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H has taken son away

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ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:09

My (d)h had taken my son away without my consent. As he (h) is working a night shift he has taken him to stay with a school friend. I called said school friend's mother and she refused to discuss with me.

My h is controlling and emotionally abuse even and uses DS to threaten me. I am unwell with depression and taking medication, my depression (made a whole lot worse by dreadful relationship and lack of support).

H says to me that I am 'unfit' to look after DS and he has now done this. The reason being I have been in bed and crying today and more or less begging him to show me some love & support, to no avail.

Surely this woman cannot hold my son against my wishes? God only knows what tale H spun her about my so called 'mental illness'... he also told me he called mental health services to 'get me help' earlier.

He does this in a threatening and menacing way, not out of any genuine care for me. He stands over me and shouts 2 in from my face YOU. NEED. HELP.

I'm scared and utterly desperate that he's taken my son away and humiliated he's involved a school family like this.

I have called the police & am waiting for them to contact me. I have never invoked and services before but feel he has crossed a red line now Sad

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poppoppop · 18/06/2017 23:12

If she has your son and your husband is not there you have every right to go and remove your child from her

MaudAndOtherPoems · 18/06/2017 23:14

Has your husband said when he intends to bring your son home?

Tomorrow, get advice from a solicitor and your GP.

ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:15

She would not even discuss with me or confirm DS is there. However I know he is as h told me before he went to work. I feel outraged that this woman has my child against my wishes. I have called the police to go and recover him.

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mymatemax · 18/06/2017 23:15

If only you and your husband have parental responsibility then if your son is not with your husband then you are entitled to collect your son for the schoolfriend. She cannot keep him from you. How old is your son?

ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:17

He is 10. I doubt she will give him to me, she would not even talk to me in the phone- which is why I have called the police.

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LagunaBubbles · 18/06/2017 23:17

What age is your DS?

ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:18

10

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LagunaBubbles · 18/06/2017 23:19

You must be worried sick, you did the right thing phoning the Police.

LuluBellaBlue · 18/06/2017 23:19

Oh my goodness, really hope you get your boy back soon xx

Whosthemummynow · 18/06/2017 23:21

Honesty. It's 11pm on a Sunday and your sun is most probably asleep. He has school tomorrow. Let it go and see him tomorrow.

ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:22

But I don't want my son with this woman - she has no right to keep him against my consent!

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Whosthemummynow · 18/06/2017 23:24

Go and get him then!! If she is that much of a demon its worth disrupting you're sons sleep over

ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:26

She said she would not talk to me- what do you expect me to do - break into her house?!

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Ginorchoc · 18/06/2017 23:26

It sounds a difficult situation for all. Was your husband on nights last night, you say you've been in bed crying, is that most of the day? Doesn't sound an ideal situation for your son, it might be best to leave him tonight if you know where he is and if you feel he is safe. It's late to move him now and you could try and get some sleep, you'll feel stronger tomorrow and can seek legal advice and maybe phone woman's aid as well.

MarcelineTheVampire · 18/06/2017 23:27

Whos so, you are saying if this was your child, you would leave them where they are? Absolute rubbish!!!

Fitzsimmons · 18/06/2017 23:29

Why can't you go to her house to get your son?

Guavaf1sh · 18/06/2017 23:29

I think you would cause so many problems if you insisted on collecting him now. There is obviously a lot going on that you cannot explain easily in this format. If you're not well and need help you need to see the GP tomorrow and possibly a solicitor. But for now there would be much harm and no good in causing so much trouble when you son is probably sleeping and he's safe with a school friend. Leave it and sort it in the morning

FoxyRoxy · 18/06/2017 23:29

Where is your husband?

Whosthemummynow · 18/06/2017 23:30

If I felt that strongly about it I would go and knock on her door and bring my son home

If it was my exs scheduled contact time it would be up to him to sort childcare.

ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:31

Ginorchoc, it is more a point of principle -I can't let h treat me like this and I am sure DS would rather be with me. DS is fine he has been with grandparents - and father while I was ill.

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FoxyRoxy · 18/06/2017 23:31

Sorry just re-read op and saw he's at work. Is he contactable? I'd call and tell him that you will get the police to bring your son home if he doesn't contact this woman and tell her you're picking him up.

LovingLola · 18/06/2017 23:31

Where is your husband?

The OP says that he is at work - he is on a night shift.

rightwhine · 18/06/2017 23:31

Wait and see what the police say.

ophiotaurus · 18/06/2017 23:32

Hopefully the police will retrieve him for you.

ElCorazin · 18/06/2017 23:32

My husband is at work.

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