Pictures - opinions on these texts please

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Just a small snapshot of what my 'd'p sends his 'friend'. Friend or more? Opinions please - this is a long running problem

What a gross creep.

Kick him out, he can go on his own holiday. Cut your costs loose or see if you can bring a friend and their kid/s with you instead.

She's a gorgeous 23 year old size 6 and I'm a fucking frumpy size 14 mum of three with some health problems

That doesn't matter.

The Half Tonne Mum was bed-bound and her boyfriends still worshipped the ground she walked on. Your size does not determine your worth and his actions are not your fault.

Has he done this before ? Hugs

I could take anyone painting, perhaps my best friend, her awesome husband and they're son who work sooo hard but never get anywhere. Please help me though, I want to do this properly. She's had a part in this, she's on my FB. What can I say on there without naming her, something like 'I know who you are and I suggest you message me before this brings you down'. I know it's petty but please help with something. My ex did this to me too, I cannot take anymore. I'm not willing to be all nice this time

He's a cheater

Nothing more to say. Sorry.

Hey this is not to do with your dress size, or health issues. This lies with him and his ego needing a boost. Whether anything physical we're to happen or not he is betraying you emotionally and does sound like if she gave the green light he wants more. So sorry xxxx

Yes worrier6, he speaks like this to her often. They work together. I saw a message once saying 'I'll find somewhere for us to go'. He said that it was somewhere away from her bf, who is actually s cheat

Thank you ladies, I'm sorry but I just need to keep taking

You deserve better, OP. So much better. He's an asshole, and he'll never change.

Leave him. Continue with your plans to take your children to Paris, but don't include him or his children (his fault his kids miss out).

That's bad sorry your going through this lovely I'd just ask her out right you deserve better and don't be nice about it ! Disrespectful and she knows about you which is worse !!!!
Who wants to be that size anyway don't beat yourself up
Xx

Why would you want her to message you? What do you want her to say?
He's a sneaky bastard, planning something if he hasn't already done it (and I bet he's done plenty in his head), and no, he won't change. If you've got to warn ppl off, you're not going to catch it every time and it will drive you insane.

He's an absolute dickhead

Do not send her any messages. It sounds to me like she is in a relationship/just had a child. Is happy to have him flirt with her but he's the one chasing. Blame is his.

You deserve better, and your little girl shouldn't grow up adoring someone who is prepared to treat his mother like this.

Chuck him. Now. Don't explain, don't apologise.

Please don't put anything on Facebook. Keep your dignity (in public anyway). Sure, she knows this is an inappropriate relationship. But he's the one whinging on and on and calling her 'lovely'. Ew. You deserve better. I couldn't stay with a man after seeing that. I might desperately want to forgive and forget - but I just couldn't. Maybe you can.

If she ended her relationship, he'd run to her before you could blink. He's just hedging his bets and waiting. Sorry, OP.

Honestly - he's playing with a stupid fantasy and has no idea how dangerous this is. The only way he will realise is if you are tough - make him leave and no contact. I think he will come round. That "she's not my life partner" is disrespectful bullshit - he needs a serious shaking up. Get tough. Do not accept his excuses.

I would second the people saying don't get in touch with her. Because she'll text him and tell him what you've said. Deep breaths. You don't have to do anything at all right now

WTAF?! Dump him. Kick him out. Change the names on your holiday and take a friend and their kids instead. I'm so sorry, what a bastard.

Don't message her - she is irrelevant.

It's him you need to deal with - arrogant cheating fucker.

Do not send her any messages. It sounds to me like she is in a relationship/just had a child. Is happy to have him flirt with her but he's the one chasing. Blame is his.

This ^^

He sounds awful in those messages. Why is he with you if he doesn't view you as a life partner?! To be honest, of all the messages, that part is the worst in my opinion. I can only imagine how much it hurts reading that. That would give me the strength to tell him to get lost.

OP

Your daugther might adore him but it's not like she'd never see him again is it?

You deserve so much more than this, it's such an emotional betrayal. I speak from experience

LTB. It will be painful for a while, but life will get better again and you'll either be happy on your own or you'll meet someone else and be even happier Either way it's better than living with this every day.

OP, he uses too many emojis for you to take him seriously. Leave the scum bag.

What a cunt.

Hugs must be the worst feeling not knowing what to do just try calm down.... pack his bags and put them outside
He's living in a fantasy world

I'd say he's doing the chasing too. I'm sorry. Her texts are quite superficial and a bit brush-offy imo whereas his are all intense and personal. He's trying to make a connection.
Now that you have read that you can't go on.

Also what theclick said.