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Anyone's DH given up porn?

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FritzDonovan · 13/04/2017 12:51

Not interested in the morality argument, or being told it's his right, etc - been there, done that.
However, I am interested to know if anyone's DH has said they will be giving up porn after the inevitable discussion that follows them being found watching it.

Mine knew from way back that I didn't like it, I've followed the suggestions of watching together etc, but he doesn't appear interested in that. Just in searching, collecting and watching while working away (and possibly on the sly at home), then clearing off the computer. As far as I'm aware, for at least a decade, even after saying he wasn't going to watch after I noticed the first time.
This time he's said all the things about how he now knows it impacts my self esteem, the relationship etc, doesn't need it and won't do it. My view is it would be nice to think this, but I don't see how he will be any different when away with work again, just hide it better.
Has anyone had their OH give up for similar reasons and stick to it?

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HelenaDove · 15/04/2017 16:13

Fritz he is gaslighting you.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim · 15/04/2017 16:22

To Nancy and neon, some people do try and make ethical choices in all areas of their lives, actually. You clearly don't know any people like that; that's a shame, and I feel sorry for you, but don't base your judgements about the human race st large on your own narrow experience.

FritzDonovan · 15/04/2017 16:46

Helena I have thought this, but you can't prove anything, so confusing.

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FritzDonovan · 15/04/2017 16:49

Or rather I Can't prove anything. Shame I don't record all me conversations. Have joked (kind of) about this in the past, but it's not funny now.

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FritzDonovan · 15/04/2017 16:52

I could live with porn if not for the lies, I think. Although now they are so caught up together I can't think of one without the other. Was ex honest about it hells?

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FritzDonovan · 15/04/2017 17:08

Not sure what happened there! Thought I'd replied to hellsbellsmelons (?) but it seems to have disappeared! Maybe I've really lost my marbles this time?!? Grin

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