Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

QueenLaBeefah yes, it does indeed

Just caught up.
OP you are a total catch and I am in love with you. Ex is a fucking bell and I am revelling in his misery. KARMA IS A BITCH.

My pleasure Mavis:

'Obviously you don't have to take him back but he is on the tenancy and she doesn't want him'

I'd just like to remind everyone that on top of this, he's got a credit card bill....

Omg that's brilliant! Serves him right!

I really would send some screenshots onto his mother now so that she is pissed off at him too, teach him a lesson!

I hope he has cock rot too

Its likely she just wanted someone who would splash the cash on her. Which he did.

But she didnt want a relationship with him. Also sounds like she was quite clear about that. He must think he is so amazing she couldnt possible turn down the chance to be in a relationship with him and provide him with a long line of boys.

The problem isnt you op. Not that you 'let yourself go' or are infertile. Its that he thinks he is amazing and everyone else is beneath him. He thinks that both you and her should have been so grateful he graced you with his presence you would fight for him.

But he is a dick. And no one wants him. Thats the reality he is now facing. I bet its all you fault though.

You absolutely MUST post the abusive messages now, OP. The new context...

I already did send them

Marry me, OP.

Good for you!

He really is a first class twat!

I can't wrap my head around why some men take smart, strong, intelligent, loyal women and either a) cheat on them or b) abuse them til they are shadows of their former selves. I see so much of this on MN and have encountered it in my own life. It's ridiculous

I love the fact that it'll be another few weeks till his credit card bill hits and he will feel like a total arsehole paying off those dinners 😂😂😂

If his mum sticks her beak in to try and get you to take him back, just forward those texts he sent you.

He's lost you, he's lost her, his mum will be mad at him, and I expect bestie will take a break from him after this weekend.

It'll be lonely this Christmas...

I'm sooooo proud of you OP for the way you have handled this. Spot on and high five to you gal!!
Now get ready for the the pathetic piece of rat piss to attempt to crawl back into your life.... he will try anything under the sun.... I'm guessing he will be sorry, he might even come up with some mental illness like depression or he might blame his upbringing (mother sounds rank too), after these attempts he might turn angry.

If the ow doesn't want him then I presume she didn't plant the earrings.

How embarrassed and small he must feel now!! I would love to be a fly on the wall in his office tomorrow!! I Think he needs to move back his parents and take some adulthood respect and decency lessons. Maybe post him some wank mags and a box of tissues

You know what? I've spent four and half years being smaller, not so outgoing, not laughing too loud, not dressing up, not letting rip with my sarcasm because he finds it ' too abrasive' just smiling and cuddling and putting dinner on the table while he fucks his office blonde.

FUCK THAT SHAGSTAIN

Not taking him back, not putting myself in this position again in a million years

"Well he is on the tenancy..."

I know he's a cheating, verbally abusive twat, ugly both inside and out, but to save admin you could take him back...

Or not. Onwards and upwards, you deserve much better and he deserves to find a rock to crawl under.

Karma was quick here!

I've just caught up - OP you are so STRONG i am in awe of you! Ex is a complete worm. Love that she doesn't want him - hopefully after seeing the messages mummy dearest won't want him either!

Marilyn - I am loving your sharp wit and clear sense of justice. I am sure you won't be single for long when you are ready to get back on the dating horse. In the meantime, I can't imagine you'll be short of company. You sound like great fun to be around.

Wait, he told her he'd left you? Priceless.

Oooooh it's all coming out

She told him he wasn't supposed to leave you?!?!

Does that mean she wanted him to stay with you and treat her to champagne and meals on the QT?

Well, what a charmer she is.

OP always be true to yourself, the only way is up now, your next serious relationship will be better for having gone through this, don't change who you are for anyone xx

I don't often comment on these threads as I don't really have any advice to offer, but I have to admit to a chuckle when I read she doesn't want him. What an idiot the man is - throwing away a lovely, strong lady like you for someone who's turned out to be about as long lasting as a snapchat message.

I've just read the whole thread and I am in awe of you OP, you are hilarious!
Glad the twat has got his commupence