Interesting perspective anti - but for me I see the exact opposite. Men have to generally make the first move. If I sat there and waited for women to approach me, I'd have two or three 'hey there' messages a week, all from women I just don't fancy whatsoever. And so many women have profiles that say 'just ask' - which immediately puts all the onus on us to be curious yet not intrusive, witty yet not be obviously trying too hard..
Some conversations feel like trying to get blood from a stone. Monosyllabic, never once ask questions about me. Dull dull dull.
I think it's both people's responsibility to be funny, interesting, interested, insightful, whatever. Yes you're the prize but so are they. It's just that in most conversations you're not the right prize for each other.
I let conversations drop quickly if they're not putting their effort in. I'm generally more interesting (to me, anyway :) ) and if someone isn't interested enough to ask questions and tell me what they think about stuff - if there isn't a connection - then I'll move on.
That said, I haven't been on OLD in weeks as I'm up to date twelve or so with MissTattoo. I made her dinner last night and breakfast this morning and she's just gone home.
It is nice. No angst, no awkwardness. I like things the way they are at the moment and so does she so we're just settling into a pattern of her coming round here sometimes so we can watch a film, or meeting for lunch, or going out somewhere once every week or so.
Like I said. It's nice.