How would you feel? (Stag do)

[DiamondShine]

In a close circle of friends, all couples, the lads are currently on a stag weekend abroad so us girls got together to for takeaway and drinks tonight.

How would you feel if your the only person who hasn't heard from your man since they landed yesterday afternoon? Literally radio silence.

I don't think anyone got married to get divorced OP... the choice is, of course, yours as to whether or not you choose to stay with him and work through your problems but please don't consider it a weakness to walk away from a man who doesn't treat you in the way you deserve.

When I said I didn't get married to get divorced, I meant it as in to walk straight away without trying to fix it.

We have never had issues before.

Trying to fix it simply isn't down to you imo. He's the one who fucked up. I'm sorry he's been such a twat.

I think if I was you I would not throw your marriage away just for this....I would work things out.....the grass is never greener on the other side....same old grass..and better the devil you know than the one you really don't know....everyone deserves a second chance..wishing you all the very best

What the hell user?!! The grass is never greener?! Utter shite sorry.

But having said that, do what feels right for you op. But don't for one second let him think this is something that an happen again. X

Rushed to HDU, respiratory arrest

The ridiculous husband here thought the "grass was greener"

A weekend of freedom to snort coke, taint his marriage and humiliate his wife.

He got his greener grass. Op, don't divorce him if you don't want to. I for one don't think thrre is evidence he actually shagged someine.

But really ? You want to keep this tool as a father figure to your children ?

I think your comment about "not getting married to get divorced" is a bit of an insult to women who have divorced for less than this and were entirely justified in doing so

It wasn't intended as an insult and I apologise to anyone who has taken it that way. If they feel like they made the right choice for them and their families then that's great for them if they are happy.

I would never want to offend anyone!

Thank all so much for your support, I really do appreciate it but I think it's time I bow out now.

Good luck op x

I hope he comes through for you. He has a lot of grovelling to do.

It was a one off situation....everyone deserves a second chance

Let him stew for a few days OP, he needs to realise what he has put at risk xx

Good luck, you have handled this really well. He sounds like he made a very silly mistake to me. That is obviously your call and I hope you sort it soon xxxx.

Don't let the straight talking on here scare you away OP. There's support here for you if you want it. I've been reading from the start and just wanted to say you've been very dignified and strong. You need to get yourself some rest so you can deal with this with a clear head. If you do decide to bow out of the thread I hope it all works out one way or another.

I didn't marry so I could divorce either but did so because I had a husband who behaved much like yours. Good luck whatever you decide, and I think the grass is well greener on the other side

The OP has no choice as to whether this `tool' is a father figure to his daughter, regardless of what she thinks of him or whether she divorces him. Being a colossal fuck up does not make him any less a parent (otherwise I'd hazard there would be a LOT more kids in care).

Good luck OP, I hope it works out for you

Good luck, OP the decision is ultimately yours but please be careful with what you believe - first time trying coke? Or is it a bigger issue? Because I've been there and it turns out there was a huge coke problem that I'd never even suspected. I stayed around, I helped him get help and things were great. We didn't stay together long term but it wasn't to do with the drugs, we just grew apart.

Whatever the outcome, I hope you manage to be happy. Sorry it's so crap x x

Good luck op. X

the grass is never greener on the other side....same old grass..and better the devil you know than the one you really don't know....everyone deserves a second chance
Poppycock.

However OP the vest of luck in whatever you decide and I hope you're happy x

Thinking of you....I will probably be flamed here but hey ho.....I have always lived by the adage " every dog is allowed one bite".... As long as he didn't cheat , beat, steal or lie I personally wouldn't throw a good marriage otherwise away on this....and that's the question that's you And only you can answer.....is he worth a second and final bite???? Not for me or anyone else to say and I totally get that everyone's opinions on here are governed by their own experiences....I'm not ok-Ing what he did not by a long shot ...no siree but ultimately your choice.... Sending you support xx

Make your decisions based upon the future, the real future with a cold light of day head on. Don't make them based on the past.

So sorry you're going through this. I hope you manage to sleep tonight and that you have a clearer head to think in the morning

Sometimes In life it pays to be the bigger more mature person in the relationship.....it is sometimes not a good thing to make big decisions when emotions are running high. Take some time to let things calm down and things are abit more settled in your mind....wishing you every good wishes in the future.

I like what he's done there - come up with something bad enough to allow a vent but not bad enough to warrant a proper split.

Wouldn't believe it for a second. The hen do dare is about as believable as the coke excuse.

As a veteran of far too many stag dos here's what you need to know OP - he cheated on you. Do with that info what you will.

As for not being the type - at the end of each stag do it is often extremely revealing just how many of the 'not the types' end up feeling very sheepish while some of the more obvious felons are good as gold.

Personally I find it a bit weird that he went away for the weekend and didn't once ask how his kid was. Sounds like a bit of a prick to me.

Good luck op, hope you get some rest tonight.