Pictures - opinions on these texts please

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Just a small snapshot of what my 'd'p sends his 'friend'. Friend or more? Opinions please - this is a long running problem

He's totally disrespecting you. You deserve better.

Tell him to fuck off.

I want all this to be over...

My love he's planning to dump you. Probably just waiting for that holiday...

I'd see if you can find someone else to go in his place

He's awful

You deserve so much better than this

I'm so sorry!

Thanks all sooo much from the bottom of my heart. I don't want to do it but I know that I have to. Ratatouille I LOVE that! I've just seen a message he's sent her tonight - 'wish you were here' 😷 I am breaking though, he's still out. I've just smoked my way through a pack of fags (I'm not a smoker...) and spent last hour on phone to my ex (relationship fine never to be reignited) who has said LTB. We don't always get on (he had lots of affairs when we were married) but he's speaking sense. I just don't know what to do tonight...

Yes I'm Nat, really outing myself now...

Did she say I don't think you'll ever be happy with ?

And then she hugged you?

What a slimess she is.

Sweetheart, if your cheating ex can see it, so can you.

Do what you have to do. End it.

Before he does.

I don't think it matters what you do. Just get rid ASAP. You don't need his permission. (I'm hotheaded and would probably put up a wall of social media posts of screenshots of all their conversations. But probably not best).

End it without drama. Saying... I think it's best we split up. It just doesn't feel right for me and I can't see us together long term.

Then tell him or ask him to start looking for somewhere to move. Give him a deadline to leave stick to it.

It's so hard to take in, I know you don't want to believe it. But if you don't end it he will!! It will hurt but give yourself the upper hand and get shot of him. There's a good chance when he gets in and you confront him he will live up to be the cunt he is in these messages and end up making you feel worse. Please look out for yourself, protect yourself and your dc from this disgusting excuse of a man.

I'm so angry on your behalf, urgh!

He has no respect for you. I'm sorry for you and your DC. I would just text him saying something like "while your chatting to xxx can you ask if you can kip at hers tonight as you are not sleeping here"

What a bloody awful bastard.

Hope you are ok, OP. You and your kids deserve better than this twunt.

He's telling somebody else that he's not happy with you and doesn't think he ever will be. What's the question here? If there is a more clear reason for ending a relationship with somebody, I haven't seen it!

So... he managed to get in (I thought a key in the door stopped that!) Ex told me to tell him he'd stopped by. 'D'p is VERY suspicious... Has tried it on and I've rebuffed him. I've had some amazing support this evening so thank you. I know I should do it without drama BUT He really doesn't deserve that. I've spent since September supporting another adult through uni on my own student loan, and this is how he repays me?! He's not getting away that easily. Not a chance.

Yes Hissy, she did. Then I apologised for having been off with her...

Just seen the texts. You need to end it before he does, that way you will still have some dignity and the 'upperhand' on ending it. It's only a matter of time before he does it. This relationship is coming to an end. I'm sorry. But you need to hear it as it is. As for her, what a bitch, hugging you.
And as for him, he's a sleeze just waiting for the right moment to do one and dump your ass.
Please do it before he does. You will feel better about yourself and the whole thing.
Your too nice. You don't need to be nice to her, and I wouldn't be either.
What's your housing situation? Do you own the property etc?

I'm sorry OP but are you saying he is home and you're waiting because you want revenge?

Get him out and then plan revenge. You don't owe him an explanation. Are you sure you're not clinging onto this?

He wants to cheat,is paving the way for it to happen at the first opportunity. That's bad enough, but to say you're not his partner and all the compliments to her? You won't ever get over that even if you try to give him a chance (which will be a waste of your time because this is the real him).

I left my ex 4 years into our marriage (same type of behaviour with ex gf's and random women online). He apologized, begged for me to take him back, said he would change. We did counseling. I took him back, and then overheard him say to someone that the only reason he came back was because his parents' raised him to not divorce. Fast forward, same behaviour as before, just hidden better, and I divorced him. Wish I had just done it the first time and skip the second chance charade.

What?! My jaw dropped open, reading this.

What are you waiting for? There's no great area here. It's black and white. He is a disrespectful, sleazy twat who doesn't love you. I'm sorry, I know it hurts, but you need to get rid of him! Now!

Well it's quite clear to me. He's saying he hates feeling like this and just wants to be happy, so set him free to be happy. You'll be doing him a favour, poor love, he obviously hasn't got the balls to do it himself.

ImaLannister - it's my house. I half expected to be told I was looking into it too much when I posted this last night. He's always told me that I've 'read stuff out of context'. I've hardly slept. I feel sick and anxious.

'Reading things out of context'?

He's gaslighting you. There is no context that would make those texts okay. None.

If it's your house you don't even need a conversation! Pack his stuff and CHUCK HIM OUT!
Honestly OP, he's a pitiful man and not worth your heartache.

please kick him out soon. He doesn't deserve to be in your house. He's a pig.

This behaviour is NOT ok but you know that. It is really hard to end this but by doing so you are being much kinder to your self. Put YOU first. If all was forgiven you might feel better for a while but for how long, you are just prolonging the agony. Try to imagine your future self as an independent, confident and happy woman. Even in six months time you will be so much better off without this person in your life x x