Dating thread 114 - come and join us!

[WavingNotDrowning]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

I would definitely say so, yes. Maybe Guardian daters would disagree however!

I want one!!!

How did a Trump supporter get through?

Very intrigued by the pink pushy hat!
Ooh ooh I have a dashing man on okcupid who wants to be Ted to my Sylvia, but without the tragic consequences. As a literature and poetry geek that floats my proverbial boat.

Pussy hat! Not pushy. Obvs

education we were to together seven years, he was always a bit right wing and a bit of a knob, but when Trump turned up and he decided he "deserved a chance" that plus voting for Brexit was the beginning of the end.

I am considering wearing the pph round the house, just to annoy him!

It is the Guardian readers who would approve of the pph.

OTGY
Well - as I have heard say on here when I lurked - 'Next!' ...

outto I like the pph. Made me smile.

I'm a bit fed up this evening. I've been asked to provide an informal photo of myself for something. The only ones I have are the selfies I took for my OLD profile. There are no other photos of me. I know I could ask a friend to take one for me but it's made me realise how much I miss having someone special in my life. Especially as the last guy I was seeing didn't like have photos of us together (made sense when I found out about the cheating)

Well, of course my phone was playing up. It always is. Now back in contact. But the question remains... why would he delete his profile? Or did the website delete his profile for sending dodgy messages to other women?

Right, well, I've found a new OLD thing to obsess over.

RunnnyMummy Careful. Any selfies I use for OLD never get used for anything else. Remember, you can image search these days - you might not want an OLD match finding you on LinkedIn, for example. (She says as a big hypocrite, having stalked most of her potential dates to LinkedIn before to make sure they haven't been lying about what they do or how old they are.)

Pringle
The man I went to meet on Friday 'unliked' me in the afternoon - before meeting me! But still turned up

Pringle That is also quite bizarre. I've been unmatched after meeting someone, but not before!

Damn phone. I obviously meant educationforlife, I'm not talking to myself.

That's very good advice about the images, pringlecat. Keep them separate.

Well after a slow few days due to raging man flu and general malaise, I should really check back in and give an update of my own...

Have moved from chatting on OKC to whatsapping an iron, lets call her Miss Portugal... Things are going well and we both want to meet, but only have Tuesday free this week so might be tricky till next week.

One spanner in the works is that my ex ( we broke up because we couldn't solve logistical problems, not because we didn't love each other ) got back in touch last night with a "fat fingers" moment on WhatsApp and we've been chatting all day. She really is my jigsaw piece, but we've given it a couple of goes and just couldn't seem to compromise enough to make a permanent go of it.

I'm also seeing another iron, who I've known for a while, but her situation is complicated and she is still living with her husband ( been living separately for more than two years, but not had the finances to sort this till now. She's getting things moving, but I as there are kids involved for both of us, we really don't see enough of each other to consider trying to make it more serious so I think I need to do the right thing there.

I think that's enough for me to be going along with right now ! :)

One final question. Is there a secret handshake we use when we meet someone to make sure we don't "date the thread" ? ;-) I'm dating in London and my home town and noticed a few people on here in London...

RLD.

My Linked In one is different but the POF one is on fb but my account is locked down. I have a pic of me as a baby on Twitter that doesn't appear anywhere else.

Out on my date. Funny and very talkative. Don't fancy her at all. Happily getting pissed though

Rockluvvindad Ha! Well, I think we'd all like to think that those of us on this thread are the "normal" ones and many of the date we've collectively had have been with people who are anything but...

I can picture it now, two of us on this thread posting loo updates at the same time and the penny dropping... Think it's unlikely though.

OutToGetYou You can't hide FB pictures these days, so I would be tempted to change, no matter how flattering. I set up a fake FB account specifically for Bumble to avoid the two linking together.

Bant Ah, that's a shame given how far you travelled. Hope you have a pleasant enough evening though.

EFL I'm thinking he could have done that by accident? I have made many a fat fingered mistake online!

perfectly possible Dieu - but he hasn't rectified it - not that I am worried - it's a very strange world

Sorry, I didn't mean they can't match it up, I know they can, though they'd have to try them all as the POF main one is not my fb one, another one is. But once they've found me all they can see is my name. What's bad about that?

education yes that's happened to me. The cynic in me says the messages are from the site bots trying to reel me back in. A bit like when you browse before joining and see all the great men, then you join and theyve gone!

I'd take a look at your profile but Im having a break so not registered with any at the moment.

well I've been dedicating some time to GSM and now have 3 likes! woo.

been messaging the guy I was meant to be seeing this evening. He'll regret being flaky! (i must remember I am meant to be out somewhere else actually).

Rockluvvin dad which sites are you on? what age are you? (not trying to stalk you, just avoid you!).

drank too many gins and had a little sleep (I know how to party).

WWS You mean all the messages that 'appeared' on Match the very day my subscription ended? Yup - my reaction was riiigght like I so believe that there are suddenly men interested in me after months of nothing - not!

Marking my place on the new thread.
After meeting long standing tinder date early last week, not heard from him since polite lovely evening text. I was slightly more enthusiastic in mine so assume he did not like me. Shame and bloody typical as he was the first of about 5 recent first dates I have had that I did fancy.
Have a couple of others I am chatting to who seem nice but getting a bit fed up. Shitty weekend too of my daughter being a pita which just exacerbates the feeling of being on my own. Know I need to pull myself together and just get on with it and out there meeting as many irons as possible but wish I could press fast forward to someone I have a real connection with not so many mediocre dates.