Advice please, I am being stalked

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Hello everyone. I dont really know where to begin and this is complicated. I am being stalked online and offline, I have also been disgustingly slandered and harassed. Stopping short of deleting all of my social network accounts I dont know what to do. I was hacked a few years ago, and things that I had written went on to be plagiarised, then I was subjected to a smear campaign. This was really bad, It ended up in me having a mental breakdown and attempting suicide. The online harassment is still happening. I already had post traumatic stress disorder before this. I have told the police, I have screenshots of the weird cryptic harassment I am on the receiving end of almost daily. Removing my social network accounts would render me pretty much isolated due to disability. This has made me beyond depressed, It also made me relapse back into having an eating disorder and I am now awaiting assistance from mental health services because of this unrelenting and cruel harassment. Any advice would be appreciated, I just dont know what to do. My children and I had to leave our home because of this, which was a massive upheaval for all of us. This is actually making me ill. Sorry for moaning but you ladies give the best advice.

This is very confusing!

I am glad you came back OP , hope you managed to get some sleep last night and feel a bit better today . I noticed that you were posting into the early hours and nothing looks great at that time , except possibly a kebab , although I think you mentioned being vegan so not even that

Keep a diary, as some posters have suggested, noting the incidents, when and where.

Helpful for the police and for your healthcare professionals to see what is going on and how they can help you.

Being trolled on the internet is horrible OP, and facebook groups can be absolutely vile places.

But you attempted suicide because someone online called you a slut? Someone you don't know and does not know you?

I don't doubt that you have been through a lot, but it really does sound like you are a sensitive soul who has been abused online and has then extrapolated that to include a case of hacking (which does happen) and some other random incidents where people haven't been nice to you.

It really does not sound like you are being stalked. Have people attacked you, yes! But it doesn't sound like a huge conspiracy. There is no one single person or group out to get you.

I know that you say your mental health is fine but no one can live with this kind of anxiety without it taking a toll. Please seek counselling to help you cope and get some perspective on it all.

mickeydobbs No there was much more to it than that, I'm not that much of a fanny and I can actually take a bit of criticism. it was more to do with being harassed, threatened, having people told things about me which were untrue and I didn't find out about this til my reputation was tarnished and the leak of my data onto groups that I was a member of, along with a load of lies which really damaged my social interaction. This actually all coincided with me getting a diagnosis for the chronic illnesses I have, So I had a lot going on at that time, that experience exacerbated my illnesses and re traumatized me. I am seeking beyond counselling, my last councillor said I could actually do her job, I have had cbt, counselling, emdr,I used to meditate, I know what mindfulness is too. Did you read the whole thread?

Hands off Yes. I contacted the NHS about this to make a complaint, they said I had to go through pohwer then the information commissioner. The woman that slandered me on forums has a friend that works in the NHS, But I dont think she can access this kind of info.

I sort of have kept a diary, I also have an pretty good memory and have told people about each incident. I wouldn't have reported to the police about someone calling me a slut, that is absurd. If only it was that simple.

OP how would someone get hold of your medical records?

Please don't think I'm accusing you of lying. I'm not.

But unless this stalker is a doctor, nurse, or someone who works at a doctors surgery I'm not quite sure how they'd get hold of your records?

I know that a lot of computerised data systems require a clearance card, so I thought a good way to out the leaker would be to complain so I am doing this. I just dont have much time n the day to do things like that whilst caring for a disabled child, another child, looking after myself and my home, and a dog and dp. Also my functionality is dependent on my illness and wether or not I am capable of doing things, Somedays I can do most things, other days I cant even get up the stairs.

What reason would they have to do this to you though?

OP are you able to post screenshots of the stuff people have put online about you? Obviously not anything personal but I mean the memes and posts you mentioned.

Any ideas of their motive OP?

I'm struggling to follow it all. You say that a binman physically assaulted you and a shop worker publicly verbally assaulted you because of something that was put on the internet? Did you see what was written? Did it have your photo on there?

Yes I have read the whole thread and every post is just a new rabbit hole.

