H has taken son away

[ElCorazin]

My (d)h had taken my son away without my consent. As he (h) is working a night shift he has taken him to stay with a school friend. I called said school friend's mother and she refused to discuss with me.

My h is controlling and emotionally abuse even and uses DS to threaten me. I am unwell with depression and taking medication, my depression (made a whole lot worse by dreadful relationship and lack of support).

H says to me that I am 'unfit' to look after DS and he has now done this. The reason being I have been in bed and crying today and more or less begging him to show me some love & support, to no avail.

Surely this woman cannot hold my son against my wishes? God only knows what tale H spun her about my so called 'mental illness'... he also told me he called mental health services to 'get me help' earlier.

He does this in a threatening and menacing way, not out of any genuine care for me. He stands over me and shouts 2 in from my face YOU. NEED. HELP.

I'm scared and utterly desperate that he's taken my son away and humiliated he's involved a school family like this.

I have called the police & am waiting for them to contact me. I have never invoked and services before but feel he has crossed a red line now

I find the attitudes to MH here v outdated ' almost offensive. Stigmas alive and well I see.

No wonder so many people hesitate to seek help.

Your side-stepping the point of my question. Try half a sleeping tablet, get some kip, things will seem better in the morning.

Sorry Norland, I can't see the point of your question.

I don't take sleeping tablets - I don't have any.

I cannot believe the VILE attitudes of posters on here... So the OP happens to have depression, like hundreds of thousands of normally functioning adults. Has a row with EA DH and he exaggerates it for his own sympathy and suddenly posters "hope you get the help you need?!?!"

Are you actually serious?!?!?

Another way of looking at it Justdontgetitatall is that reading the OP's writings, suggests she's got depression; seems to be in denial she's ill; spends all day in bed, whilst her shift-working husband probably needs to catch up on sleep before working all night, meaning he's exhausted and at the end of his tether and perhapos snapped at his wife, because his exhaustion is making him ill and thus leaving him concerned for the well-being of his son.

There's always two sides to every story. This one is missing a lot of detail.

I cannot believe the VILE attitudes of posters on here... So the OP happens to have depression, like hundreds of thousands of normally functioning adults. Has a row with EA DH and he exaggerates it..

Yes, I agree. I'm on your side. Get yourself and your DS out of this relationship Asap

Norland - that is untrue and unfair!

I DO NOT spend all day in bed. Until 1 week ago I was working. I have sought help as felt my depression worsening (the responsible thing to do surely) and my GP has signed me off. To suggest I spend all day every day in bed and cannot function, or am in denial - are simply not true.

And for your information - I'm the one who's exhausted. Thanks so much for the support.

Bleurgh - lol thank you I was too polite to say that!

Norland, she has said already that she didn't spend all day in bed, she went for a lie down as she had a migraine after her husband yelled at her. She also said she has no access to their joint bank account so it seems slightly more systematic than him being at the end of his tether.
I agree there have been some contradicting statements, but depression is an illness, so in that sense op is correct in saying she is unwell. However, like many illnesses it can be managed by medication, which is what is happening in this case, and so op may not consider herself unwell as she is getting treatment (and therefore doesn't appear to me anyway that she is in denial about it- if she was truly in denial I don't think she'd be seeking help for it) and is able to cope and function normally the majority of the time. I think op put so called 'mental illness' because her husband refers to it as that, whereas she maybe doesn't, and he possibly says in a derogatory way, which is why she dislikes it so much.

Cross post with op, justdontgetitatall, naked scientist and bleurgh- totally agree with you all!

A sprinkling - thank you - you are spot in and have articulated what I meant much better than I did

You've posted the PM I sent...why? I still stand by everything I said in that message so...?!

You seem to be suggesting Bleurghghghgh that you'd like to see me dead.

You sent the PM she can do what she wants with it after that unfortunately.

take a handful of sleeping pills
That's horrible

" you're going to die alone if you're that heartless."

If

Please - I don't want my thread to turn into an abuse fest. I have enough nastiness in RL.

Thank you to those posters who have been supportive.

To the less supportive ones, I hope you never suffer depression, it's not nice and even less nice to be saddled with the still persisting stigma, shame and censure.

I am going to try to get some sleep now.

And Norland - who is now on the verge of getting knighted on MN? suggested that 1) OP wasn't ill 2) that OP who had mentioned depression (and Norland had said she wasn't actually depressed)- took sleeping pills?

Now I'm the bad guy? ok - look at page 5 of this thread

FFS Bleurgh listen to the OP ho doesn't want her thread derailed and leave it alone.

I'm closing this page down now too. Some of you need to take a serious look at yourselves.