Please can I have perspective on these texts from H

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Hi. Name changed.

Not a loaded question I just need outside perspective on the way my H talks to me (this is common but not all the time).

Thanks in advance.

Oh and disrespectful and rude

You need to leave him. He is a cunt. When you eat a shit sandwich, you're still eating shit. Plan carefully to prevent him executing his plan to shaft you.

My DH is terminally messy. I'm not. But I just accept that's who he is. Occasionally it drives me up the wall, then we both tackle it together. So even if you are the messiest person in the world, no need to speak to you like that.

He's a fucking prick, is what I sincerely think

And he can't spell.

Unless you specified the money from the house bring his when you bought it it's a joint asset as you are married. Definitely get legal advice he does not know what he is talking about. Call his bluff say a divorce sounds like a good idea!

Also agree with countrygirl I would want to correct it.

I would also advise that you go and see a solicitor.

Rules of life number 12 - the cupboard under the stairs is for filling up with crap.

I'm literally allergic to people who say effecting when they mean affecting. I wouldn't speak to them like that though. I would sit down with him and say "its really not acceptable to speak to me like this but we clearly need to have a serious discussion about whether our marriage is worth saving." If he carries on in this manner then I would ltb.

Wow. If my DP sent me a text like that, forget wellies. I'd be using the cupboard under the stairs to store his body.

Joke obviously.

But on a serious note- he sounds utterly mad. And abusive.

What is he like to live with more generally?

I'm assuming a divorce is right at the top of my your list of wants?! It should be, how dare he speak to you like that

This man is a total asshole. You could be the world's messiest person & it still wouldn't be ok to talk to you like that.

You've wasted too much of your life on him. Get out. Your name's on the house, you're the kids' mother - he won't be keeping everything.

And the 'messy chavyness' reveals a lot about his general superior attitude. How dare he speak to anyone like that? Let alone the person who he's meant to love and support the most.

I have been with my DH for nearly 30 years and he has never ever spoken to me in that way.

IME men who think tidying and keeping the house clean is women's work (even if that woman works as well) don't tend to view childcare as men's work either. I'd bet my pension he doesn't fight for his children.

What a nasty, cuntish, pathetic little man.

Get legal advice and get out. Your marital joint assets are jointly yours. Good luck.

Cunt.

HTH.

What a tool. You can't be 'allergic' to messy chavvyness. Dick!

And why is the cupboard your responsibility? Is nothing in it his? Does he pull his weight round the house?

Areas. Disrespectful, rude, horrible text. I wouldn't put up with being spoken to like that, and nor should you.

Could you post it on his Facebook page to show everyone what a dick he is, and how he talks to you? I'd be tempted.

Arse, not areas!

How can you live with and love someone who treats you like this?!

What a see-you-next-Tuesday; you're his possession, not his partner.

Wanker.

I'd leave him for the spelling mistakes alone.

He even got his choice of emoji wrong.

I just showed this text to my DH for his opinion.
He thinks this man is unhinged.
My own opinion is - I'm not sure what my opinion is yet
except it's really, really not normal.
But keep the texts, they could become important.

You have to be a superior bread of twat, to do that by text

Wow, just wow. I'd be out of the door :( (or him out) if he spoke to me like that.

It's really, really not normal

^That, right there, is what I was struggling with. In our relationship, or at least approx. 35% of it, that is absolutely normal.

He does sound unhinged and quite thick. Sorry, I know that's harsh, but in contrast you sound measured and articulate. I can't imagine you, in a temper sending that.

Within the past week (verbatim quotes as much as my memory serves): "You're dumb", "I'm smarter than you," "I know what you're going to say so don't bother, I know you better than you know yourself, you'll argue but it's true."