Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

What a sweet outcome!!!

I bet he feels like a right embarrassed prat. And you can walk away with your head held high.

OP you have got half of Mumsnet in awe and in love with you, that man doesn't know what he has let go....but he will one day soon.

I have a tilting womb AND endometriosis and I have a child....

Hahahaha omfg!!!! Love love love this !!!! I said yesterday I would be proud to have you as a friend, I mean that even more so today!!!!!....talk about Revenge being a dish best served cold!!!! Ah Marilyn....what goes around comes around.....take care lovely lady, there is far better for you out there.....xx

I can't get over him saying I must be having an afAir bc I'm bi?!

Where's he got that from?

Marilyn - it doesn't matter what he's said. It's just lame excuses to cover his shitty behaviour. Bi, gay, straight - doesn't matter. It's an attempt to deflect from the crap stunt he's pulled. It must be irritating to not know why he said that but he has a warped view of reality anyway so it's completely irrational

He might as well have said I dumped Marilyn cos she wears socks and doesn't like lamb chops. Ridiculous, non-sensical and just makes him look dumb(er)

Cause bisexual means greedy and unable to restrain oneself? I had an ex who believed this. He fucked around on me too. I think it's just another handy excuse.

Also, presumably, he thinks he sounds less of a dick saying it's because you're bi rather than because of your fertility concerns. It's like grades of twattishness.

He sounds like he's enough to turn any straight woman gay anyway 😂

Perhaps it was you Anna really wanted all along.

Marilyn honey, he's just a childish shit slinging arse wipe.....he's shown you who he is!!!! A boy!!! Not a man....lashing out because the OW doesn't want him......would be a totally different story if she had welcomed him with open arms...he is the problem....!!! What a twat!!! X

tomorrow at the....... OFFICE........ is going to be hilarious..... aherrmmm

OP you are actually my hero. You're wonderful!

My hsband was his mums surprise because she too had a tilted womb so it is possible obviously!

Wow he really cannot take responsibility for his actions can he! It is gob-smacking that he is blaming you for finding out before he had her hookedl!

Talk about the best form of defence being a good offence!

What a stupid waste. Destroyed everything he had and your past with him for a pretty face.

So glad he is getting his comeuppance.

If he insists on coming back do you have somewhere you can go or a separate room?

He's going to look as rough as a badger's arse going into the office tomorrow. Shame

Sweet sweeet karma!

I think you can double up on your lucky escape.....you're not going to have that as a MIL!

Ah yes you can imagine the office conversation

"Good weekend"?

"Not exactly"

gosh OP, you are amazing!!!
Stay strong

I've lurked on MN for around 5 years and never posted before. But... OP, you are a fucking legend. Funny, clever, warm, strong. You're my new spirit animal and Henry the Eighth-of-an-inch will come crawling back full of apologies and woe is me bullshit. Soz babes, off with YOUR head.

Marilyn you are awesome

What I wouldn't give to be a fly on the office wall tomorrow

Can I shake your 🤚 op? You have played a blinder and kept your dignity while he has lost everything. I hate women like her , casually f&&k their married or unavailable colleagues with never a thought for the devastation it causes. She is due some serious karma too but for now I wish you a good nights sleep tonight knowing you have dodged a massive bullet

Soz babes, off with YOUR head.

Just love this!!