I think I need to leave my boyfriend, but I can't, can I?

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We've been together for six months. He is needy, and, dare I say it... Emotionally abusive. I have DC from my last relationship to think about. House is all mine and he lives an hour away. Sounds simple, right? Except I'm 8 weeks pregnant, and suffering from terrible morning sickness, meaning I can barely function, let alone look after the Children properly.

What the fuck can I do?

I guess what I meant was who was looking after your small children giving you the time and space to develop a relationship to the point of ttc with him within weeks of meeting. Could whoever that was not help out now?

Don't worry too much about not asking which clinic. If you want you could call the GP surgery and ask the receptionist, as they might know or be able to check for you. But I'm sure the clinic will call you soon anyway.

Morris - the DC's dad is supposed to have supervised contact every couple of weeks which gave me time to do my own thing. He hasn't turned up for a while though

Ok.

Fucking hell, I self referred to the nearest hospital. They were very nice but the earliest appointment is in two weeks. I'm not waiting two weeks! Rang Marie Stopes and even if I pay their wait time is the same. Ringing Bpas now and feeling murderous towards him!

Actually @hellsbellsmelons I have been with a abusive person in fact two one physical and one similar to this lady... who I happened to get pregnant by towards the end of my relationship ... I left him, I had HG and bled all the way through even having massive clots and being made by doctors to check them incase it was my baby.. so yea I do. & I know it's scary and you end up lost and confuse hence why I don't think anything bad of this lady.. I lost my son at 20 weeks pregnant with no help financially to help bury my son because I wouldn't have him cremated, I got no support and 2 phone calls in all that time one of those phone calls saying after I lost him saying "hope we can just move on now and be friends ?"
So yeah I know it's hard and emotionally draining not helped by HG but she already is a good mom so she could do it there's a lot of posts on here telling her to terminate the baby hence why I said what I did but I write the first one without reading she had agreed to terminate hence the second post it's not meant nasty at all!

Nowhere can give me an appointment within two weeks. I'm breaking down now. I hate him I hate him I hate him

Can you phone each day to get a cancellation?

MrsMama you are talking out of your arse and it's not helpful.

I've managed to get an appointment at 7:30am on Friday morning... Two hours away and will cost £700... Worth it I think.

I might even be able to go on holiday, but we'll see.

I will be thinking about you all week, and especially on Friday morning! This sounds sooo tough; but you only need to stay really strong for a few more days....

You're doing the right thing for yourself and for your children, OP.

Good luck for Friday ...confused about the holiday...it won't be with your 'sbxp'?..

Good luck. It is the right decision.

It would be insane to have 5 children, and two abusive men in these children's and your life, to deal with.

Thank you everyone :) Friday can't come too soon. I still feel ridiculously ill.

Yeh, the holiday would be with him, but fuck it, if I can go, and make the best of it, I will. I put a lot of money towards this and also the kids' passports, which their grandparents helped pay for too. They'll probably never get another holiday abroad until they're old enough to pay for themselves! I think I know what I'm doing re the holiday - but I'm certain about the abortion. With two of my other children I did consider abortion, as they were conceived in less than ideal circumstances, but the thought horrified me. Now all I feel is relief.

Great news about the appointment on Friday.
But don't go on holiday with him!!

Great news re Friday, good luck. Can you take a taxi there, or beg/plead/pledge your soul to someone else? I'm worried he might have car trouble on Friday morning.

Definitely not taxi as it's two hours away! There definitely won't be car trouble as it's going to be my car ;) we will have to take all the children (not to the clinic obviously, but to the city). I definitely think he's come round to the idea as he's offered to put £400 towards it and "can't wait for us to be back to normal". Hmm.

Don't go on holiday with him. He will use it as opportunity to win you back and your children deserve better.

Sweet you're probably right, but he drives me mad, I honestly preferred being single!

do you not think a holiday gives mixed messages to dc's?

FGS why are you even considering going on holiday with him? Go yourself without him. He's really done a number on you, your priorities are really skewed. What if he tries to have unprotected sex with you on holiday?

offered to put £400 towards what?

I have no idea if this works, but I would have thought you can still buy travel insurance. If the doctor says you're too sick to fly, surely you be insured?

You wouldn't be insured for a pre existing condition.