Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

He was probably giving her a dripfeed of how hard his homelife was, how stuck he was and how no-one understood him to try and slowly pull her more and more into being his One True Love and saviour.

Hes no-doubt furious that his controlling awful wife that he needs rescuing from has now cut him loose - whos he going to be saved from now?

Have you still got the earrings? How about a making a found e mail with a photo of them. Circulate round his office, perhaps say they returned home from work with your husband, but they can't be yours because they're a bit on the slutty side

I love that easily

Omg I love this.
He really is a complete and utter self involved wanker isn't he.
I reckon somewhere somebody is watching over you op. You've been allowed to see who he really is and get the fuck out of it!

You are clearly meant for much much better things.

Congratulations!

PS - and you now of course know as sure as fuckhell, what you DON'T want!!

I'd get my ears pierced and next time you see him to hand him his things be wearing them

OP this is working out just fine.

Your ex obviously has the insight and awareness of a toilet brush. Take no notice of anything he has said to you. He knows nothing. Clearly! She doesn't want him. Hilarious.

Love it when it works out like this.

Oh you terrible woman! Scaring his brood mare before he had chance to lure her in with the promise of filling her womb whilst simultaneously crushing her 'challenging' spirit!

He is, obviously, a grade A piece of crap. But what's getting my goat (on your behalf) is his mother's attitude. Does she call into his work and berate his boss if he gives him a tough deadline? Will she stalk the OW for daring to dump her darling boy? Who the hell does she think she is calling you with an attitude ??

"Can someone please tell Anna she can collect her earrings from me, exP forgot to take them when I threw him out."

Do what easily said but also put "for upto date news on the recent shenanigans please refer to mumsnet Mystery earrings thread"

Marilyn although we are all reveling in your waste of space ex's comeuppance, there must still be enormous pain and grief for you as you come to terms with the loss of what you thought he was.

Please look after yourself as you come to terms with your unexpected new life and watch out for the temptation to feel any ounce of pity for him when he comes back grovelling to you that it was all a terrible mistake. Because he will.

So you don't want him at yours, Anna Boleynskaya doesn't want him at hers. His mate and his girlfriend don't want him at theirs.

That leaves....

His mum who fortunately sees only the good in him.

I've followed your thread since the beginning and am in awe of your strength. You are an incredible woman and one who I would be proud to call a friend if I knew you.

I'm so sorry that your ex has done this to you. What an complete bastard he is. Threw away a great relationship with you to boost his utterly selfish and pathetic ego. What an sad, deluded little man he has shown himself to be. The things he said to you about your infertility are fucking unforgivable.

He has certainly shown you just what a cunt he is.

Although I am obviously delighted at the enormously shite situation he has now found himself in, all completely self inflicted, I am very aware of the horrendous devastation you must be feeling. Please be kind to yourself, know that none of this is your fault, lean heavily on your friends and family and know just how much better your life will be without this arsehole in it, spoiling it.

Whoever would have thought that would blow up in his wretched face

Fuck him and his nasty ass mother op

Onward and upward op

No surprises at how's it's all turned out. Glad that you realise that you are better off out of the relationship!

OP what a wild fucking ride reading this thread was. I am ready to leave my husband for you - you sound so strong and fucking hilarious honestly think I am in love

marylyn can I just say, I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was 19 after years of suffering. I also have a tilted womb.

I was told my chances of conceiving naturally were virtually nil. I tried for 9 years before my dd was conceived completely out of the blue.

I am now the proud owner of 6!! Amazing dc, all natural. Pregnancy can "cure" endometriosis fwiw.

Just a positive story going forward for you.

he turned up at hers yesterday and she froze him out and told him he wasn't supposed to leave me!!
Mwahaha! Beautiful . Some posters predicted she was only interested because he was unavailable didn't they.

I love the fact that it'll be another few weeks till his credit card bill hits and he will feel like a total arsehole paying off those dinners
Oh yes! That'll sting won't it

Seems she has shown his true colours to you.

"Can someone please tell Anna she can collect her earrings from me, exP forgot to take them when I threw him out." - Classy but wonderfully evil

He's done you a favour by being so awful. If he'd been a bit gentler you'd be in more of a turmoil now as to whether it would be worth giving him a second chance.

I do wonder if he'd managed to piss off the OW in some way, so she'd dumped him mentally but to totally ruin him planted the earrings?

Anyway, OP, I echo haffdonga; i want to reach into the internet and scoop you up and give you a massive cuddle.

You are obviously a fucking legend but you will emotionally crash at some point. And I hope that knowing that a bunch of ladies utter lunatics on the internet are giving you a virtual hand hold and loving you hard at what's a shitey, mind blowing time.

Stay strong OP. You're a hero, and heroes are allowed to weep for lost dreams x

Fucking yes! So in the space of a few days he's lost you, Anne bolinski and his mates.....slow hand clap. Crack open the champagne lovely.

Thank you so much James my mother conceived at nearly forty with a tilting womb so I know it can happen!

Karma is a bitch eh did t take long...

OP you've been amazing and strong and you are soooooo much better off without him.

What you need to do is find the most gossipy person at his workplace and let them know what's going on. With the addition of them returning the earrings if you like.

Often this is the receptionist, as they know everyone (there is also the bonus of easy access to the receptionist). But, sometimes they are irritatingly professional.

I will never be able to look at a pair of earrings again, without thinking of you...with love and awe Marilyn. If she's Anne Boleyn, you're Elizabeth 1st. Okay, she wasn't gorgeous like you, but what a strong woman hey? The thing that really puts the icing on the cake is the fact that he has to face Ms Boleynski - and the rest of the work force - every bloody day. It's going to take years to live it down!!