To chuck water over 'D'P?

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DP went out after work and said he'd be back late. I didn't sleep well last night so went to bed early.

He came in at 10.30pm and woke me up to watch a film with him. I didn't wake up right away, he whipped the bedsheets off me, tickled me then got a cold can from the fridge and put it against my skin repeatedly.

We do wind each other up alot and once I'd got over my initial 'just woken up' grumpiness I did see the funny side. I went to make us something to eat and when I came out of the kitchen the fucker was in bed, zonked.

I've taken the duvet and the pillows off the bed and he still hasn't moved.

WIBU to chuck a glass of water on him? I'm wide awake now after my sleep earlier and for no good reason

I can't see any marks but my windpipe feels a bit sore. It didn't even hurt at the time really it's more the shock and the look on his face that scared the shit out of me.

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Of course you were shocked! And probably still in shock. I hope ds didn't hear, but no shouting doesn't mean he didn't hear you hit the wall.

I can still see the angry face from the past and it's a fucking shock to the system - the first time isn't the last time, no matter how lovely he might seem the rest of the time.

he gets up, wanders around, checks his phone, talks to me but has no recollection the next day

Seems obvious to me he is going to deny any recollection tomorrow.

Thankfully I hit the wall on the neighbour's side and not DS' bedroom, there really wasn't much noise. I think DS is ok, he'd never imagine anything scary happening so if it woke him he'd probably not be afraid to get up and ask me.

I don't know if he will deny things tomorrow, he has never denied anything before and always owns it and apologises if he's in the wrong. Obviously never been anything close to this before.

I had a wee cry just after it happened but at the moment I feel really calm and clinical about it, if a bit sick, it's freaking me out.

Thankyou all for the replies and support. I'm going to try and close my eyes for a bit even if I don't get any real sleep. I have to function tomorrow all the same.

I'll come back in the morning at some point.

thankyou.

How long before another "prank" goes too far? What will he do then?

I don't think he sounds nice and loving. Personally, I wouldn't appreciate being woken if I had gone to bed anyway and sure as hell wouldn't have got up to to make him food. Oh, and what came later was just way OTT.

Southall I read this thread the same way sadly

Southall I also read the thread the same way. "Just earlier today I had posted under my usual name saying how good things were." Why name change in the first place?

Sadly the thread also does show the anti men bias on this site. I mean if it had been a man who had had wanted advice about throwing water on his wife/partner. He would not have got the same encouragement to do it.

The first bit where he woke you up sounded bullying even before your update. If you can end the relationship you'll be protecting yourself and your child. Good luck.

It's certainly an odd thread that escalated quickly. Chucking cold water over a sleeping person is horrific behaviour, of course no one should be attacked but I can't say I wouldn't jump up and scream if my husband did that to me.

Two wrongs don't make a right but I'm pretty shocked the OP thought lobbing water on a sleeping person was OK behaviour

I wouldn't have encouraged the water thing, that's as much of a dick move as what happened to op in the first place. Rise above it, kip on the sofa if you want space. I'm not anti-men either, just anti anyone pinning someone else up against a wall by the throat. All quite strange.

Those pranks are actually quite aggressive so now it's escalated. I wasn't surprised by that.

How are you this morning OP?

Southall you could of course be right.
Alternatively you could just have easily have called a woman who has just been assaulted a liar, and then talked about "anti-men bias" on her thread talking about it.
Which is really quite cunty, as well as against guidelines, so I've reported your posts.

southall I read this the same way too

Which is really quite cunty, as well as against guidelines, so I've reported your posts.

Well the whole thread was cunty, as the OP was wanting advice about assaulting her partner and other members encouraged her to do so.
This was well before she was assaulted back by her partner.

Oh and i report the OPs original post for be cunty, well before you report my posts for being the same.

southall I would not have gone that far, but I did come on to discourage the op from assaulting her partner. The conversation has moved on somewhat.

I do think, as is often the case here, that gender swap may have generated a different response.

I don't think not pouring water on your partner would be considered walking on eggshells, but I would have considered him waking you up in such a brutish way for his own company was a red flag.

Did you name change because you knew something about this relationship isn't right, op? Why were you so positive about your relationship earlier on - who were you convincing?

I cannot believe people encouraged you to throw water on your sleeping partner. What an utterly arsey thing to do.

His reaction needs no comment. It's criminal.

That took a turn.

southall my thoughts exactly.

Well clearly something needs deleting here - either the troll hunting or the trolling. I'll leave that for MNHQ to decide.