Pictures - opinions on these texts please

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Just a small snapshot of what my 'd'p sends his 'friend'. Friend or more? Opinions please - this is a long running problem

In his own words 'when you know, you just know'.

Wanker.

Grant his wish! (for 'it' all to be over).
You aren't going to be in a relationship with him for very much longer whatever you do, as he is going to dump you (and your lovely trusting daughter) without a second thought the moment he actually manages to get somewhere with another woman. So you may as well get the satisfaction of being the one to leave.

He sounds like an absolute creep and she doesn't even sound interested in him- just polite

How much older is he than her? If he her superior at work?

Do not take this prick to Disney with you

I take it you're Nat OP? Is she talking about hugging you to him with the 😂 Face? If so that reads in a really disrespectful way, I'd say she's as guilty as he is or at least enjoying it. What thoughtful gift did she get him?

Oh god you poor thing. He's treating you horrendously. I would leave for this.

I'm very recent to say this as my own relationship just ended very recently, but my ex has done the exact same thing - to his friends/the OW, he exaggerated all these false problems in the relationship (usually things I'd done, of course) to justify him cheating on me. I wont bore with the details but it was just so ridiculous how awful he painted me. It's shifting the blame and garnering sympathy for himself and nothing more. You deserve a thousand times better.

Also my ex was super creepy like that to other girls too, throughout the relationship, overly nice and overly invested, to me it is a warning sign.

He sounds like a pain in the arse drama llama as well.

I'd be fuming!

Looks like it's all him! She's not even that flirty back!

Time for a serious chat. I wouldn't necessarily say LTB but you need to find out what his priorities are...

Another vote over here for dump him.

And I would argue that trying to cheat, is this lame, flaccid way, with a woman who’s not very interested, is almost worse than actual cheating, with someone who’s into him. He’s making a show of himself.

OP, I’m sure you could do better. You sound nice and he sounds like a tit.

He's known her longer than he's known you? Or am I reading wrong? and he only split with Chels 2 years ago?

Gross.

Pack his bags, love. He's HORRIBLE.

If this was just a friend, your arguments would not be exaggerated! Your soon to ex is playing the ' woe betide me, so hard done by, poor me' act and her, with all coy 'saving it in her garage' oh I am so embarrassed...feel embarrassed that you knew he had a partner!
I feel sorry for you and your DC! LTB! Go on a holiday you have earned and worked for with people who you respect and who respect you lovely

Pack his bags OP. When is he due back? My stomach wrenched reading that. I'm sorry, this is happening to you, he's a slimly creep! I agree with pp that size is irrelevant and so are your health problems. She doesn't sound interested in taking it further she's just playing games with him. Your better than this. Open the door chuck his bags and his IPad out and tell him to fuck off!

That's what I thought Lulu1083, that she had hugged the OP.
Sickening.
OP, I know I would be tempted to do something crazy but you may end up making him look like a sympathetic character and he is a loser. The best revenge is living well and being successful, although nothing wrong with chucking all his stuff outside tonight and locking the door. Or you could tell him it's over, you don't see him as a life partner! Then I would go on holiday with your kids without him. Come home and thank my lucky stars everyday that I didn't waste anymore of my time with him.
But this thing about being size 14 and frumpy has to stop, throw that crap out with him. You are not your dress size OP. Size 14 can look very sexy, it's how you feel. Change if you want to but do it for you. She doesn't feel so good about her self does she if she has to get her kicks texting a man who is emotionally cheating on his partner!
You need to get feisty and deal with him, you can always cry on here with us if you need too.

I say LTB, he is fishing for something more than txts! You deserve so much better, grant his wish and dump him. I am sorry you are having to deal with this

Pack a bag for him stick it on the doorstep and lock the door. Send him a text saying you've seen his messages to come collect his bag and fuck off to her house if he wants a bed for the night. She's probably stringing him along for the attention cos she wants to get her own back in her bf but that's not your issue. She doesn't owe you any loyalty he's the one that does and he's shown very clearly that if she gave him the green light he would already have cheated. It is actually worse than a ons as it's a full on emotional affair along with blame shifting onto you. You say you've paid for a holiday well you should be able to change the names (take a friend and her kids instead) or see if you can get the money back for the 3 unused tickets. He is not your partner he's a selfish entitled prick who has put getting his jollies before the welfare of his kids, you and your kids. Please don't let him treat you like this anymore.

What an absolute piece of shit sorry OP
You will one day find a man who will move heaven and earth for you. This man is just a 'fuckboy' you deserve better. Dump/ leave throw the waste out of your house and start building your self back up. Don't ever put yourself down no matter the size and insecurities own it! Every women on this planet is and will be just as remarkable and amazing as the other. We love and support each women. Love yourself and your DD to walk away with your head high.

Lots of love x x x

Pack his stuff and dump it outside the front door. Text him "DP, you're great in a lot of ways but you're just not my life partner. When you know, you just know. I'm sure you can appreciate that I just desperately want to be happy. Your stuff is outside. Get rid of it ASAP and don't come back."

Please don't send her any messages. Keep your dignity intact and your powder dry.

Him, on the other hand: pack his bags and leave them outside the door. Put the iPad in with the rest of his belongings, turn off your phone and lock the door.

This cunt doesn't deserve any more of your time,

This is such an easy one - get rid of him, his fawning is creepy and cringey, he's clearly after her. You really do deserve better.

Get rid of him and don't take him back when she doesn't want him. He's an arsehole, so low, you can only move on up from here. Get everything you need in order. Pack his shit up and throw him out. Do not engage with him anymore. Why bother? You've seen who he is now and how little he thinks of you. You can do and deserve so much better than that.

Go on holiday without him. You can get your friends name put on his ticket... You paid for it.

Cut the bastard out.

Text him "DP, you're great in a lot of ways but you're just not my life partner. When you know, you just know"

Oh, THIS!!!

Ditch him he's trying hard to chase her. I'm a guy I can see it within the first pic. Hopefully it gets better for you soon

Do exactly what polly put haha