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To chuck water over 'D'P?

435 replies

FringyFringe · 16/03/2017 00:26

DP went out after work and said he'd be back late. I didn't sleep well last night so went to bed early.

He came in at 10.30pm and woke me up to watch a film with him. I didn't wake up right away, he whipped the bedsheets off me, tickled me then got a cold can from the fridge and put it against my skin repeatedly.

We do wind each other up alot and once I'd got over my initial 'just woken up' grumpiness I did see the funny side. I went to make us something to eat and when I came out of the kitchen the fucker was in bed, zonked.

I've taken the duvet and the pillows off the bed and he still hasn't moved.

WIBU to chuck a glass of water on him? I'm wide awake now after my sleep earlier and for no good reason Angry

OP posts:
HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 16/03/2017 06:15

OP if this thread is still here in the morning (I'm not in the UK) I hope you are ok.

Cheby · 16/03/2017 06:16

FFS. Suspect troll, report thread, don't post on thread to that effect. It's not a difficult rule to follow. Are you all expecting a prize for being the ones who spotted it if you are right?

If you don't want to take posts at face value, then just don't post.

southall · 16/03/2017 06:23

If you don't want to take posts at face value, then just don't post

Even if you take the thread at face value, how can you not point out the purpose of the thread and initial replies?

Gallavich · 16/03/2017 06:23

I'm finding it really hard to reconcile the description of a usually kind and loving relationship with the 'pranks' you play on each other.
Waking your partner up by pulling blankets off and holding cold cans against their skin is vile behaviour. I can't imagine why you thought it was funny or acceptable? Then you thought it was ok to throw water on him? The whole parameters of your relationship are way off.
It seems like you and he are mildly abusive to each other on a regular basis and this has paved the way for him to come out and be properly abusive.
Nice people who like each other don't treat each other the way you both behaved even before he assaulted you.

skerrywind · 16/03/2017 06:27

I'm finding it really hard to reconcile the description of a usually kind and loving relationship with the 'pranks' you play on each other.
Waking your partner up by pulling blankets off and holding cold cans against their skin is vile behaviour. I can't imagine why you thought it was funny or acceptable? Then you thought it was ok to throw water on him? The whole parameters of your relationship are way off.
It seems like you and he are mildly abusive to each other on a regular basis and this has paved the way for him to come out and be properly abusive.
Nice people who like each other don't treat each other the way you both behaved even before he assaulted you.

Totally agree with this 100%

picklemepopcorn · 16/03/2017 06:29

What they said! ^^

southall · 16/03/2017 06:31

I'm finding it really hard to reconcile the description of a usually kind and loving relationship with the 'pranks' you play on each other.

Not hard to reconcile.

I think the OP and partner are quite immature. acting like how children, brothers and sister sometime act.

And sometimes, often, those pranks turn violent, at least my kids do end up fighting when a pranks goes wrong.

iwantthegroundtoswallowmeup · 16/03/2017 06:37

You both sound ridiculous.

BeesAreStinging · 16/03/2017 06:38

It's the bit where OP throws water over her partner then comes back here to report it that just doesn't sit well with me.

notanurse2017 · 16/03/2017 06:45

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Erandel · 16/03/2017 06:46

Sorry op you both sound awful! If this is genuine then I think you need to both discuss what is acceptable and what isn't. Also why did you name change for this thread ?

donajimena · 16/03/2017 06:52

Shock yep

SookiesSocks · 16/03/2017 06:56

What an awful thread.

The posters who encouraged the prank are not to blame.
The OP gave a firm impression that they prank each other all the time and have a "fun" relationship.
The fact he has apparently gone on to assult the OP is not down to them.
He is violent he attacked the OP. He is the only one to blame.

zaalitje · 16/03/2017 06:58

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dailystuck71 · 16/03/2017 07:04

Agreed zaalitje.

ClopySow · 16/03/2017 07:06

If you suspect trolling, report it.

HakeLively · 16/03/2017 07:07

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bloodymaria · 16/03/2017 07:09

It sounds fucked up even before the chucking the water.

LookAtTheFlowersKerry · 16/03/2017 07:11

My ex used to wake me up in similar ways after he'd been out.

He also used to dead arm me 'for a joke', flick me, tickle me until I cried.

It's boundary pushing. And yes, he was also overtly violent eventually.

It's not what a relationship should be like, no matter how you dress it up as funny pranks.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 16/03/2017 07:15

This doesn't sound good at all, from anybody's part. He started off being a dick ( I hate waking up as it is, but if someone woke me up like that I think a few choice words would be leavinf my mouth ) , you responded being a dick and then he escalated it massively.

VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 16/03/2017 07:19

Ah look, the 20/20 hindsight brigade are up. The OP was woken up, she got him back. He then assaulted her. What was a joke became deadly serious. This is not the time to slag the OP off.

OP, I hope you're OK this morning. Do be careful while you're thinking this through.

GeekyWombat · 16/03/2017 07:21

What Gallavich said.

ClarabellCow · 16/03/2017 07:24

Nice people who like each other don't treat each other the way you both behaved even before he assaulted you

I think it is more kind to help op to label the behaviour, than to label her and her partner.

It's not only nice people who deserve support. Being nice doesn't protect you from an abusive relationship. Being nice is very subjective.

LosingDory · 16/03/2017 07:25

I fucking hate troll hunting twats on here...you don't get a special prize if you spot trolls, and if this is genuine then you're just being cunts on a thread where you'd be doing much more harm than good. Just report it and move on

WateryTart · 16/03/2017 07:27

Well said, Dory. I wish MN would ban troll hunters.