Dating Thread 117 - summer loving!

[InfoSec21]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

CoverMeLadsImGoingIn I set up a fake FB profile for Tinder but it gets your name from there, which I didn't realise. I really hate autocorrect since my phone's sw updated, it keeps inserting random words and capital letters!

I had assumed date 2 was off with Mr Boxer as sent him a message last night and he hadn't replied by early evening today, so dyed my hair, don't ever do a "clean" job of it so the back of my neck is a fetching shade of brown he replied an hour later.

WTAF??? My profile pic is one of my MUM I had as my profile on her birthday innJaniary!! How the hell do i change it?

InfoSec21 how long have you been doing OLD? I'm about 6 weeks in and sometimes feel like giving up. But it's hard to meet anyone in RL. Especially when your main "partner in crime" is the opposite sex.

CoverMeLadsImGoingIn no idea how you change it but made me reading your post.

Go to profile and reorder the pictures if I remember correctly

Isn't OLD just another way of meeting someone in person though? I've been doing it 4 years. I've had 4 month relationships (2 of them) and one of 19 months. And loads of fun dates. And amazing sex right now, which is v intense and good. And I've written a book about it, which I abandoned half way through. Don't give up 6 weeks in! You learn a lot about yourself doing this.
cover if you click on the photo it should give you the option to delete it and then you can upload one you prefer, aka you!

Panic (sort of) over, though I had to run naked to the iMac with my hair on fire to change the privacy of my FB profile pics. I then worked out you can delete and add off the camera library
Got rid of all the Snapchat filter ones, you'll be pleased to hear. And my workplace, so now my Uni and graduation year are up there. Random.

Just got to work out my blurb now. So much for an early night.

Ha you paint a brilliant picture! Glad it's sorted!

Thanks for the responses, I got there in the end . Now to do all the "about me" stuff again. Is "built for comfort, not for speed" alluring?? "If you don't like Bowie, do one"?? "I like Leftfield gigs that make my ears bleed"??

Maybe I'll sleep on it.

I've been on OLD since late 2015. I think it's maybe time to sack it off 😂

And Info Far and All/Buckets are right, don't chuck it in yet. Courage, mon brave (or something) xxx

I've been on since may 2013. Not that probably gives anyone hope! But it has worked. Just once you are in a relationship it doesn't matter where it starts I guess, it can end or flourish.

Wise words, Far

Wish I had wise words; I'm rubbish at describing who I am in 300 words or less. I liked that OKC at least gave you questions to answer.
nervously chews metaphorical pencil

I wouldn't say relationships that start from RL meetings are any better but I have very limited experience.
cover how about viewing it like bullet points? Although not using them. But your interests/hobbies, what you're looking for in a partner (not sure on that!) sure I had a 3rd item but cannot remember it now.

bant sorry to read about Miss Civil. It's rubbish when you realise they are still looking around at who's available.
I'd tell her why you're dumping her. It might make her think twice about doing it to someone else.

Sad seeing negative posts on here after a week of positivity, just shows how OLD goes, it can be soul destroying at times. I often want to give up. I'm trying not to go on POF too much and to spend more time doing things on my own, it kind of takes over your life and not in a good way.

My Normal didn't message me at all yesterday, I don't know if I should bother messaging him, I was looking forward to having a date on Sunday but it's not looking good so yet again I will probably spend the day on my own. Chatting to new Iron, will call him Mr tree and all seems really good but I think I might be a bit boring for him, not holding out much hope but he does seem nice.

Like some on here I've been feeling a bit despondent but I'm still plugging away. I've just sent a message to someone who previously seemed interested.

No sign of Mr Retired (he hasn't been on OKC since Friday), I'm not sure that someone for whom a few days away from home means that they are offline and incommunicado is for me. Is that an age thing? I'm questioning his level of motivation.

I have been looking through my OKC matches and am really struggling to find anyone to message.

I am really tempted to chase after my second date guy but am resisting as he is clearly not that interested in me.

Info sorry you not getting anywhere. Is it worth trying a different site? New photos? Profile overhaul?

I'm on POF, OKCupid, Bumble and Tinder. It's not that I never get any messages, it's just that the ones I go for rarely reply.

The women that message me are very rarely my type at all. It's not that I'm going for people out of my range, I'm just going for people with something about them.

Mr Bike and I are regularly messaging. Good chemistry and on the same wavelength. It could end tomorrow, it could end in a few months or maybe this is it. Trying to sound casual but I would be upset if it ended

Info I agree with others and think OLD can work. I have no opportunities in RL and have dated 8 men over 10 months (3 were single dates). I like to read profiles and know that there's a chance from the beginning. Can you look at it as a numbers game and have it running on the side? You may have opportunities in RL, but it doesn't hurt to keep an OLD account and search once a week?

Maybe a break is a good idea then , Info, or a step back/more passive approach for a set period of time. Every day lots of new people go on OLD, so when you go up a gear again it'll feel a bit more.....refreshed?
Plus let's all be glad it's not 1817: at my age as a divorcee I'd either be shunned by polite society or selling my pox-ridden body for gin, depending on my circs

I've got 7 matches on Bumble, bloody hell! What's my opening gambit? Far? Bant? Anyone??????

Cover I usually start with something brief and positive. Like "hello, looks like a good day to be outside?"

Bumble is just rubbish for my area, hardly any choice at all from what I recall but maybe I will give it a go again.

This guy I went on a date with asked me as soon as I met him if I thought he was good looking....seemed quite offended with me saying he was all right, said I didn't give much away.

Got a lunch date for tomorrow, with Mr Theatre Man, started chatting to him on POF about a year ago but he was very flaky (quite eccentric I think) and I twigged he only seemed interested when he was pissed. ANyway, we've got back in touch and are meeting up although as usual I have no expectations or hope. I dunno, maybe I should just find peace on my own as I just lurch from disaster to disaster but I do want someone, I just won't settle.

Aaarhhhhh, I'm 46 and worse than when I was a teenager, I should know better by now lol

Betty Mr Theatre sounds very flaky. Are you doing something you enjoy so the company will just be a bonus rather than the main focus?

I went on a date recently where I realised, after an hour or so of chating, that all we were talking was our DCs. It was pleasant so I wouldn't say waste of time, but there was no real connection, which is fine for company but not so good for romance.

Lana I think he's quite eccentric. He's different which I like, works away a fair bit too with the theatre company so it won't be conventional but maybe it's what I need at the moment, someone who doesn't demand all my time. We are only going out for lunch to see if we click,
I'm sure nothing will come of it. I think I'm too fussy, I don't seem to like anyone I meet, and if I like them, they don't like me

Only thing with bumble is you get use to swiping up to see more photos and if you then pop on tinder I end up super liking all over the place 😂

Well mr ideal date has gone quiet, messaged me on Sunday saying he was off away with work for ten days. I text would be great to see him he's back. Just got yeah we'll sort something.
Two days ago. Nothing since. So we'll see or if it just fizzles out either way I had fun and have another date on Tuesday with an iron from over 6 months ago that I got on with well but just never got round to dating.