Dating thread 114 - come and join us!

[WavingNotDrowning]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

pringle yes I am genuinely into outdoor stuff like cycling skiing scuba diving and so is the guy I've met in fact that is the gist of his profile. However I thought he would still prefer someone who scrubs up well and likes getting dressed up but he says not, unless it's all BS!

Has anybody ever ended up in a LTR with someone they were emotionally involved with after just one week? I really feel like we are soulmates but we only met in the flesh just over a week ago although we have exchanged literally hundreds of messages

That sounds very exciting justme hope it continues to be fun!
What site are you using?
I, too, am based in London.
Yes there has been many a discussion on MN and in the press about how the older men get, the younger the women they are looking at for.
So a 55-year-old man would be saying he is looking for a 35-year-old woman - but actually looking at 25-year-olds.
Thinking of becoming a cat lady.

Match has has a tendency to promote profiles when a sub is ending hence you'll find tons of views/winks most of it is pure scam. All of the match parent co dating sites run on the same basis think OK Stupid/Match/POF & at least 100 affiliated sites they simply want paid subs.

Justme the texts are absolutely no indication of how things will go. Only real life can provide that. Sorry . You already sound super invested, and I would try to hold back a little at this stage, so as to protect yourself a bit. Easier said than done, I know.

EFL I would be happy to review your profile, if you feel that would help.

ps at the moment, there is no one who attracts me even slightly on GSM - and a whole load of profiles that seem to have been there for years.
But Match felt stressful - and kept asking me for more money. It felt like a scam. but that might be me.

Dieu I know I am totally OI but either he is also OI or he is the biggest con artist going and I don't know how or when I'm going to be able to tell the difference.
For example he claims to be divorced but how can I know whether or not that is true? We can't go back to each other's homes (at this point anyway) as we both have DC at home albeit mine are both teenagers his a little older.

EFL I think GSM is one of the worse sites for older men looking for younger women.

I liked someone who's 50 who had put 40 as his upper age limit (I'm 46). It's a kind of protest on my part. And when I meet these men they always look so crap for their age. My last bf who I met online had lied about his age - h3 was 51 at the time - and said he was 46. He looked at least 55! (yes, I should have taken it as a red flag, but I thought it was funny). Anyway, the new guy has liked me back. I'm going to message him now (gin is involved).

WND looking forward to hearing about the gin messaging.

It looks like you can't do anything on Match without paying. Maybe I'll do that in the future.

education get some make up on and do a tin of selfies, you don't have to show them to anyone, but choose one you like, or better still ask a friend which is best. Do your hair a bit differently and wear different tops and see which looks best. All mine are selfies (though taken for fb, mainly to show friend new hairstyle, new glasses, band T shirt, pink pussy hat etc), and I loathe having my photo taken and especially doing selfies, but just do loads til you get one you're happy with.

Justme there is no way to tell for now. It takes time to truly get the measure of someone.

EFL I really liked your profile! It was casual and laidback, interesting, something a wee bit different (I liked the random facts about you). The only thing I'd maybe do, is to change "I talk about politics too much' to 'I have a keen interest in politics, and look forward to discussing with you'.

I could only see one photo (as I haven't paid to subscribe) and it was fine, but possibly a bit blurry.

Yay! new thread. But it already has so many messages!

I said the "love" word to my Mr Overseas this weekend. Re responded positively, but said he wasn't going to say the same to me just yet - because he didn't want it to sound like a response to me.He said he will find his own way to say it or express it. I am looking forward to that moment.

This is after about 2 months - that's ok isn't it? But almost all of that has been apart. But we talk or chat every day and I know more about him that nearly anyone I know. But I have my fingers crossed for April - he is trying to arrange a visit.

Age...I have had a 25 year old who signed up to POF as a 40 year old because he thought older women were hot and good in the sack.(actually he might be right!).
But why would an older man search out a very young woman. I just don't get it. To be fair i am not interested in the type of man who would do that, but I still don't know why. is it pure ego - because surely an attractive woman of your own age is as much of an ego boost.

Mr Overseas is 5 years younger than me - but I don't really think about it.

*ton of selfies. You can put them in a tin if you want.

Thanks OTGY Problem is, I don't know what I am aiming for. I think I look like me in the photos - not quite sure what I should be doing.

Education You might wanna report your post and have it deleted I don't know its wise to post dating sites names on a public forum.

I thought that Ciaovenora but really, anyone could find it on that particular dating site anyway. Same with any of the freebies, as no paywall to protect you.

Thanks - reported anyway. Probably safer.
If anyone wants to take a look in the meantime ...

I did comment above!

Thanks Dieu very kind to take the time. Yes - I thought that about politics ... Might take it out completely. Then my conversation would come as a shock

These 55 plus year old men who want a younger woman are deluded. I'm 36 and would not be interested in anyone over 45.

Can one even talk about politics "too much"?

And, on the same note, should I put up the photo of myself in the pink pussy hat...?

pink pussy hat?

www.pussyhatproject.com/

Obvs a bit political. But, what's the point of meeting a Trump supporter (when I have just dumped one)?