Dating thread 114 - come and join us!

[WavingNotDrowning]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

I wouldn't bother. She will still be shooting for more. Not just that, if she gets with someone else she will vanish anyway.

you're probably right info

That's the problem with lots of whatsapp messaging. They've got to be amusing and interesting enough to meet, but then when you meet but don't fancy them and it's back to the drawing board..

Seems like a waste. I have good female friends. Quite a few, in fact. But going from potential girlfriend to friend zoning someone..

Bugger..

Pet hate on Tinder. No response to message but not unmatched. Or worse. A couple of messages then quiet but not unmatched.

I have three of these so I thought I'd give them a reminder. Offered coffee or unmatch. And now I have a coffee date with one. Not heard from the other two.

I've stayed friends with a guy I dated bit didn't fancy, bant. He's a really good, supportive close friend. I know he would've wanted more, but he has never ever overstepped the boundaries and I'm glad I met him. So it can work.

I have a bad history with girls as friends. I've had three situations where the husband has made them get rid of me completely. Very disappointing. Two cases of having it offered on a plate but they were married so no thanks.

Also, had multiple situations of 'good' female friends vanishing when they have got with someone. One told me straight out that she wouldn't be able to come see me anymore because her boyfriend wouldn't like it.

All disappointing ^

That is a shame info. There is no way I'd get rid of my male friends for anyone.

Hi All

Thought i'd finally contribute..

I've been reading the online dating thread for the last 6 months!

Met 3 guys via online dating in recent times.. all 3 were positive experiences, one was a nice guy but no spark and I told him I didn't want to meet for date 2, one turned into a short term relationship and the 3rd.. interesting guy but not what i'd want long-term..

Will continue to enjoy reading..

I've got a good female friend who I've known for 20 odd years, we went to each other's weddings, and got divorced at the same time (unrelated) - and now her new boyfriend gets jealous of me, so wants her to stop meeting up with me every couple of months.

Small, petty man.

But I've never successfully turned an online date into a friend. I tried to keep in touch but.. meeting up is weird once you've been through that hopeful first meeting.

Facebook friends, well that's different. But not real-life friends. People are generally too busy, and focused on trying to date when they have free time

Tonight is 1st date night with Mr Tall .....after all my moaning about short guys I'm really trying to look forward to it but I can't help but wish it was with my other Iron who I can't see till next weekend but I feel a much stronger connection to.

Gah....hopefully thinking about tonight will stop me getting too OI in my other one tho.

Maybe not being that keen is the way to go.....

RunnyMummy I have a lot of those on Tinder. I usually give it a certain amount of time and then unmatch. I might try your method.

I seem to have swiped every man in my age group in London, there are none left!

pavonia - try changing your max and min age, just a little, then changing it back. It tends to show a whole new bunch of profiles. Same with distance

Thanks Bant, I'll give that a try.

just dipping in (fgs actually having to work at work today!) - I think, for me, that chemistry can develop and isn't necessarily there on the first date. I was just on holiday with a mixed group and didn't like any of the guys particularly at the start. By the end I was quite keen on one of them...

Anyway I have a date with someone who lives in Norway today. Not quite sure why I'm meeting him (he says he's here alot and wants to move here...we'll see). But he's interesting and we've hit it off and maybe I'll have a laugh.

Swiped right on tinder to someone who's in my building this week. Luckily not in my organisation, but we're trying to meet for a drink after work one day.

I haven't been able to check up on any other irons today due to work getting in the way.

hello let'sbrowse and good luck tonight springtime

I have stayed friends with several old dates, some on Facebook and some I text, one has just got engaged. I speak to one that I went on 2 dates with and who I had MB with (it was rubbish which is why there was no 3rd date but he's a nice person and texts me most days), I have another old iron who I message from time to time but we have never met, he lives quite far away but asks if he can come and visit one day.

Mr MOD is still messaging from time to time, I have been quite mean to him and I don't think we will be seeing each other again, I still feel sad about it because when we are together everything is really good.

I am unsure if I want to join POF again, I am still on tinder and bumble but not getting any messages even though I have liked loads of people and matched quite a few. I want to date but I'm not sure if I am strong enough, I'm still in contact with my first iron ( who I found a bit boring ) and he has asked if I want to meet up, I am tempted but I don't know if I find him atractive enough.

Old iron has popped up. He went on a brief date with me last year but I got back with my ex. He's moving to Canada in six months but we are going on a date. He said he really fancied me, which is a nice ego boost, as I'm exhausted and feel like something the cat dragged in. I'm not sure I was hugely keen on him but I guess it's worth a try.
Then I am trying to find time to see my bumble date who lives quite far away but is v cute and looks a bit italian.
Then there's lawyer for Friday.

Waving - you are doing what I did. Mr overseas was here for two weeks when i met him - then he returned back to where he lives. yes, he comes here a few times a year - but not nearly enough for me.

But it has worked. We message every day and have become incredibly close. So it can work.

But i would kill for Mr overseas to live in Norway rather than 24 hours away!

waving I'm, impressed at how you manage to fit in so many dates ! I was trying to arrange something with Miss Portugal today and the best we could come up with was a week on Friday ! Between now and then, I don't have a night free... Maybe I shouldn't be dating at all

On the bright side I have now swiped every woman on tinder within 6km of Islington between the ages of 39 and 50

Oh, and had the dubious distinction of just reporting an profile on OKC because it seemed full of picture of girls that if I was being generous were 16... Actually made me feel a bit disturbed seeing it. Started with a normal ( though probably bogus ) pic then followed up with increasingly younger pictures

Can I join? Been single just over 6 months. Been on 2 Tinder dates. Tried other sites but they scared the living daylights out of me. I have my kids full time at the moment and no family nearby so it's hard to get out (Fridays date cost me £45 in a babysitter 😞)

Hi sooper - which sites did you try?

rock that sounds horrible. So many scam artists and weird fetish sites on OD sites..

Welcome Sooper.

So after a hour of swiping on tinder and bumble, trawling through photos of men with their girlfriend/wife's in their photos and a photo of a man with a cut on his head ( obviously knows how to attract a woman ), I eventually got a match on bumble and I have been brave and sent a message.
I also had 5 matches on tinder but haven't messaged any of them.

I struggle to find time to date, it's hard to get a baby sitter in the evenings and I work every other weekend.

Rld you haven't swiped right on me!

Coming back from my date. It was ok. He was very laconic (I think is the right word)

I got a bit bored but I quite wanted to have sex with him!

I need to get out more I think

Out with friends tomorrow night

Then possible 2 dates on weds and the ex on Thursday! I'm packing them in this week.,

Ooh I like the word laconic. Sounds like you fancied him then, waving. Do you think you'll see him again?

I'd be worn out WND!

I have a date with tomorrow with the guy from Friday. I've only had one date with him and I'm thinking 'where is this going?' What is wrong with me?