Please can I have perspective on these texts from H

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Hi. Name changed.

Not a loaded question I just need outside perspective on the way my H talks to me (this is common but not all the time).

Thanks in advance.

I saw the solicitor. She was utterly lovely. She put my mind at rest about the "I'll take your kids and house/see you in court" narrative too. She said her first priority is to put me in touch with someone to talk to about how this is affecting me. I realised how much I need that. She said take a while and think it all over then we can prepare the petition if that is what I choose.

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to reply.

I know what I have to do. It's just such a huge scary and irreversible step.

I've also asked MNHQ to delete the screenshots now so they are not there for posterity. Felt too risky.

Flowery - I understand your point of view. I really do. But he has been this way for years. The 'you're a messy chav' is just one theme (others are: selfish, bad mother, stupid, illogical, bad with money, doesn't contribute to family - I pay all bills and the food -and not driven enough)

Oh I am so glad that you've got some momentum now, OP. Good luck to you!

Thanks Yoda. I really appreciate your replies

So glad you got legal advice. Onwards .

Well done op
Keep reaching out for help.

They're all the same OP. No matter what you do its never good enough is it? He's an utter bastard.

Well done for finding out your options Op....the very best of luck to you.

I've just read through, good luck OP, I think you would be much better off without him, you deserve to be treated with love and respect and any man would be lucky to have you as a partner

OP I'm glad the solicitor you saw was able to put your mind at ease. As others have said, sadly it seems your DH is a bully and not the man you thought/believed/hoped he was.

I bet he suddenly becomes super nice now - he'll get wind of/notice that you've detached slightly - and it will make you start doubting yourself. Although divorce is a very big step and you will rightly feel nervous about going down that route, remember this when he's being oh-so-nice all of a sudden: the only way that he will change long term is if he gets some kind of counselling specifically to address his behaviour towards you, and he is committed to changing.

You and your children deserve a life without eggshells.

Thanks Chinup. I have yet another incident that has been duly recorded now. I'm keeping a record as suggested and it already feels positive.

The next step will be to tell some trustworthy people in RL.

Good. Have you got any candidates to tell? Hope so.