you can enjoy a good rogering after a few sherries.

Goingtobeawesome · 07/07/2017 17:01

Ffs it was totally consensual. Why suggest it could lead to a law suit.

caffelatte100 · 07/07/2017 17:01

Maybe this can develop into something more permanent, would you want that?

pilates · 07/07/2017 17:02

Are you both in relationships?

If so, I would avoid him and hope it doesn't get out.

rolopolovolo · 07/07/2017 17:04

start looking for another job. not kidding.

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LissyWine · 07/07/2017 17:05

Thanks for your replies, you lot have me in stitches 😂 Yes we're both single (well, he's separated). I don't think I do to be honest, we literally have to talk shop on the phone daily and practically sit next to each other. Also I'm just getting over a turmultuos break up and not sure I'm ready. Seriously, thanks for your replies though 😁

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GrandDesespoir · 07/07/2017 17:05

I suppose this is going to be another of those threads where OP and "embarrassing ONS" end up living happily ever after. Sigh.

DancesWithOtters · 07/07/2017 17:06

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Original poster
LissyWine · 07/07/2017 17:06

I'm as surprised as you, my ex couldn't get it up after 3 pints 😂

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Flyinggeese · 07/07/2017 17:06

Re the sex and drink thing, definitely not, but maybe it's just me!

OP do you have each other's numbers? Are you both single? Leave him to contact you, I reckon.

Flyinggeese · 07/07/2017 17:08

OP this is what I meant! Extremely drunk and erection? Nope never seen it. I've learnt something today.

Original poster
LissyWine · 07/07/2017 17:08

Probably 😁... just not with each other 😏

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Sugarpiehoneyeye · 07/07/2017 17:09

You did nothing wrong.😄
I wouldn't call him though, let him do the running.
If something comes of it, so be it !

Original poster
LissyWine · 07/07/2017 17:09

Why?? At my company every fookers at it. Felt a bit left out till now 😝

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Original poster
LissyWine · 07/07/2017 17:10

😂 I feel so much more relaxed after reading these replies!

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MickeyRooney · 07/07/2017 17:10

No. Don't call him.
Pretend it never happened.
Is he truly separated?

AcrossthePond55 · 07/07/2017 17:11

I agree, act like it never happened.

If you are both single and he 'follows up' by actually asking you out on a 'real' date, decide whether or not 'shitting where you eat' is worth it. Don't put your job at risk.

If he follows up with a proposition (or one or both of you is married) either continue to play blind-drunk-amnesia or just say "We both got carried away and I think we need to put it behind us. No repeat performances.

rolopolovolo · 07/07/2017 17:11

you seem very relaxed about the fact that if this got out, you'd probably have to leave your job.

oh well, enjoy filing that lawsuit!

rolopolovolo · 07/07/2017 17:14

Why?? At my company every fookers at it. Felt a bit left out till now

No offense but you're an idiot.

If everyone in your company is indeed sleeping with people in direct authority over them, then enjoy making 7/10ths of what a man makes because women never win in these kinds of workplaces.

If they are fucking each other and you can't tell the difference between your boss and a colleague, then I'm really hoping you are using bravado to cover fear.

YOUR BOSS is going to fume if he thinks that you have some leverage over him. Mr SEX BOSS has got to understand that he's legally liable. Good luck when he tries to cover his arse.

Original poster
LissyWine · 07/07/2017 17:15

Are you American?

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Sidge · 07/07/2017 17:16

rolo why would she have to leave her job for shagging her boss's boss? Unless it happened in work time over the customer service desk or something I don't see what the problem is.

I mean, if everyone who shagged a co-worker got fired the UK economy would grind to a halt...

problembottom · 07/07/2017 17:18

Well firstly I wouldn't worry, it happens all the time. I'd just carry on regardless rather than having a big convo but then I'm not one for big convos.

Me and DP used to work together, he was very senior to me. We shagged secretly for about two years and it was all very exciting. Eight years on, I'm still stuck with him. So you never know what will happen.

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