The Dating Thread 119 | Summer days, drifting away...

[pringlecat]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.

1. If it's not fun, stop.
2. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Checking in again to say thanks especially to fireyfighter the gorgeous man at work and I worked together today n it was fun. We spent our break talking kids and lives then....

..... went and kissed in woods at lunch but not for long enough he is so sexy - he also said he's totally sure about holiday

However im a bit unsure now it's like he's a bit too good at it all, a bit too experienced, knows a bit too much what he wants. I reckon I seriously need to chill out n forget him a bit to make him keener right now I'm too nervous and amazed he likes me - and he knows it - and that annoys me

Does cooling off if you feel too intense work ?

It's the problem of online dating vs real life dating. Online is supposed to make it easier and I think it did years ago but now it's a minefield.

Has anyone read an article recently about how online dating has changed men's behaviour patterns particularly in their 40s as they can get over the sweet shop idea - might have been the other thread

One thing that surprised me was the guy I like just asked me how many men Ive been with. I told him since becoming a mother which is under 5 n he asked about before stupidly I looked embarrassed and didn't say "oh hundreds" like I used to

Do guys ask how many men you've been with? Am sure I have t been asked since uni!

Wow shiny new thread thanks Pringle. Sounds like you are thinking strategically about dating, which hopefully means more and better opportunities!

DD I have let men down gently by saying something like "I'm really sorry, but I don't think there's a spark between us. Maybe it's just me I find dating can feel really difficult, you didn't do anything wrong. Best wishes for the future."

Trying not to OI in Mr Cook as he writes lovely messages, but we've only met twice. My exH is being a complete fuckwit idiot at the moment and I am craving kindness so I am a bit more vulnerable to OI.

Squeeks I wouldn't ask how many nor expect to be asked I do ask for a STI check early on, which I do myself if it becomes serious as takes 30min including travel time .

I have Netflix and never use it. I let my mate use it for his little girl, would rather get some use than no use!!

If someone shows up on your 'people you may know' list on Facebook does that mean they have looked at your profile? Mr Surf has appeared on mine, I do speak to him on whatsapp but we have no friends in common on Fb. I haven't heard from him at all today though I'm not really bothered.

I did have a name for my other iron it I forgot what I called him, he's the one who has 6 children. I will call him Mr local as he's closer than most my irons. I am hoping to meet him Sunday but am keeping my oprptions open so won't ask him yet.

Did you find out if they were all from his marriage, Lovemusic?

Hey LM, it's the what's app connection that is pushing him through to your people you may know list.

I ran some tests on this with new FB profiles a couple of months back just to be conclusive and the don't come through from profile views.

I didn't Bant, from what he has said it sounds like they are from one partner, it doesn't bother me if they are from 2 partners but obviously if they were from 6 it would be a bit worrying. I don't want to be too nosey, I don't even know if he's potential relationship material, I would like to meet him though and see if there's a spark before asking him too many questions.

Thanks Info I did hear that whatsapp is owned by Facebook so links together? My account is quite secure so if he did look he wouldn't see much other than my profile and cover photo.

So glad info as I have cyber stalked looked at Mr Cook but I haven't told him. If I pop up on his fb and he asks, I can mention the what's app link first!

Mr cook is normal but seems to belong to lots of groups and has a very high number of friends. Wondering if he has time to date.

Lana that is a great idea - he's just come in to see me im seriously wondering about this guy who reckons he's Edward Grey - ex military n a teacher - I'm feeling a bit bossed about!

doesnt Facebook pick up from contacts? I had an old old flame appear on people I may know a month ago and I'm sure I only emailed him (2005)

Yeah it picks from contacts but in the case above it's the what's app that causes them to appear. They are indeed owned by the same company.

Just looking at a profile with no other connection is not enough to appear on people you may know.

Just got a message from someone that I need help understanding:

'u are neva 42 x'

Is this English?

Reply back "I iz"

Ha ha like it!!

Place marking. Didn't get a birthday text from either of my irons today so they may well be out of the fire by bed time!

Happy birthday Queenofthedrivensnow

Happy birthday Queen

I just received a message from Mr Surf, I think it was about the course he is on, I didn't understand a word of it 😂, I think he's far too intelligent for me. I feel like working class and hes middle, not sure why he's interested in me, he must have noticed when we met that I'm not a highly intelligent person.

Thanks folks. Still quiet on the iron front so line casting soon. What sites are you lot using now?

Happy birthday Queen chuck them and try again, you are the prize unless you didn't say it was your birthday and then how would they know?

LM no one should make you feel unintelligent. That would be a real turn off for me is he arrogant?

Mr Cook and I had a third date and we are exclusively dating!

Lana I don't think he's arrogant, I think it's just me that has the problem , his life style is just so different than mine, hes well travelled, well educated, has no ties and is quite well off. I'm a single mum, I don't earn big money and have hardly any qualifications and I live in a council house. Why would he be interested in me?

They both knew! So no deal I am the prize!!

Everyone has their own taste LM and we can't help whom we fall in love with, that's the beauty of it and why it's so exciting. Nobody is better than anyone else and you are the prize.

So my date for tonight blew me out before I even got there, at least I didn't waste an evening on that.
So after 3 ghostings plus that, I'm knocking it on the head for now. I'm just sick of being messed about.