People are vile. I am not for one minute suggesting that this stuff didn't happen to you, all that I am saying is that the way you are interpreting it and lumping it all together as though it is one single entity specifically targeting you is what is making it sound hard to fathom.

Why would anyone target you? Is there a reason or a motive?

The thing with your sister saying someone said something about you...I mean, people gossip about other people all the time. What has been a harmless remark has now been taken and turned into another part of this saga. So while it starts out with very real and awful attacks on you, it soon becomes diluted with all these other non issues and that is when you begin to sound mentally unwell. IYSWIM.

I fear that there is nothing really any of us can say that will help you because every suggestion here is being met with a response from you. You could do the counsellors job etc...that screams overinflated ego tbh.

If you truly believe that this situation is entirely outside of your control, and you are not willing to take control of your response to it what do you want people to say?

How are you this evening?
Please may I ask if you have had any trauma around the time this all started?

OP I don't believe anyone stole your passwords, or tampered with your electrical equipment or put key loggers onto your computer or any of that other nonsense. I work in IT and have done for nearly 20 yrs and this stuff only goes on in films - it doesn't happen in real life the way you are telling us, it really doesn't.

I would be 99.9% certain that the person that doing all this knows you very well, as in sees you every day, then lies to your face. No one can get all this information and post it online without knowing you - it would need someone with a huge number of friends in a huge number of places to get all the information you are speaking about.

OP, can you write up a concise, factual, non emotive timeline of what you think has happened to you? I think you should try that and show it to either your GP or the police

Your thoughts seem very disorganised - a bin man pushed you over. Why? How did he know you? What did you do afterwards? Your talk of keyloggers and electronic devices being interfered with - again who would do that? What do you think is the purpose of this stalking?

You seem overwhelmed and in need of support. Please see your GP as soon as you can

A while back I watched a program on online stalking. It was an unbelievable story. Something like the op is telling. It drove the girl ill. They could tell who it was. In the end, it turned out to be the girl's boyfriend. I can't remember the name of the program but it was terrifying and it was also shocking when it turned out to be the boyfriend as he was the last person she suspected.

Couldn't tell.

Yes I remember that programme. He was supporting her with her distress but it was him all along.

In your case op, I can't see how it is one person doing all these things. Is it possible that these are all separate incidents involving completely different people?

Yes that the one Hell

Op so many people have given you many good suggestions. And I think writing a timeline with some screenshots will help posters give you specific advices. I am really sorry I can't be much of a help but am listening to you and I can understand whether real or perceived, how demoralising this all is to you especially when you aren't physically and mentally well and have a young family to take care of too.

It's unfortunately quite common for a person who is suffering mental distress to suffer abuse at the same time. Sometimes there is a malevolent individual behind some of the abuse, but the victim begins to see enemies everywhere and percieve various minor everyday irritations (a rude shop assistant, or some tosser shouting a random insult in the street) as part of an organised hate campaign: equally, there are people who find it funny to further harass someone who is clearly unwell and struggling.
I knew someone who was suffering mental health problems and complained of being stalked and persecuted. In her case it was a combination of a couple of unpleasant individuals who were harassing her, to an extent, but also her own mental health problems had her convinced of some terrible network of enemies, who did not exist in anything like the numbers she believed.

Very wise, SGB

On a point of detail, i thought that you had to have actual physical access to a computer to install a keylogger. That it can't be done remotely?

OP I have read through the thread and taking the trauma history you mention and your aspie status, the disjointed posts do start to make more sense - I think some of the posts about seeking GP support are an idea, if only to help you manage the stress and isolation that you are experiencing.

People can honestly be vile, I'm so sorry you're being so viciously bullied. I can't offer any new advice; just to go to your GP, take your diary to the police and focus on your family.

One thing worth noting is that the likelihood is that this is someone you know. The length and depth, and lack of other attacks (for example, financial/monetary fraud) don't point to the kind of sophisticated IT attacks you mentioned. If it were me, I'd try to flush the person out by giving different people different information and seeing what made it's back to you.

Hope you get this sorted x