Pictures - opinions on these texts please

[newnamechange84]

Just a small snapshot of what my 'd'p sends his 'friend'. Friend or more? Opinions please - this is a long running problem

So sorry op, he's an absolute prick.

My ds has asd and I have been in a similar situation where he got attatched but he managed to get over it ( hate that phrase sorry ) and he is much happier for not living in a toxic environment which is what yours is sadly likely to become if you let him stay.

He is showing his utter disrespect to you clear as day. This must be a real kick in the teeth, however, you are in a good position in that you have proof.

Do not tolerate this, you and your children deserve much better

Woah. Aside from the obvious 'trying it on' with her, it's the massive disrespect from both of them to you. To be sniggering behind your back like kids about her hugging you is despicable.

Anyway op. You've been supporting that idiot so far, don't waste any more time or money on him and kick him out. Tell him that he's now free to stay with his 'friend' and they can discuss life partners etc to their heart's content.

Have a brilliant time at Disney with true friends.

Sorry OP
You don't deserve this, you don't deserve him.
Get rid of him immediately.
Screw the holiday, you can't go away with someone who speaks about you like that.

They both sound as if they were about 14 years old. You would be well rid of this idiot, OP.

Get rid of him OP. I'd be fuming and devastated if I read those texts.

I agree they sound very immature - how old is he?

Dissolving a relationship is never as easy as some people here present it but you'll always be looking over your shoulder with this guy. Don't give him another chance, he won't change his ways. Have you confronted him?

Next thing he'll accuse you of being the cheater. I don't really see this as a revenge situation.

Now that you've told him (not sure that you followed the advice of your Ex) your Ex stopped by and tried it on... You could tell him you feel something is missing in the relationship and you can't see a future in it.

Then give him notice to move out.

He'll probably end up thinking thinking that you aren't interested in him anymore, but best of all... You get to end it.

Which is better for your self esteem and recovery.

What's stopping you? Finish it, without any drama. Neither of you want to be with each other.

P is 30 and she's 23.

I've not confronted him yet. I'm going to wait until he's out tonight and then pack his bags. I'll be taking his key this morning under the pretence that my dad needs it to do work on the house today. I'll text him before he's Due home at about ten with some of the replies you lovely ladies have helped me with here. I'm scared I'm going to falter

Newnamechange good plan, pack the bastard bags and throw him out when he is least expecting it. There is no 'your looking into things' here, it's plain as day. We all can see it, the reason why you can't is because you don't want to believe it. He's 30 and she's 23, there's only one thing he's interested in here n that's a shag with this girl. He will have his shag then realise, hopefully. But by then it will be too late. You won't faulter if your strong. How dare he continue to live under YOUR roof while he's sneaking around texting another girl. These texts aren't innocent. He has everything, he has it made, he's laughing. Can you see it now?
You need to turn this around and take action. I know it's hard. I myself have been heartbroken and so will many other women on here. But you need to take action, today. Throw the bastard out n let him suffer whilst not being in the comfort of YOUR own home.

Excellent plan sweetheart

I can't imagine your pain.

It WILL get better, but it'll get worse the longer he is under your roof!

He is the lowest of the low.

And I've been here a looooooong time.

Oh yeah, and keep his fucking iPad... he'd lost it already.

Well done OP your doing the right thing. He's a scumbag. It will be hard but in the long run your doing the right thing. Try not to engage with him after. Cut contact if you can. Things like these affect your self esteem, be kind to yourself and concentrate on you and your dc. Scream and rant on here if you need but don't give him the satisfaction. You can do this

I quite like Hissy's suggestion

The 23 year old has no interest by the messages and he is making a total tit of himself. Agree with everyone else, he needs to go and you deserve better. Tell him you feel he is not your life partner etc, a few words from his messages and see if he works it out for himself. Good luck. X

Stay strong OP
Don't let the cockwomble talk you round

If you don't get the key then just change the main lock. It's not a difficult job to swap out the barrel on a double glazed door. It's normally two screws. You just need to know what length to get.

I was about to say that PP.

Get the locks changed immediately.

Put his gear outside.

Go to Disneyland with your children and have a lovely time.

Dump him. Dump him. Dump him.

I'm sorry but your relationship is already over it will only hurt more to leave it longer. Do it now.

Enjoy your holiday with someone more deserving

I agree with ginorchoc - This girl doesn't seem to be as interested in him as he is into her.
Even better! You will turf him out n she will blow him out. Look at all the messages he's sending, her replies are short, so as not to seen rude I think, she's replying but with not much interest. The texts are initiated by him.

Glad you've reflected OP.
Someone up thread said how hard it is to dissolve a relationship. I imagine most of the ladies posting here have been in your situation (I have) and no, it's not easy. But we can all assure you that after the initial shock and heartbreak it gets easier, time is a healer.
You won't regret your actions

Please be strong, you deserve better. Wether this is an affair or not it's overstepping boundaries. He's lied about the iPad so clearly doesn't want you to know the extent of their friendship. Wishing you luck for today X