Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

Amazing.

So, hang on, he's lying low while mutual friends basically try and see whether he can come back? Basically try and find a home for him, like some warped RSPCA officials working with hard-to-place men from the Cheating Bastards Shelter?

How utterly humiliating, because this must be kind of with his knowledge - 'you don't have to take him back' - that kind of negotiation language wouldn't be happening without there having been some sort of conversation with him where he's more or less given the nod to them contacting you to see what you say...

oh my god you couldn't make it up

This isn't my bestie who went round there but Another lady, in case he 'needed anything' ie: for gossip.

*he never mentioned kids to Anna boleynski
*he 'knows' I'm probably having a affair too because I'm bisexual
*he was paralytically drunk
*i am a controlling bitch for asking him to leave
*he could have got away with it if it had gone on a bit longer!!!

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OP, you are fab. Stay strong x

Ok it's not that classy to send his things to the office - but we need another way of making sure as many people as possible know about it.

Any ideas for a classier way of spreading the gossip around the office, in case he manages to persuade her to keep it quiet?

What did Mumsy say when you sent her his texts?

*he could have got away with it if it had gone on a bit longer!!!

What does that even mean?

I scared Anna away by dumping him if they' gone on a bit longer she would have come round, is what I got from it

Does he mean if she'd binned him off before you found out? Has he accidentally been quite self aware there?

Mate says it's clear she enjoyed the wining and dining from married man but now he's single wouldn't touch him with extendable barge pole

So she sounds lovely

OP I fucking love you! I have never felt so happy to read your message saying she doesn't want him. Actual fist pumps in the air here!!! Hahaha in your face ex!

This thread has kept me enthralled all weekend. First l was sad, then outraged, and now thrilled at the absolute shit storm of Karma, that has landed on the arseholes head!

Well wether the earrings were a mistake or a plant they have done you a massive favour! So glad you know all and can clear-sightedly walk away, with extra determination to be the vibrant and pithy and funny woman you clearly are, and never a paler version of yourself just to fit in with a man.

Oh sweetie, it is like a bereavement only feels worse just now. Never liked my daughters dp...10 years later they broke up and shortly after she found he had been cheating. That was 4 years ago and she has been with her gorgeous new partner for 2 years. You will get over him, realise his nastiness is just to make himself feel less like a loser.

Delurking to say Op you are fucking fabulous and Karma really kicked arse for that wankstain!

Cheers 🍷🍷

Now I know it's all raw and you are bound to have some wobbles but don't forget everything you've said. You no longer have to diminish yourself and your personality for that cock. Get your own place, hold your head high and go find someone who deserves you!

So its YOUR fault for finding out too quickly?

YOU dumping him before she fell for him meant she has been scared off?

Is he really that delusional?

Ha, I'm so glad he's getting his comeuppance. He's totally blown it. Good for you Marilyn.

I've just read 36 pages of this thread..

OP you are so fabulous!

The ex... complete waste of skin and utter twunt!

Keep on being you!

OP, you are fabulous

OP I think I love you. The Anne Boylen line in particular

Oh op, you are such a bitch for spoiling his fun by reacting to the news of his affair in such an awful way.
You could have just said "oh dear you are having an affair. Never mind. What would you like for your dinner darling"