Dating Thread 117 - summer loving!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Cover, I'm not going to let her know, no. She lives miles away and at this point we're friends. We message sometimes and like each other's pics and comment and stuff. We have met IRL and got on very well.

What I'll do is wait until we end meeting up again which will likely happen and see how that goes. If that goes well, then maybe. Pretty much zero point given the distance though before anything else.

I'd hate to get it wrong too.

Alright. Four times now I've gone on to POF. Three times MissCivil is online on there. Including just now. She's also taking a while to respond to whatsapp messages, though she's online.

Sooo.

I'm going to call it a day. I'm obviously not ticking all her boxes, and she's not ticking all of mine.

Bant sorry to hear this, things seemed to be going so well

I have been back on POF tonight and have had 2 newmessages, one seems very interesting and wrote a long first message showing he had read my profile, the 2nd seems a bit boring and obviously hasn't read my profile, I'm struggling to make conversation with him.

I dont blame you bant i think id call it a day too

Sorry to hear that Bant.

Will you tell her or just fade into the distance?

On POF for the 'Do you have a car' question, why do people select 'prefer not to say'? That's even more no than no.

Sorry to hear that, Bant I wish sites didn't have the whole online/when last online thing, frankly.

So, in the spirit of being more open and responsive I replied to a "hello" message. With "hello". He's replied "how are you?". I've replied "good ta, you?" I await his next conversational gambit with interest......

Info when I first joined POF I ticked 'prefer not to say' to the car question. I don't have a car but I do have a van - so I can't really say 'yes' to a car but 'no' looks like I don't have transport.
I was just being awkward . And in the end I changed it to 'yes'

Isn't that just the default answer info

I agree coverme - tinder is better for that reason because it doesn't tell you when someone is on it. It's more natural to not know.

But having said that, MissCivil and I have been talking for over a month, every day. Lots. We've had five dates, we've slept together twice and I told her I was exclusive as far as I was concerned.

She's not, she's still out there fishing for something else.

So dumpage it is. Welcome to dumpsville; population:her.

I'm trying to think of more of these while I pluck up the courage to call it off..

With it being POF, I've been trying to come up with something clever involving rods, tackle and boxes. And failing. But good luck with it, and hope a "fuck, yes!" comes along in her wake.

Someone wise once said to me "never make someone a priority, if all you are to them is an option". That helped me a lot.

Bant seems like the right decision for you. You gave it your best shot.

Ooh, Bumble then; that's a new one on me! If I'm reading it right there has to be a mutual like and the woman is, in essence, forced to message first?

Anyone giving that a punt?

I'll rejoin coverme - it was actually quite decent. Better than tinder

I absolutely love bumble. Met wildcard there. Yes woman messages first. It attracts a different kind of man.

Bant I know when my dating is coming to an end when I start thinking about how I would advise the person to date in the future (e.g. make clearer plans, say your job involves months away, admit your freaky addictions at the start). Then I start to think that going online again would be fun. You're already thinking of trying again so you're at the moving on stage.

As conversation with ManOfVeryFewWords is moving at a glacially slow pace, I think I'm going to load up the app.

Cover me lads......

Ah, it's linked to Facebook. Hmmmmmm.

I don't think I'll advise her, per se lana - but I will say what's not working out for me. Politely.

And I'll not bother actively hunting for a bit either, but the occasional swipe on bumble doesn't hurt

If you come across a "curvy" 48 year old from m the Midlands doing Munch's Scream face, that'll be me

So if I log in with FB it gets all my details? But doesn't share them? REALLY????

Yeah, apparently. No one sees you're on it, but people you match with can see mutual likes, or mutual friends. Only those you match with though

It doesn't share them on fb. It's a brilliant app. I really like it. And I've never liked tinder. I hate POF. Used to use okc a bit, but that's not great.

I've taken out my friends list (not finally she honed up yet) maybe I'll add it back. Going to make where I work friends only on my FB profile though.

Far I'm being spurred on by your success with Wildcard, you know....

Signed!! "She honed?" WTF autocorrect???

I'm swiftly falling out of love with OLD. Nothing happens for me on there. Rather that times before where I've said I want to come off but haven't truly deeply wanted to, this time I'm getting there. I'm getting close to the natural point of just completely losing interest.

I'm starting to think there is just no way of finding someone on here. The rarity of you wanting them and them feeling the same, just too much of a long shot. I also think I have better luck when people know me in person.

Sigh.